i want to cry

delhome

i have been with my oh for nearly 4yrs.over crimbo he has made no effort to do anthing. I have bought presents,wrapped got turkey u name it ive done the lot.my daughter thinks the sun shines out of his ****. I have had a few beers 2nite and my daughter is having a go and my oh is making a bloody curry
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goonieman

Well at least he's doing something!!

Guinea_2

Sounds like my other half! Isn't it just a man thing? You either learn to love him like that or get rid of him. Your choice! My OH promised to clean the bathroom four weeks ago if I washed the car. Since then I have washed the car twice, cleaned the kitchen four times, hoovered and dusted four times, changed the bedding twice, washed the dog twice, cooked dinner twenty times, made his lunch at least ten times, picked up the dog poop in the garden about four times, fed the dog twice a day since then, ironed the clothes four times, done the washing at least four times a week, been 'nice' to him, held down a full timejob and numerous other things and I am STILL waiting for the bathroom to be cleaned. His excuse is that he works nights. What he fails to remember is that for the past five weeks actually he has only worked two days a week as he had to book holidays before the end of the year. Oh yes, and I have been food shopping, bought the Christmas presents, wrapped them and written and sent the Christmas cards. We have been together nearly eight years now. I'm sort of getting used to it actually. But...I will NOT clean the bl**dy bathroom!

ambernora

I have the same problem with my man. I almost wrapped up some bin bags for christmas so that he could pack his things but he started to imrove a few days before christmas. Although he's now starting to creep back to his old lazy ways

WELSH-DRAGON_2

My OH is abit like that too - maybe it's a man thing, his mum did everything for him and he thought it would be the same with me.

I had this wonderful picture in my head that Christmas day lunch with my folks would be perfect, with carols playing, fantastic food and lots of laughter. In reality it was nothing like that ! Maybe I was expecting too much and maybe it's the same with men, if they haven't helped through the year, why would they change just because it's Christmas.

Big hug - Welshy x

CFC

Men are like dogs.

You either train them patiently with rewards and kindness, or you've got a nasty one and you either castrate em, put em down, or rehome em to someone who'll put up with em.

:rotfl:

Crazychik

My EX used to be like that, I remember one Christmas, he invited his sister & b/f, grandparents & mate from work, for dinner & tea. I was 7 months pregnant, Had to do all the food shopping, prepare & cook for the day, after dinner, they all fell asleep, and left me chatting to his Nan. (lovely lady) but does the phrase come into mind "shut the fcuk up" and let me rest.

My OH is brill, he helps with the kids, does the shopping, help with prep, plays santa. Couldn't ask for anyone better!

youngie

have you actually sat down with him and calmly explained how you feel if his mum did everything for xmas when he lived at home he might sort of assume you want and like to do it all its no good droping hints he's a man spell it out to him even better involve him write to do lists for both of you and encourage him to do his don't go over board but you might find with gentle explaination and encouragement he might actually enjoy joining in the preparations

Dumyat

thats men for you. my OH thinks he helps out in the house...and to be fair he does. but only a short list of things. he will load the washing machine, the dishwasher and since I bought one of those super duper steam irons he has done most of the ironing. (wish I had bought one sooner - it was expensive but I would have paid twice as much if I realised how much he would enjoy using it )
he has never cleaned a bathroom, washed windows, changed beds, never had the hoover upstairs.....
when he does the shopping I am summoned to inspect what he has bought

at christmas I am left doing all the preparations too. what upsets me is the lack of recognition for what I do. I often say I am going to go on strike and then maybe he will realise what I do. I havent had a mothers day present for years, no birthday presents/cards, but this christmas I did get a necklace which he told me how much it cost and how it will get him out of buying me anything for ages....

elona

How about a huge notice board divided into two sections and entitled-

I did ...........these jobs .....and then at some stage in the future I hope You did........


Made dinner


shopped

Washed clothe

Ironed


Bought presents

Wrapped presents

Hoovered

Cleaned kitchen

Washed dishes

Baked cakes or bread

Took rubbish out


Cleaned bathroom

etc.

etc.

etc.

rose_sparky

Doesn't it make you wonder what Christmas would be like if there were no women in this world?