Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

lil_me

Stormy and Annie, been thinking of you both today, and your families. I hope you are both ok and staying strong.

victory

stormy and annie, my thoughts are with you, I hope you have been strong today xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

victory

Stormybay wrote:

Victory, I'm so sorry you lost your Dad at such a young age, I do fear for our 16 year old, it's hard enough being a teenager in these times, never mind losing your Dad.
I have involved all the children with everything I can, and offered them to be involved if they want to.
I have a step daughter in her 30's and reminded her today about ordering flowers, i'm worried about her as she said that she couldn't do that as it means that it's true!!! She loved him so much and they were extremely close, she will be in bits on friday, but the whole time I have kept her informed of everything and she has been supportive, but, as yet, unable to accept the situation.
God it's all so sad, I want to scream and let someone else do everything, but there just isn't anyone..................
The checklist suggested by Martin seems to be a fantastic idea as it's so hard to be practical at such an emotional time.

Thank you, my mum at the time was not able to communicate ,which I cannot blame her for in any way but it was such a terrible time on reflection if I could offer anyone else advise would be to involve the kids.
My mum felt exactly like you and as other poster have said that is normal, there was no one else for my mum either as we lived abroad ,strangely though you manage.
I read where you said that now you have endless support etc but worry that it will go away and you will be left alone with your grief... PM me anytime and I am sure that lots of others feel the same.
My mum was exactly the same she said that 'after a while' people drift off and she 'lost' herself inside the grief, again, if there is anything you can do for yourself, your children and your grief is to keep talking, keep communicating, do not isolate yourself and let others see how you feel.
My mum also had a holiday booked and she went on it, she said it gave her a focus.
I cannot put into words how much I will be thinking and feeling for you , with the very best wishes xxxx

taxi73

Hope everything went ok today for both annie and stormybay...my thoughts have been with you and your families today..we are all here for you...you will not be alone((((hugs))))

bellsbells

I hope today was the best it could be for you. We will not drift away stormybay - we will be here whenever you need us.

Much love to you and your family.

Sending love to Annie too.

Nelski

been thinking about you all day stormybay and your family.

Massive hugs

twink

pm me anytime too if it helps to talk xx

LookingAhead

Stormybay & Annie....

Sitting here in tears for you both. I can't say anything that hasn't been said before and I'm no good at poems or other magically inspirational words.

But I want to send warm, genuine & heartfelt sympathies for you both and hope that you coped as well as you could today. I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling.

I wish I could physically be there, even though I don't know you, to do something to help.

Once again, my sympathies.
xx LA xx

savvykaz

Have only just seen your post and I cannot see my screen for the tears!
Hope today went as well as can be expected:sad:. I lost my dad when I was 19 (he committed suicide) and he was 46. At the time I never thought I would get over it, but gradually things do get easier and now, 19 years later, life is ok. I do still miss dad and now I have a daughter (12), I am so sorry he never met her and she will never know him:sad:
Thinking of you all
Karen

1_step_closer

I'm in tears too, thinking about all the lovely things said and wished for. I hope it went ok for you and that you found even a smidgen of peace.

Martin - that was a wonderful idea of yours and a very useful one.

Stormy/Annie - hope you are both doing as well as can be expected. Seems silly asking if you are ok as that is clearly the wrong question to ask today.

Big hugs and kisses for you and your families XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX