mother refuses dna test?

heretolearn_2

I can't help wondering if really he is the father but is happy to be getting away with no responsibility etc, and just saying he would do DNA but she won't.

I know you want to believe him but, really, a woman you just have a one night stand with turns up pregnant and you just trot off to the registrar with her to get your name put on the birth certificate as the father even though the dates don't work out right. Sorry, but who is going to do that?

And tell him to use condoms on one night stands. Next time it could be a woman turn up with a diagnosis of HIV+. Did he go for STD tests after this unprotected sex?

Jinx

I would do the 'unofficial' DNA test knowing its fairly accurate. If it proves negative and if the OPs brother doesnt want to be this childs father then I would pursue it to have the name taken off the birth certificate and a court recognised DNA test. If it was positive then he would know hes the father.......

FBaby

He should do a private one first then he should apply to the court so they order her to do a dna test, including herself, so that result stands in court. If he isn't the dad, he should be request that his name is legally taken out of birth certificate, if he is the dad, he has the court on his side to request visitation rights.

Mojisola

The problem is that he doesn't have access to the child to do a private test.

Jinx

Im sure the mother will come round and there will be an opportunity for a test, she clearly wants a dad for her child.

DX2

Lets hope he has plenty of money then! 2 x DNA testing and court fees.

Jinx

DX2 wrote: »

Lets hope he has plenty of money then! 2 x DNA testing and court fees.

Less than 18 years maintenance money and incidental/accidentals money for a child plus the emotional support....

clearingout

DX2 wrote: »

Lets hope he has plenty of money then! 2 x DNA testing and court fees.

Could probably get away with self-repping if he's sticking with the 'one night stand' theory. Try Families Need Fathers.

Re: dates not adding up. Is he sure? Does he know how to date a pregnancy? Did the pregnancy go full-term? My ex convinced himself that pregnancys date from the date of conception rather than date of last period on which basis, our third child couldn't be his. I gave him the opportunity for a DNA test but he didn't go through with it!

As for mum's reaction, playing devil's advocate, could it be that she is entirely horrified at the suggestion there is potentially another father and is digging her heels in? It is really, really rotten to be accused of sleeping around (probably even if you were!) and have doubt cast on your integrity in that way. She may come round once she's had time to realise the implications of denying the test.

mrbrightside842

He's going to have to see a solicitor either way. If she's not letting him have access to the child and he wants access, he's going to need to seek legal help. Whilst he's there, he can mention the whole DNA thing and get better advice.

kelloggs36

19lottie82 wrote: »

he wishes she would make a claim through CSA, then at least he could get a dna test!

As his name is on the birth cert, the CSA can presume parentage and will refuse a DNA test.