Venting thread.........so angry

plumpmouse

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I think the OP is a bit harsh to be honest. Why is it ok for her to flip at her 4rd old for playing but not for people to point out that actually, it was a tad OTT?

Depends how you look at it. I read it that her flip wasn't horrifc just he went into his bed etc. Not that she yelled the house down and beat him.

From what I read she had been in to once and asked him to settled down, not to carry on playing etc. He then continued she she returned and switched the music off etc, put him back in proper bed and took the toy.

If my DS continued to play when I had told him to settle down I wouldn't have just ignored it.

[Deleted User]

Maybe SN, but haven't we all hard a difficult week and it was the smallest thing that made us flip?

Again my point is i'm human, i vented and i'm not 100% perfect, despite trying to be.

Sambucus_Nigra

Deleted_User wrote: »

Plumpmouse, thank thank thank, i would thank you a thousand times more if i could, i often think to myself how i wish MSE was 5 years back when people spoke nicely to each other. Now its become common place to be rude on the first post.

Exactly - read your thread title!!!

shellsuit

Deleted_User wrote: »

Plumpmouse, thank thank thank, i would thank you a thousand times more if i could, i often think to myself how i wish MSE was 5 years back when people spoke nicely to each other. Now its become common place to be rude on the first post.

Ok to those who've posted:-

1. Nothing has changed, its him just testing us.
2. After a difficult week, i snapped, maybe unfairly, but i'm human and wanted to VENT! A bit like Alisasjo when she had a hard time recently.
3. Bed is bed, he knows the rules and it doesnt matter if its light, he's tired, he has tired eyes in the morning, he his needs sleep.
4. I have not run off and left the thread, but i'm not stuck to my laptop all evening either, I was actually discussing the prob with my DH!!!
5. How can taking toys away be abusive if its forewarned and followed through. On previous post a parent was advised to take toys out of the room so her child would sleep.
6. Remind me to stick to MSE problems only, not emotional ones, I should have learnt my lesson by now.

Thanks for those who realised my vent was just that, I feel better, DS is asleep and i'll leave it at that.

MSE hasn't changed at all in the past X years IMO, there will always be a difference of opinion on threads, that's just human nature!

It's no good getting narked again because people don't agree with why you flew off the handle, we're all different and react to situations in a different way.

Your son is a small child. He will play up and test the boundaries. That's how it goes.

plumpmouse

Deleted_User wrote: »

Plumpmouse, thank thank thank, i would thank you a thousand times more if i could, i often think to myself how i wish MSE was 5 years back when people spoke nicely to each other. Now its become common place to be rude on the first post.

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I miss the site that was. It was a really great site. I've reached the point now where I often wondered why I come on here TBH which is sad.

LegalBlonde

Deleted_User wrote: »

4. I have not run off and left the thread, but i'm not stuck to my laptop all evening either, I was actually discussing the prob with my DH!!!

Good point - while I am stuck to my laptop, filling my head with other peoples' problems and yet other people's responses and opinions...I am going to put the laptop down now, even snap it shut, have some wine, popcorn and watch a movie.

If your little one is in bed now you should do something similiar to relax yourself. :A

Sambucus_Nigra

plumpmouse wrote: »

Depends how you look at it. I read it that her flip wasn't horrifc just he went into his bed etc. Not that she yelled the house down and beat him.

Her words on here were:

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

shy-but-need-help

I'm glad you're having a chance to talk it out with your husband, if I've learnt nothing else parenting (we have five- age 13 down to 1, mix of boys and girls) it's that the only way to deal with anything is with EVERYONE in a situation singing from the same hymn sheet, for us that's me, my DH and my parents (as the kids sleep over with them a couple of times a month and they're our only additional childcare) I'm glad you can deal with it together.

Personally I agree with the person who said pick your battles, for us bedtime isn't a battle we've ever seen as a major one, we're quite a laid back household and have worked on the theory "they'll sleep when they're tired" - as babies & toddlers that's meant falling asleep downstairs and being carried up to bed when we go, and after that age they've all gotten into the routine of asking to go to bed when they're tired or want a story- they know to ask before they're tired if they want to be read to. It does work well, I can honestly say we've never done the whole kicking & screaming sleep wars thing both my SIL's have faced and as a result have kids who can fall asleep anywhere, which comes in very handy when travelling! (can't even begin to describe what a pain in the rear it is to travel with my sister who's son needs specific conditions and times to sleep!)

I hope you can get it sorted, as I say sleep is a battle we chose not to pick and all five of them chose to go to bed at reasonable hours and DH and I still get time as a couple after that.

mrcow

Is the bedtime thing a one off or is it common for him to play up at this time?

Venting is good and hopefully it has helped? I wouldn't remove any toys etc though - it's an overreaction.

[Deleted User]

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Her words on here were:

No need to reply but its stamping out on my keyboard or smacking my child as im so annoyed with him.

And??? I'm unsure of your point, surely its better to walk and away and vent than to smack a child. Aren't we told to take a deep breath and walk to another room when we reach that point?