Venting thread.........so angry

mountainofdebt

I'm just wondering how many of us could 'sleep on command' - I know I couldn't.

OP I don't know what your son's bedroom set up is but have you tried blackout linings for his curtains? I got them for Junior when he was a baby - even had to put up with the jokes about did I know the war was over - but they were a godsend when he was a baby / toddler. I have them now on my bedroom and I wouldn't be without them during the summer months.

Spendless

bailey - I think you are in need of a rest,break, chill out time whatever. Plan some me time for you away from kids.:)

I've got an 11yo who still thinks sleep is optional. I keep sane by planning my revenge when he is grown and with a house of his own, and I intend staying as house-guest and staying up all night, being as noisy as possible. :rotfl:

Bennifred

Spendless wrote: »

bailey - I think you are in need of a rest,break, chill out time whatever. Plan some me time for you away from kids.:)

I've got an 11yo who still thinks sleep is optional. I keep sane by planning my revenge when he is grown and with a house of his own, and I intend staying as house-guest and staying up all night, being as noisy as possible. :rotfl:

You don't need to wait that long - give it a couple of years and when he enters the "vampire years" you'll have a whole lot of daylight hours during which to get your revenge, lol!:rotfl:

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

Wait till hes 13 and stomping up the stairs and slamming the door shut at the same time shouting I HATE YOU!!!

lol you got it easy

*Robin*

I agree with everyone who has said that it's a bit much to expect kids to go to sleep to order. Especially in the summer when it's still light.

Something that helped us was a tape machine. If the little darlings were still very awake after the bath, cuddles, story-with-Mum/Dad routine, then they were offered a story tape to listen to, so long as they agreed to stay in bed. An early favourite was Peter and the Wolf, and they progressed through Beatrice Potter, Roald Dahl, the Sherlock Holmes stories, Philip Pullman, plus lots of tapes recorded for them by Grandpa.
By the time my lot were eight or nine they were ready to start on the classics; Ben Hur was a favourite, as was Shakespeare, and perhaps surprisingly, Dickens.

It has bred a love of literature that will last my children all their lives, and while they're little the same story can be repeated almost endlessly as they always fall asleep before the end, lol.

These days a cd player rather than a tape machine would be required, I suppose, but it needn't be very expensive because most libraries now have a wide selection of audio cds.

ps. My nineteen year old still listens to stories as he falls asleep, but he chooses his bed-time and makes his own selection from Radios 4 and 7 on the iplayer.

bestpud

Sounds like you need a bit of child-free time, OP.

Lots of little frustrations can easily accumulate and then we can find ourselves getting uptight about something tiny, but really it's the tip of the iceberg!

Try not to get locked in a battle of wills with him - it's so easy done and it can then affect every interaction you have.

Looking to sneak in and remove his toys while he sleeps says to me you've lost focus a little - that's really something that needs doing when he is awake if you want him to understand the consequence.

He probably doesn't get the difference between having toys for the morning but not the evening. Or if he does get it, temptation probably overwhelms him! He's only young, after all, and theres nothing worse than being unable to sleep!

Hopefully all is well this morning but try and get some time out if you don't already.

aliasojo

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Thanks for those who realised my vent was just that, I feel better, DS is asleep and i'll leave it at that.

You silly, silly, person. :rotfl:

The new breed of MSE'rs don't 'do' vents or personal information.

Conform or be at their mercy.

As someone else said earlier, at that age, temptation is great and the light nights make them feel as if it's not really sleep time. He's not being deliberately bad, he just doesn't see why he has to lie still in a bed when he's wide awake and still raring to go.

Maybe alter his bedtime a little for the time being? Once he starts school he will be naturally more tired anyway and you will likely find the problem lessens.

It's not a battle of wills so try not to make it one. It's good to have routine and discipline, just don't make wars out of small battles.

Good luck. I am soooo glad I'm past that stage.

Allegra

Bailey, for what it's worth, you did the right thing - when stressed out by your DS (whatever the rights and thr wrongs of it), you came and vented to a bunch of strangers rather than venting it on him, and I very much hope that the fact that some folk got upset or shirty about your post will not stop you from doing the same in the future - because I'm afraid that I have to agree with the majority on one thing, and that's that it does really only get worse in terms of them testing you, pushing you, or plain driving you up the wall.

Anger is usually caused by frustration and helplessness, and there's no one better than our beloved offspring to make us feel frustrated, helpless or plain out of our depth. Frankly, the older I am the more surprised I am that anyone still wants to have kids - the sheer overwhelming magnitude of responsibility for a developing human being's welfare and well-being is enough to put anyone with two brain cells to rub together right off So I guess it's just as well that our procreating urge tends to completely bypass our brains, else the race would die out in no time at all :rotfl:

As far as I am concerned - and I'm sure that I'm not the only one - the more vents on here, or anywhere, the better, cos it means that the venter is doing the sensible thing, releasing the pressure so they can go back and deal with the people that matter in a sensible way and without blowing up. So there

anguk

My kids are grown up now but when they were little they always had a bed time and we always had a routine before-hand so that they knew it was nearly bedtime and it was time to wind down. They were allowed some books and a couple of toys on their bed so if they weren't tired (I'm another one who can't sleep to order) they knew they could play quietly until they fell asleep. This worked for us and we never had any bother with bed-time tantrums.

ska_lover

Allegra wrote: »

Bailey, for what it's worth, you did the right thing - when stressed out by your DS (whatever the rights and thr wrongs of it), you came and vented to a bunch of strangers rather than venting it on him, and I very much hope that the fact that some folk got upset or shirty about your post will not stop you from doing the same in the future - because I'm afraid that I have to agree with the majority on one thing, and that's that it does really only get worse in terms of them testing you, pushing you, or plain driving you up the wall.

Anger is usually caused by frustration and helplessness, and there's no one better than our beloved offspring to make us feel frustrated, helpless or plain out of our depth. Frankly, the older I am the more surprised I am that anyone still wants to have kids - the sheer overwhelming magnitude of responsibility for a developing human being's welfare and well-being is enough to put anyone with two brain cells to rub together right off So I guess it's just as well that our procreating urge tends to completely bypass our brains, else the race would die out in no time at all :rotfl:

As far as I am concerned - and I'm sure that I'm not the only one - the more vents on here, or anywhere, the better, cos it means that the venter is doing the sensible thing, releasing the pressure so they can go back and deal with the people that matter in a sensible way and without blowing up. So there

Totally agree. Better to have a moan on here. A lot of us have been there.