Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

joannasmum

Sending love and hugs to Stormybay and family for today. Hold each other close through the coming weeks.

freebird65

Hi Stormy & Annie - just checking in to see how you are - hope you got through the day ok. Reading the earlier poem reminded me of one that I found amongst my stepdad's after he died - it gave me a great deal of comfort at the time.

"You need not look for me
I shall be there
Wherever you see birds aloft, in turbulent air.

I have not gone from you
I am not far
Look up and reach, there, I am a star.

You must not feel a loss
I will be near
To touch your cheek in every breeze, in sounds you hear.

Do not be lonely now
I will not leave
I'm in your day, you night, your dawn, your eve.

Keep watch within your mind
It will be one with me
For in the sun, the wind, the stars I am.
And in the love I give to thee."

Big hugs x

sara1980

when my mum's friend passed away a few years ago, i bought her husband a sympathy card and it had this poem on it....i think it is lovely...

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

Chrismojam

Hi Stormy,

I hope your are doing ok....my thoughts have been with you and your family today....

Take care XXX

Stormybay

Hello everyone,
Well, as you can imagine, I had to say goodbye for now to my soulmate, my love, my life. All your words and thoughts mean so much.
I cried, but I also reflected, the service was as lovely as it could be in the circumstances.
I held a red rose and give it to John at the graveside. To be honest it is all a blur at the moment, I just feel sad, oh so sad and empty, there is a chair next to me as I write this where John should be sitting. If he were to be watching me type this now, I just want to say that, John, I love you like I've never loved, and I thank you for loving me in return.............
Goodnight my darling and sleep in peace

Thank you all so much, I'm too drained to write more, I will tomorrow.

Annie - I'm thinking of you and all who are or have been bereaved.

xx

moozie_2

Stormybay & Annie

I can't believe I missed this thread until now. I don't really know what to say. I am sitting here very sad for you both. I can't add anything that hasn't been said before but I wanted you to know I am thinking of you both and hope that you are coping as best as you can under the circumstances.

I wish I could offer something more, I am so sorry xx

Chrismojam

victory wrote:

Stormy, huge hugs, can I just add one thing?
Involve the children in the arrangements, what is happening, what will happen, in amongst their own personal grief if they do not get told what is happening along the way they make up their own 'versions' and it just compounds the grief.
My father died when I was 15 and my mum collapsed with grief...
I was the only child still at home and really did not know what, when, how, where nothing, that is a lot to bear as well as the loss.
Keep talking to them.... xxxx

This is very true....my dad died just before I turned 13...my mum is bi-polar anyway (manic depressive), and when he died...she got completely lost/swallowed up in her grief to the complete exclusion of everybody and everything that was trying to/had to carry on....as normal ? as possible:rolleyes: ...

My brother who (kind of) became my guardian...(he is very much like mum...character wise)....also got swallowed up in grief to the exclusion of all else and turned to drink (and unfortunately....he is a nasty person with drink...)....

And some people do (sometimes) just drift away afterwards and leave you to get on with it....or rather...just get on with their own lives....

I was also the only child still at home and really did not know what, when, how, where nothing, that is a lot to bear as well as the loss (as Victory said)...goes a long way to explaining how I managed to put on 4stone in the 6 weeks following his death:o

I blame my sister and her salad cream sandwiches:o ...and the packets of custard creams which I could devour in minutes:o

I also went for years thinking I could have saved my dad (I was in the St John's ambulance and felt if I'd been there I could have done CPR:rolleyes: ). Of course, eventually it sank in that it was his time to go (he's already had 4 heart attacks prior to this)...and realistically speaking....a 12 year old 6 stone child would not likely have been able to do anything with a 14/15 stone man in his fifties....who was my dad.....I would have been in shock for sure....

(I added that because it sometimes helps to know how kids minds think in times like this....logic doesn't come into it for them...)

Hopefully, Stormy, you and your family will be able to hold and support eachother in the times ahead........it will make such a difference.....

Sending you my love and best wishes XX

lil_me

Stormybay - what a wonderful thing to say to him, I can't even begin to understand how you are feeling at the moment, but hope it brings some comfort that so many have been thinking of you. Take as much time as you need, we'll still be here if you need us.

Chrismojam

hypno06 wrote:

Beautiful poem Twink - I have copied and pasted it into a word document and will print it off - it was just what I needed, so thank you.

I have too....nearly 20 years after my dad passed away...and I still turn into a blubbering wreck when I hear of others losses.....I figure there are still a few things to get to grips with..:rolleyes:

Thanks again hypno06...I think I'll send this to my sis too;)

Chrismojam

hypno06 wrote:

Beautiful poem Twink - I have copied and pasted it into a word document and will print it off - it was just what I needed, so thank you.

I have copied it too....nearly 20 years after my dad passed away...and I still turn into a blubbering wreck when I hear of others losses.....I figure there are still a few things to get to grips with..:rolleyes:

Thanks again hypno06...I think I'll send this to my sis too;)