mother refuses dna test?

19lottie82

DX2 wrote: »

Not sure if this sort of DNA test would legally stand in court or whether it would be enough to remove parentage from the BC.

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It won't. If you get this kind of test, all the lab is proving is that the 2 samples that you provided are or are not related. They have no proof of where they came from or who they belong to.

Mojisola

19lottie82 wrote: »

he had seen the baby a couple of times but not really, she said she didn't want him in the childs life, after he made it clear that he didn't want a relationship with her.

That makes it difficult for him to do an unofficial DNA test. If he wants to pursue it, he'll probably have to go to court.

It would be worth contacting one of the father's rights groups to get advice.

Everyone has a right to know who their parents are - it's not fair on the child to have someone listed as father who may not be.

DX2

Lottie imho if he is going to do this he needs to do this properly, he may only get one go at it. Forget these internet DNA tests etc, he needs one done that the courts will listen to, he needs one for peace of mind. The not knowing will be eating him up, he needs proper proof, and the best way will be going via the courts, and I'm pretty sure the mother will have to adhere to what the judge says.

19lottie82

Thanks DX, I think he knows this, but we are not sure if a court will grant a DNA test on these grounds, as to do so the test has to be "in the interest of the child" and I'm not sure that his case is strong enough. I guess the only thing for him to do is to see a solicitor.

Thanks for everyones help.

DX2

19lottie82 wrote: »

Thanks DX, I think he knows this, but we are not sure if a court will grant a DNA test on these grounds, as to do so the test has to be "in the interest of the child" and I'm not sure that his case is strong enough. I guess the only thing for him to do is to see a solicitor.

Thanks for everyones help.

But the child needs to know whether your brother is his/her father I think given the circumstances (one night stand) the judge may well be sympathetic.

As someone else mentioned before have a look around other sites, like families needs fathers, father's for justice etc. You may pick up some more advice which could save on the solicitor fees. Good luck.

jungle_jane

At the end of the day there is an innocent child involved in this who has a right to know who its father is (or isn't). That child should be allowed to have a relationship with its father regardless of how the mother may feel. Denying this to the child is not in its best interests and i am sure that the court of law would agree. I think the legal route is the only option.

I assume that - if the child is his - he would want to play a part in his/her life? Even if he doesn't, the child still has a right to know the details of his or her heritage. They have a right to know the medical history of their parent and they should really be told if they have brothers/sisters in future.

It's sad that a mum would deny her child this. Very selfish.

SavingPennies_2

Sounds to me like she knows he isnt the father, but wanted to use the baby as a way to get a relationship with him. Theres not other explanation for her cutting contact when he said he didnt want a relationshp and her getting angry at the suggestion of a DNA test which she probably knows will be negative.

19lottie82

SavingPennies wrote: »

Sounds to me like she knows he isnt the father, but wanted to use the baby as a way to get a relationship with him. Theres not other explanation for her cutting contact when he said he didnt want a relationshp and her getting angry at the suggestion of a DNA test which she probably knows will be negative.

I didn't want to come straight out and say it, but that's what we think is the likely explanation!

jungle_jane

i agree with lottie and saving pennies! sure sounds like that's the issue.

Mind you, she could just be a bit of a nutcase - i gather the OP's brother doesn't know her very well as it was a ONS?

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Well why not call her bluff, get the kid for a weekend,don't take it for a DNA test, tell that he did though and that the results came back and it turns out he's not the dad. Then she either backs down or goes through with one for real.