Venting thread.........so angry

[Deleted User]

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

Its been building up gradually over the last few weeks, but this week has been particularly difficult, nothing is ever enough.

It doesn't seem to matter how much time he gets on a 1:1 doing nice things or being taken out to the park, bike rides, out for a drink etc, its never enough. I seem to hear myself saying more and more "I need to get this done, you've had some time, please amuse yourself". He is perfectly able to and can easily spend over half hr or more playing by himself.

Anyway today he's had some lovely stuff to do, been really busy and built a camp in his room with his cousin, which he asked to sleep in. We agreed and blew up his ready bed on the promise if he mucked about he'd be back in bed.

After 5 mins of hearing him moving around (playing) he came down and said he wanted his bed, so i remade it up and said no more playing, no toys, its sleep, its late, if you continue i'll turn off your music and shut the door (he likes it slightly adjar).

After a few mins i hear noises, ignore (more for my benefit than his), but then after a few mins more i went up, he's on the floor of his ready bed playing with toys. So i flipped, pushed it all to one side, turned off music and shut door. He's been up there crying hysterically now for over 10 mins, but i don't trust myself to go back in. DH is at tesco, actually just come back.

What is it with him (i don't need an answer), i've done the courses, think i'm fair but firm and still he pushes and pushes.

School is needed i think for both of us.

Rant over.

PS DS, must have heard DH come in the door as the crying stopped instantly! (just thought i'd better add DH is a great dad not a bully).

PPS, once he's gone to sleep, i'm going to put his room back as it was and take away the toy that we bought today from the £1 shop. I'm tempted to take out the rest of his toys from his room (there isnt that many just a tray of lego and a couple of tractors which keep him amused if he wakes before 7am).

I'm calming down now, been discussing it with DH and trying to see things from DS point of view. DH has gone up and i called up "tell him i love him!".

mum2one

is there anything changed at school, could be something there has upset him and he's taking it out at home?

mwa

My DD can be the same and she's due to start school September, I think it's probably the same for a lot of people with this age child. I am hoping school will sort out a lot of the issues we have!

shellsuit

Deleted_User wrote: »

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

Its been building up gradually over the last few weeks, but this week has been particularly difficult, nothing is ever enough.

It doesn't seem to matter how much time he gets on a 1:1 doing nice things or being taken out to the park, bike rides, out for a drink etc, its never enough. I seem to hear myself saying more and more "I need to get this done, you've had some time, please amuse yourself". He is perfectly able to and can easily spend over half hr or more playing by himself.

Anyway today he's had some lovely stuff to do, been really busy and built a camp in his room with his cousin, which he asked to sleep in. We agreed and blew up his ready bed on the promise if he mucked about he'd be back in bed.

After 5 mins of hearing him moving around (playing) he came down and said he wanted his bed, so i remade it up and said no more playing, no toys, its sleep, its late, if you continue i'll turn off your music and shut the door (he likes it slightly adjar).

After a few mins i hear noises, ignore (more for my benefit than his), but then after a few mins more i went up, he's on the floor of his ready bed playing with toys. So i flipped, pushed it all to one side, turned off music and shut door. He's been up there crying hysterically now for over 10 mins, but i don't trust myself to go back in. DH is at tesco, actually just come back.

What is it with him (i don't need an answer), i've done the courses, think i'm fair but firm and still he pushes and pushes.

School is needed i think for both of us.

Rant over.

PS DS, must have heard DH come in the door as the crying stopped instantly! (just thought i'd better add DH is a great dad not a bully).

PPS, once he's gone to sleep, i'm going to put his room back as it was and take away the toy that we bought today from the £1 shop. I'm tempted to take out the rest of his toys from his room (there isnt that many just a tray of lego and a couple of tractors which keep him amused if he wakes before 7am).

I'm calming down now, been discussing it with DH and trying to see things from DS point of view. DH has gone up and i called up "tell him i love him!".

Maybe he wasn't tired and just wanted to carry on playing?

It's still light out so maybe he doesn't realise that it really is bed/sleep time.

I was expecting something far more worse than that when I opened the thread to be honest.

Pisces

We all have those days :-)

Our little boy does this too, and we tell him that if he doesn't do as we ask he loses one of his toys (whicheverhe's most keen on at the time) for one day. He moaned a lot once we started but after a couple of times he cottoned on and realised he didn't like the consequence and did as we asked. Like you, he tends to play up more for me but we both stick by the rules and he has to apologies to both of us if he's naughty and when we return his toy one day later.

Personally I wouldn't remove his stuff at all, but if he does it tomorrow tell him if he continues you will take something away. That way he knows he can avoid the punishment.

Take a deep breath and pour yourself some wine, with a bit of luck you've got the evening off now :-)

Dave101t

all the toys get put in the bin, thats a classic, tho you cant just threaten it, let him see you crush them.

meer53

How old is he ? It's hard for kids to go to sleep when it's light in the evenings, especially when they've had a busy day, they need wind down time. Leave him playing, as long as he's not bothering you i'd leave him in his bedroom, he'll sleep when he's ready. Is it really worth getting worked up over ? Chill, have a glass of wine ! The later he goes to bed, the more chance you have of a lie in tomorrow ! My daughter (she's 10) is sitting here with her friend who is sleeping over, playing with some beads, normally she would be in bed by now but not asleep, it's saturday, no need to get up tomorrow (although i will be waking them at 8 as we're going to Lightwater Valley !) She'll tell me when she's tired, if i try to make her go now, i just get a ratty kid !

LegalBlonde

what age is he/

shellsuit

The child is 4, going by the OP's signature on here.

fantasia322

LegalBlonde wrote: »

what age is he/

Ditto, if this littley is younger than school age, well, get over yourself girly, the worst is yet to come, and any experienced parent will tell you the same. What you are describing is just baby stuff, so deal with it and get over yourself. What will you do when things get really tough?

Not meaning to sound mean or anything. But this is hardly the end of the world. Tell me this when you are 45 and have 5 teenagers lol.

fantasia322

Dave101t wrote: »

all the toys get put in the bin, thats a classic, tho you cant just threaten it, let him see you crush them.

And children should be seen and not heard lol, get real and stop giving silly advice