Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

nearlyrich

Stormybay, you got through the worst day of your life so far, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life, take it slowly, do what feels right for you and the family. Hugs to you you are a strong brave lady xx

LJD1_2

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs to you stormybay and Annie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

What a lovely tribute to John. Sending lots of love and hugs to help you through the next few days xx

Stormybay

There are SO many sad stories shared on here, people have been through so much. Chrismojam, the fact that you have survived the most horrific time, just shows how resiliant we are as human beings as well as children. This gives me so much hope that we will survive as a family and eventually, somehow move forward.
I have involved all the children in everything from talking to the vicar, telling them what happened (a little edited), choosing flowers and the after service venue. They have written letters to their Dad and left them with him (I did this as they didn't want to see him at the chapel of rest, the younger ones were too young I felt, although they decided that they didn't want to go anyway)
They wrote on the cards for the flowers whatever they wanted to write, DD3 wrote a joke on the back! It doesn't matter if other people thought this was odd, it helped her, that's what matters and her Dad would have liked that. 2 of the children wore Man City shirts underneath their clothes for him and we all cried together as we said goodbye.
We will make a keepsake box each with all our individual memories of him, and share them with each other if and when we want to.
You are so right in saying that the children must know what's going on, I think that is why I thought it ok to cry in front of them today.
Thank you to those of you who have shared their personal experiences and advice with me, I do hope that I will be able to share my experiences someday to help others as you have all helped me.
I will keep posting, even though this is the DFW board.............I feel I will be needing this sort of advice too soon.
My emotions are all over the place at the moment, but spilling them out on here seems to let me share them without being a burden.

Stormy

sophiesmum_2

Hi Stormybay
Whenever you feel like sharing your feelings and emotions there will always be someone here to lend an ear.
You sound like you are doing everything to help the children to cope with their grief, at least this is one place where you can let out your emotions and be supported by others instead of being the one who has to be strong.
Take care
sophiesmum

catznine

((((((Hugs))))))) Stormybay!

piglet6

Have only just found this post, but wanted to echo all the other comments already made and send love and ((((((hugs)))))) to Stormybay and your family, and to Annie and Chrismojam and all those others who have lost loved ones in sudden and unexpected circumstances.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and hope that you will keep coming here to gain support over the next few weeks/months/as long as you feel you need.

Piglet
x

Chrismojam

piglet6 wrote:

Have only just found this post, but wanted to echo all the other comments already made and send love and ((((((hugs)))))) to Stormybay and your family, and to Annie and Chrismojam and all those others who have lost loved ones in sudden and unexpected circumstances.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and hope that you will keep coming here to gain support over the next few weeks/months/as long as you feel you need.

Piglet
x

Bless you..thank you sweetie...mine was a very long time ago (jees! 20 years in Feb '07:eek: )...but I have found that grief has no time span...

Snaggles

Stormy, I have only just read this thread, and am sitting here with tears pouring down my face. I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I hope the incredible strength you have shown so far will continue to pull you through. I'm sorry, I just don't know what to say, except that I am truly, truly sorry for your loss. Love Snaggles xxx

Chrismojam

Stormybay wrote:

There are SO many sad stories shared on here, people have been through so much. Chrismojam, the fact that you have survived the most horrific time, just shows how resiliant we are as human beings as well as children. This gives me so much hope that we will survive as a family and eventually, somehow move forward.Stormy

You will probably find that the kids will be such strength to you for quite some time....just remember...they need you too;) As hard at it is NOT to lose yourself in grief.....life does go on....and the future is all you have that you CAN effect...therefore...you have to try and make it a positive thing...

Saying that..........that is for the future...deal with the now,...and the grief......don't think you have to be in whatever place at whatever time....it doesn't work like that....;)

You and yours ....take care and be there for eachother as best you can...XXX

jumpingjackd

Stormy my thoughts are with you and am so sorry for the loss you and your family have suffered.

You too Annie and others who have lost loved ones recently.

I wish I could say or do something to make it all go away, but all I can offer is my sympathies.

I lost my mum a few weeks ago and still trying to come to terms with it, but reading this thread has been a help.

Again my thoughts are with you.