Venting thread.........so angry

DON79

Every night - my two boys are like this, they push and push and push - now they go to bed separately and it is working so far!

OP has only one son, but to be honest - when previously after 2/3 hours of my boys fighting/singing/thumping on floors and walls and refusing to go to sleep every single night!!! - then I have gone in and confiscated toys and books from them after their umpteenth warning. I don't see anything wrong with removing a toy as a consequence if they won't stop after a few warnings. My boys are 5 and nearly 4.

Better to remove toys/books and vent on here than take it out on the child physically.

Hope you can get it sorted OP.

plumpmouse

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Her words on here were:

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

And she chose to stamp it out on her keyboard!!

mrcow

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Her words on here were:

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

Have you never felt frustrated before? It's a normal human emotion you know. And it's 100% okay to feel it.

She's also entitled to tell her own child off when he is disobedient.

Sambucus_Nigra

mrcow wrote: »

Have you never felt frustrated before? It's a normal human emotion you know. And it's 100% okay to feel it.

She's also entitled to tell her own child off when he is disobedient.

Absolutely. I don't usually feel like smacking children though.

Especially not for just playing with their toys. Even when the DSD drove me up the wall - nope, never wanted to smack her.

Still, it takes all sorts - obviously.

[Deleted User]

Hey guys, shall we let this lie?

DS is asleep, I've calmed down, social services havent been called and clearly the moment has passed. Shall we move on now and help/advise someone who needs it more?

Thank you all anyway.

[Deleted User]

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Absolutely. I don't usually feel like smacking children though.

Especially not for just playing with their toys. Even when the DSD drove me up the wall - nope, never wanted to smack her.

Still, it takes all sorts - obviously.

Indeed it does, but i also mentioned it was the little thing that broke the camels back so to speak, not the bigger things i'd been dealing with previously.

Lets forget it now.

plumpmouse

Deleted_User wrote: »

Hey guys, shall we let this lie?

DS is asleep, I've calmed down, social services havent been called and clearly the moment has passed. Shall we move on now and help/advise someone who needs it more?

Thank you all anyway.

Well said!

Hope you have a relaxing evening and a better day tomorrow!

bigmomma051204

No real advice as such... my little boy is now nearly 7 years old. He has been an excellent sleeper from the age of 3 months and has never had any issues UNTIL he started school 2 years ago.... He has always had an excellent bedtime routine and we have stuck to it like glue (never took him out on occasions even to stay up late, ie pubs etc)
Now, we start bedtime at 7:30pm.... it takes until about 8:15pm to jolly him to get clothes off, into bed etc etc... i then go downstairs. If we are lucky, he wont come back down (tho he does this more frequently nowadays pah!) but he just refuses to go to sleep... sometimes he will still be awake at 11pm (that is the latest ever tho to be fair!!)
It is madness, but we don't beat ourselves up about it.... i mean, short of sellotaping his eyes shut :eek: or sitting on him and forcibly closing his eyes :eek: what can a parent DO?! Dont worry - unfortunately they just go through stages of things like this, similar to fussy eating at different stages etc... It is poo, but it is being a parent at the end of the day. Just so long as your children are safe, loved, fed, watered, have a warm home and clothes to wear.... you are doing a hell of a lot better than A LOT of parents out there. BELIEVE me!

karen24_2

Just wanted to thank the OP for posting, it made me realise I'm not the only mum who gets wound up by my children messing about in their bedroom when they should be asleep. If they were quiet it wouldn't bother me as much, it's the banging about that's the most annoying. Combine that with the fact you know they're dead tired and will probably be grumpy all the next day. If you're tired and want to wind down too it can make any situation seem worse than it actually is.

picnmix

Mine have wound me up something chronic today, I had a mini flip earlier, it is not necessarily the worst thing in the world that they have done but it builds up. To be honest today I was sick of the sound of my own voice, they were either winding each other up, moaning, arguing or stropping - but then that is what kids do sometimes. Some days are like it. Have a good evening, I'm off to get some sleep in prep for tomorrow!