Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

tru

Morning :hello:

I have smooth, moisturised legs, soft feet, a perfumed neck and a full face of make-up. Not sure why I got carried away with the make-up - I'm not leaving the house today

My brain is still cluttered, but a lot of it is in some sort of order now. There's a lot I'm not happy about, some things HAVE to change, other things are me being selfish (maybe? I'm still too wound up to see those things clearly, so I'm keeping quiet on those things for now). A lot of it boils down to what I thought I'd be doing by now. I'm 40 and my kids are 20 and 21, so I've never been an adult without having responsibilities for children. I thought they'd be actually acting like adults at this age, not only when it suits them to, if that makes sense.

So, I'm going to put my head down and carry on writing for a couple of days. I may need more pens and a couple of reams of paper :rotfl:

maman

merlin68 wrote: »

Well I have stuck 2 days on the yeast and sugar free and don't even feel hungry. Quiet impressed with myself. Will weigh myself round mum's tomorrow as I don't own any scales.
Not been brave enough to put the make up on yet. Might wait until I get my hair done on monday.
My problem is feeling too self conscious.

No time to post but just wanted to comment quickly merlin. I think it's a brilliant idea to weigh at your mum's. I know that lots of people can obsess about weighing daily (or even more often) and then quite natural fluctuations can be really depressing. I don't have scales and when I finish SW I'm planning to go by how my clothes feel.

lizzie157

JB- and LL sending hugs to you both.

TRU- know what you mean I'm not happy with my life either there's lots I'd like to change and I feel down sometimes but perhaps one day things ill change for us hopefully.

Feeling a bit down myself today - trying to pluck up courage to go and see a friend's band tonight but no one to go with and even though it's only in a local pub I don't go there and am not sure I'm confident enough to go on my own.

On the frump to fab front - need to touch up nails
need to shave but have developed a rash under one arm so don't know if I dare!
will do peel no: 2 later.

No excercise today except a walk with dog!

merlin68

Well I managed to shave armpits and legs and did a body scrub and all over moisturiser. Also lost 41bs.

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

Hope you are all having a good weekend.

Busy day here today, had a bit of a blitz in the house and then OH's ex work colleagues came to visit him.

Feeling very tired tonight so an early night beckons.

My face feels a bit sore and itchy. I've been using a different oil (same oil but different brand) for the OCM and don't think it suits me. Will stop using it and then wait and see.

I'm struggling to find a decent moisturiser at the moment. Now that I am trying to wean myself off HRT I think there must be some hormonal changes which are affecting my skin. My skin certainly feels more sensitive and more prone to bruising and breakouts.

I've bought several moisturisers recently and they are all either too strong and set up an allergic reaction or they just sit on the surface of the skin and do nothing. I'll just have to set to and make up some of my own potions again, until I can find something that suits.

BTW - if I buy a product, say a facial moisturiser that doesn't suit me, I don't throw it away - I usually find it's ok to use on any real dry patches such as elbows, knees and feet. At least that way it's not a total waste;)

No exercise or treatments today.

Tomorrow:rotfl:

Lizzie & Tru

Sounds like you need to remember the elephant. A little each day.

Bitsy_Beans

Been on feet all day so that can count as my exercise quota. I found the best moisturiser is Boots cheapie cucumber, doesn't make me greasy or sit on skin either. Using mineral make up has also been a big blessing.

LL - I have no experience if what you're dealing with but thank you for sharing x

Tru - keep writing girl and if you need to chat you know know where to find me x well done on full face of slap. I never get up without it

JB - hugs for you xx

Merlin - well done on your 4lbs

lessonlearned

Which brings me to a concept my OH introduced me to.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

Sounds scientific and difficult but really it's just what I would call basic psychology.

Basically it's about the power of language. How we can use it to affect the way we think and feel.

For example if you tell yourself that you are too old and tired to do this or try that then your brain will start to believe it. Luckily if you tell yourself you feel young and energetic some of that starts to sink in and you start to experience yourself as younger and more vibrant.

Cod science and psycho babble? - who knows - but it seems to work.

Just as standing tall and proud (you are still working on your posture aren't you. Of course you are:D) makes you appear confident and powerful, language can have the same effect.

Try this as an exercise. Instead of saying I ought/must/should do something say to yourself I could/might/may do something. (If I choose)

It is this element of choice which is essential in making us feel that we are in control of our lives. Once we feel in control we can tackle just about anything. It's when events seem to conspire against us, we feel that we are losing control, we begin to feel helpless and that we cannot cope.

The truth is, most of the time we can cope, we do it all the time. By
using the right language we can trick our brains and make it so much easier.

Or as my dear Aunty S used to say - no such word as can't, it's won't try. Ooh but she was a strict task mistress.:rotfl:

G'night all x

Bitsy_Beans

I love NLP LL, I am big believer in you are what you think (within reason of course )

lizzie157

LL-I know I'l try to remember the elephant. As for the NLP I am usually quite good at saying to myself I can and will do things, my mum always says no such word as can't too, just when I get a bit down small things take on a bigger importance than they should. I try only to rely on myself these days as so many friends have let me down but just sometimes it would be nice to know there was someone who would come and cheer me up when I'm feeling low. Do feel I need to tackle confidence a bit but that'l have to come later -think I've got enough to be goin on with at minute.

Have just done peel no 2 might tackle my nails later.
Rest day on excercise front. Didn't sleep too well last night and think I deserve a day off any way
Still trying to remember to chew things 20 times.
Keep going everyone , it'l be worth it in the end.

lessonlearned

My goodness, day 25 already, how time flies.

Just a quickie, I'm in the middle of a major reshuffle upstairs - wish I hadn't started, but needs must.

I have decided I really must have some help putting OH to bed at night, not fair to keep relying on DS2, and SS have now allocated funds. Only problem is the carers want to come a little too early for OH's liking.

However, I am covered in bruises due to the moving and handling - found a particularly nasty one on one of my breasts this morning so I've decided to bite the bullet and start with evening carers too.

In order to make this more palatable for OH I'm turning his bedroom into a mini sitting room - so I can be with him for an hour or so in the evening, whilst he goes to bed. The TV is already set up and he has his own PC in there, so I've moved out all the "bedroomy" chest of drawers etc and put a comfy armchair in there for me.

Anyway it's ship shape for now and I can sort out the clothes and bits and bobs over the next couple of days.

Treatments today - mini manicure, also made myself some oils and potions. Will post recipes in a day or so when less busy. Skin feels a bit less itchy after a banana mask and one of my serums.

Lizzie - chin up - baby steps. I know what you mean about friends letting you down.

I had a major disappointment with two lifelong friends, known them for over 40 years. Neither of them have been to visit OH since he became ill (2006). One of them hasn't even picked up the phone to see if I'm coping ok. No doubt their excuse would be that they can't bear to see him the way he is now. My answer to them? - tough! What a pathetic excuse.

They both sent me a birthday card for my 60th birthday. As far as I'm concerned - far too little - far too late. Do they really think that a birthday card could possibly make up for their neglect. It's funny how it takes something serious like an illness or some misfortune to show you who are your true friends and who are the fair weather ones.

My advice Lizzie - ditch those old unfaithful unreliable friends and make some nice new ones. Friends like that are not worth the heartache.

Harsh? Maybe but you really don't need so called friends who let you down or make you feel bad.

Off to cook dinner, The Apprentice final tonight. Should be fun. Agree about Torchwood - was a tad disappointed at how "Americanified' it was. Still good for a laugh though.

G'night all x