Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

Stormybay

Thank you Pigginskint, it must have been awful for you at just 15. I have told the children that they will be going back to school and work on monday/tuesday. I think you are right, just sitting around wont acheive anything. I'm going to stay off probably another week, just to make sure our 11 year old feels safe and secure when she goes back to school. I really don't know what to do, other than carry on and hope that some sort of normality prevails at some point.
Today is getting harder by the minute as people keep calling to check funeral times etc..........it makes everything seem so real and final!
Stormy

Stormybay

Does anyone know of any books I can buy specifically for the 11 - 18 age group to explain and help my children?

Thanks

Stormy

highland

Oh Stormy (I'm Highlands Girlfriend) My thoughts are with you and your children you are coping so well wish I could say something to help. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and know a bit how it will feel ( I lost my mum a few years ago). I remember thinking the number of people who turned up at the church for her funeral meant I wasn't biased she was so special and not just to me. It will be very hard tomorrow but you will get through it. There is a horrible feeling of "what now" afterwards but take strength from your children they need you.
I had real problems getting to sleep and found playing some relaxing music sometimes helped me drift off. It helps stop your mind racing.
Please take care. J xx:grouphug:

rog2

Stormybay wrote:

Does anyone know of any books I can buy specifically for the 11 - 18 age group to explain and help my children?

I dont personally know of any books, but perhaps the undertaker can reccomend something, as they will be dealing with this all of the time.
Most churches also publish leaflets on how to deal with bereavement.
Perhaps CAB can reccomend a youth counsellor.

Mizz_Pink

Ive just read this thread for the first time today.

What a thoughtful thread to start, I know loss and sadness happens everyday of the year but its more awful and sad when is happens at Christmas (when you ask if someone has had a nice Christmas, they say no it was awful).

Me and hubby are sending our thoughts to Stormybay.

We will be thinking of you tomorrow, we hope it goes ok.

Mr and Mizz Pink

moneymaniac_2

My thoughts are with you and your family for tomorrow.

Yours husband will always be alive in your hearts
x

hypno06

Thinking of you and your family.

Remember to take one day at a time. There are no rights or wrongs here. Each day may feel a little easier, harder, sadder, stranger, or any one of a million ways. Just go with it, you have a huge support network here, and you will get through this, even though it doesn't always seem that way.

Keep going, you are doing really well.

Mrs(no)money

Hi stormy, just popped in to see how you're doing. Have just read that the funeral tomorrow is at 1pm. I hope i dont need to say that i too will be thinking of you and 'hand holding' - in fact, im sure we ALL will be.

You'll have the rest of your family around you and although its not going to be easy, you WILL get through it somehow -Its going to take all your strength so make sure you look after yourself wont you. Do what makes you feel better and make time for you. Theres no right or wrong way of coping, so take it a bit at a time and see how it goes.

Wishing you well for tomorrow and take care. x

catznine

(((((Hugs)))) Stormy! Will be thinking of you tomorrow. My Nana used to say "Looking back give thanks, looking forward take courage" Hang on to those happy memories they will get you through.

Love Catz x

MinnieSpender

Hello Stormy

I had a look around for you in response to your thread.

The Beeb has this guide to children and bereavement:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/coping_with_grief/bereavement_effectschildren.shtml

It's quite general, but might be a good place to start.

From there, I found the website for the Child Bereavement Trust:

http://www.childbereavement.org.uk/

Have a look at their resources page which has a link to various downloadable leaflets and a section on recommended reading. With reference to your situation, have a look at the list here:

http://www.childbereavement.org.uk/resources/reading_teenagers.php

You may also find this helpful:

http://www.hospicenet.org/html/teenager.html

Also, don't forget to keep talking as a family. As much as they will need you through this difficult time, let them know that you need them too. And hug each other a lot.

You'll all be in my thoughts tomorrow - I wish you all peace during this terribly difficult time.

Mins x