Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

sarymclary

Hello All,

AnW'smum, I just wanted to wish you all the strength in the world for your difficult week ahead. We will all be thinking of you. You have been so strong, and offered so much support to so many here, I feel it really is our turn to offer our hugs and support to you right now.

Stormy, I re-read the first half or so of this thread today. Blimey, you've come so far girl! I imagine John is sat up on his shiny star, looking down on you thinking 'see, I knew you could do it coz you're bloody brilliant!' What a journey, but you have done it.

Cornish Girl, hey another one who has managed to soldier on, and offered so much support and hugs along the way. Thanks so much for sharing your stories with us.

And ShelAnne, I'm really glad you found us, but I'm also so sorry you've had to become one of the gang at such a price. You sound like a really strong lady (another one) and you certainly aren't losing your marbles because you sound like the rest of us, and we're all so VERY sane (not!).

So, as Stormy said, here we are on another Saturday night without our loved one here, but our hearts are full, and we are lucky to have this very special place to come and meet.

Much love and best wishes to all, oh, and big ((hugs)) too :grouphug:

S xx

LouBlue

Hey all. Just wanted to say I am thinking of everyone with Mothers Day coming up. My first one without mum and I made a prize tit of myself in the florists. I was fine, then asked her for some yellow roses then burst into tears. :eek: She looked extremely uncomfortable, didn't acknowledge at all I was upset and kept talking to me as if nothing had happened, which made me feel even more of an idiot! She probably didn't know what to say, people react differently don't they. Anyway, shall be going to see mum in the morning.

Hugs to everyone that needs one. xx

ZTD

LouBlue wrote: »

Hugs to everyone that needs one. xx

And to you too... :grouphug:

Stormybay

Yes, I hope you all get through mothers' day unscathed today. I lost my Mum 9 years ago and will take her some flowers today, and nip and see my Dad, grandparents and, of course, John, whilst I'm there.
Of course, when my children were little, John would sort out cards and presents from the children to me, but at least they can do that themselves now. I can imagine it's difficult when you still have very young children!
I hope you have managed to get some sleep this weekend Shelanne, just take a minute at a time.
Thanks Sarymclary, I've not read all of this thread for sometime now, but would like to keep a record of it, for the future, is there any way I can get it in print form do you know??
Well, I'm off to get Rosie ready for football on this VERY windy Welsh Sunday morning.
Love and hugs for all
Stormy
xxxxxx

AnW'sMum

Hi everyone

Hope you have all had a reasonable day, will be tinged with sadness for a lot of us but we should celebrate how well we have all done.

I have been spoiled by Alice and William, we bought a DVD, ratatouille for us all (well ok for them ) to watch this afternoon. Hope Rosie scored today Stormy. I too would like to print the thread off at some point, think it might help Alice and William see how we were all coping in the years ahead and give them some more support. I am sure there is a way to print it or copy it to disc.

Loublue ((HUGS)) for you, bet your mum loves the roses even though it was difficult for you to go and choose them.

sarymclary

LouBlue wrote: »

Hey all. Just wanted to say I am thinking of everyone with Mothers Day coming up. My first one without mum and I made a prize tit of myself in the florists. I was fine, then asked her for some yellow roses then burst into tears. :eek: She looked extremely uncomfortable, didn't acknowledge at all I was upset and kept talking to me as if nothing had happened, which made me feel even more of an idiot! She probably didn't know what to say, people react differently don't they. Anyway, shall be going to see mum in the morning.

Hugs to everyone that needs one. xx

Hi LouBlue,

It just proves how bad society can be when dealing with bereavement, and the 'D' word as a whole. I think it's more infuriating when your grief goes unrecognised, rather than the person saying they're sorry they don't know what to say, but hope you're OK, sort of thing. I encourage my children to talk very openly about it, and hope that will get passed on to the people they have contact with in the future.

It's part of our culture to not want to make other people feel bad, but if we're feeling bad we should be able to show it and be OK with that. As part of my job I now encourage people to sometimes dwell on and deal with those feelings, and realise that it is as much a part of life as all the happiness and excitement we may feel at any given time.

I hope your day went OK, and that the flowers for your mum looked beautiful for her.

Hugs and best wishes to you all
S xxx

LouBlue

Thank you Sary, AnW, ZTD and Stormy. OH was annoyed when I told him about the florist. He thought she would have been used to people being upset in there. I don't know, I try to see the good in people and hope she wasn't an uncaring person, just felt uncomfortable.

Will be glad when today is over, but its been not too bad.

Hope everyone is ok. xx

mandymoo

Evening everyone,

I hope today has past ok for you all, I just had to share with you what I had from our three, card`s and dvd`s from DS`s and a box of half eaten Thorntons chocolates from DD (all the ones she does not like, she had them for christmas !!!) but whatever love her to bits and love her sense of humour
the card from her made me cry, as the words were lovely.

Thinking of you all and especially AnW`sMum for the coming week and LouBlue I am sure your mum loved the roses and never feel silly about crying wherever you are.

Love and hugs
mandymoo xx

Shelanne

Hi LouBlue,

Hope you are feeling better and you do have another of those difficult "firsts" behind you. You think you made a prize t*t of yourself in the florists, you should have seen me at the Mother's Day Mass. Probably shouldn't have gone but DD1 was singing in the choir and particularly wanted me to go. Well the flood gates opened and I'm sure I made the whole church feel uncomfortable! And MY mum was sat next to me!!! Sending you hugs, stay strong.

AnW, What can any of us say? You are in my thoughts and willing you to find the strength to get you through the inquest. Just want to acknowledge on the thread how supportive AnW has been off thread with PMs, phone calls and practical "bank" stuff, I think to be able to do that at such a difficult time shows what a strong and special lady she is and I want to say a really heart felt thank you.

Stormy, Sary, Mandy, Cornish lady, ZTD and all of you, I'm glad to have found this caring place, hope to be able to offer some support as well as benefit from everyone's wise words. Hope you all having a good day to day.

Another difficult first for me today as it would have been Keith's birthday today. He would have been the ripe old age of 43, I mean who doesn't reach 43!!!! Trying not to rant and wail too much and keep changing my mind on what to do with the children to mark the occaision. Gosh the children are doing well, Thank God.

LouBlue

Shelanne wrote: »

Another difficult first for me today as it would have been Keith's birthday today. He would have been the ripe old age of 43, I mean who doesn't reach 43!!!! Trying not to rant and wail too much and keep changing my mind on what to do with the children to mark the occaision. Gosh the children are doing well, Thank God.

Bless you Shelanne. :kisses3: My friend lost her hubby a week before Christmas and he was only 43 as well! Such a shock, she is doing very well considering, they do not have any children, so a blessing in one way, but I don't want her feeling lonely.

I hope you and your children find comfort with each other today. Lots of love. xx