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mother refuses dna test?

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  • 19lottie82
    19lottie82 Posts: 6,033 Forumite
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    Cerisa wrote: »
    I would have thought it counted in her favour that she hasn't asked for money. It shows at least that she has no financial motivation to lie.
    if she asks for money he can legally request a dna test, does this not seem a bit fishy?
  • dirtysexymonkey
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    i hope your brothers been paying 15% of his income into a savings account so he can pay the backdated maintenance if it turns out he is the father. if not then at least hell have savings to fall back on!
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  • RAS
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    dirtysexymonkey wrote: »
    i hope your brothers been paying 15% of his income into a savings account so he can pay the backdated maintenance if it turns out he is the father. if not then at least hell have savings to fall back on!

    He will not be liable for CSA until she makes a claim. Then he become laible for any money due between the date of her claim and the date they contact him; he is not laible for arrears prior to her contact with the CSA.
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • 19lottie82
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    he wishes she would make a claim through CSA, then at least he could get a dna test!
  • savingmummy
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    Is she giving a reason as to why she wont do one?
    It is a simple swab test nothing invasive to worry about unless she is worried he ISN`T the father!

    I would try and talk with her to get one and if she still wont then do one yourself! As it stands he is `currently` the father SO he can take the child to his own GP if nessesary and enquire about it/get it done.
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  • delain
    delain Posts: 7,700 Forumite
    19lottie82 wrote: »
    he wishes she would make a claim through CSA, then at least he could get a dna test!

    He could, if he wanted to, contact the CSA himself and say he wants to pay. I imagine once the operator picks him/herself up off the floor they will be happy to help him.
    Mum of several with a twisted sense of humour and a laundry obsession :o:o
  • Mrs_Arcanum
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    He could see if he can get his name taken off the birth certificate as he has no proof he is the father.
    Truth always poses doubts & questions. Only lies are 100% believable, because they don't need to justify reality. - Carlos Ruiz Zafon, The Labyrinth of the Spirits
  • dirtysexymonkey
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    RAS wrote: »
    He will not be liable for CSA until she makes a claim. Then he become laible for any money due between the date of her claim and the date they contact him; he is not laible for arrears prior to her contact with the CSA.

    he most certaintly is morally!
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  • 19lottie82
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    Mrs_Arcanum wrote: »
    He could see if he can get his name taken off the birth certificate as he has no proof he is the father.
    I dont think it works like that. You need proof that the test is wrong, ie a court approved DNA test. You can get these privately, but you need a sample from the mother.
  • savingmummy
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    19lottie82 wrote: »
    I dont think it works like that. You need proof that the test is wrong, ie a court approved DNA test. You can get these privately, but you need a sample from the mother.

    why do you need a sample of the mother?
    Most tests just test baby and father.
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