Venting thread.........so angry

LegalBlonde

as is increasingly becoming the case on here, the OP is long gone

Sambucus_Nigra

shellsuit wrote: »

He was playing in his room when he was told to go to sleep. :cool:

That it? I thought I'd missed something huge!!!

purplegirluk1

Oooooh our babies are sent to test us! I hope he is asleep now and you have a chance to chill out. My son is 3 and likes to push things to, I have developed a very good poker face, he never gets a reaction which ends tantrums quickly, there is no point in making a fuss if mum has walked off.

polejunkie

Is that it? toy cars?

You got your knickers in a twist over a few toy cars?

Its saturday night !!!!!!, let the kid live a little.

plumpmouse

Louise03 wrote: »

Get a grip! He is being a normal child, this is what they do. As for confiscating his toys - this smacks to me of bullying behaviour on your part. He is ONLY 4 years old.

Even a 4 year needs rules!!! At 4 he is old enough to understand it is bedtime and if confiscating his toys is how he understand then it works for him.

Some replies on here are harsh! (Will more than likely be flamed for that comment) All children even babies can push us to a limit and reach a level of frustration which the OP clearly has. She hasn't hit her child or verbally abused him - there is no abuse, no bullying for what I can see.

I often wonder where the friendly forum for 2003 has gone to! MSE used to be a nice place to be now it just feels like everyone is after putting someone else down. And yes before you reply I'm well aware that everyone has the right to their opinion just not sure why most threads on here now have an unfriendly feeling to them!!

Hard_up,_not_happy

Stop sweating the small stuff and pick your battles. Otherwise his whole childhood is going to wind you up. Kids only learn boundaries one way and slowly, by pushing every button known to man and testing their limits.

Might not feel like it at the mo but they grow up and leave in the blink of an eye. Make sure you enjoy it.

Sambucus_Nigra

plumpmouse wrote: »

Some replies on here are harsh! (Will more than likely be flamed for that comment) All children even babies can push us to a limit and reach a level of frustration which the OP clearly has. She hasn't hit her child or verbally abused him - there is no abuse, no bullying for what I can see.

I think the OP is a bit harsh to be honest. Why is it ok for her to flip at her 4rd old for playing but not for people to point out that actually, it was a tad OTT?

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Plumpmouse, thank thank thank, i would thank you a thousand times more if i could, i often think to myself how i wish MSE was 5 years back when people spoke nicely to each other. Now its become common place to be rude on the first post.

Ok to those who've posted:-

1. Nothing has changed, its him just testing us.
2. After a difficult week, i snapped, maybe unfairly, but i'm human and wanted to VENT! A bit like Alisasjo when she had a hard time recently.
3. Bed is bed, he knows the rules and it doesnt matter if its light, he's tired, he has tired eyes in the morning, he his needs sleep.
4. I have not run off and left the thread, but i'm not stuck to my laptop all evening either, I was actually discussing the prob with my DH!!!
5. How can taking toys away be abusive if its forewarned and followed through. On previous post a parent was advised to take toys out of the room so her child would sleep.
6. Remind me to stick to MSE problems only, not emotional ones, I should have learnt my lesson by now.

Thanks for those who realised my vent was just that, I feel better, DS is asleep and i'll leave it at that.

Nara

I'm afraid starting school doesn't make much difference lol. My DD is 5 and in reception, I let her stay up late on a Sat night as a treat, but nearly everynight she mucks around for an hour to 2 hours.

Playing with toys/singing/banging etc, and yes sometimes it drives me mad but no matter what I threaten her with it doesn't work
Sometimes I know she mucks around until daddy is home from work because she misses him and is usually in bed by the time he gets back so part of it is that i think, maybe its the same for your child? 6.30 is early for bed tbh, we normally eat at 5 and she is in bed between 7-7.30 and normally asleep by 8-9ish.
Some night she is very tired and nods off quickly. They do start school young and I find my DD gets over emotional, coming out of school and crying over the smallest thing or being naughty, but its hard for them at that age to behave for 6 hours at school and it wears them out.

meritaten

NO its not harsh! the kid was put to bed and was (oh shock horror) playing 5 minutes later instead of sleeping! The OP herself said she gave it a FEW minutes and he was STILL playing! upon which OP had a major tantrum and the kid is crying and OP thinks its time to toss the kids toys out? Does the OP really expect the kid to fall asleep on the dot when she decides its sleeptime? doesnt work like that!
I also got the feeling that the OP was trying to do something else - and the fact the child was playing really got on her wick!
I feel sorry for the child here - I cant fall asleep to order and I know my kids spent many an hour playing or reading quietly in their rooms - or not! sorry OP but I think you are overreacting.