Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

maman

lessonlearned wrote: »

Speaking of new leaves - my new mantra - Early Nights (at least before midnight - that's early for me).

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Unless you're multitasking by sleeping, reading and surfing then your mantra hasn't worked LL!!!

Totally agree about 'we're doing this for ourselves!' Remember that!

Welcome all newbies. This is a lovely thread for advice (and a bit of a chat).

bratz81

Bitsy Beans, Maman, lesson learned, and everyone else, thanks so much for the kind words and comments I really do appreciate it! Brought a tear to my eye at how nice everyone is

I know that my low self-confidence and depression attacks are as a result of being mentally abused while growing up - when you're constantly told you're not good enough and you're fat, ugly, stupid etc you start to believe it. I'm working on getting out of that and I'm getting better but I still get bouts of it.

Charity shops are a good idea, I didn't think of it to be honest. there's a good few in and around Belfast so once I get paid on Monday I'll have a squizz round and see what's there.

lessonlearned

maman wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Unless you're multitasking by sleeping, reading and surfing then your mantra hasn't worked LL!!!

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Oops I got side tracked - again. Was in bed by 1-00pm - a bit better:rotfl:
Problem is I'm quite the night owl.

Good morning everyone, Hello Buffy - Welcome. :T:T on the debt free - noticed your signature. Well done.

In a minute just going to write all my thank you notes for my birthday presents, will post and hand deliver them this morning. I was really spoilt - amongst my goodies I got a voucher for a local beauty salon - so a nice treat coming up there. The anti-aging facial I think.:)

A trip to Sainsbury's and a mooch round the charity shops and markets this morning whilst carer is here.

This afternoon will need to finish re-organising the bedrooms. So a busy day.

Hope you are all well and sitting nicely whilst you read this - PP (Perfect Posture).:rotfl:

See you later

Mrs W - where are you, are you ok, Yummymommy, Elantan PK, Harry'snan, - not heard from you for a while. Hope all is well.

podperson

Welcome Buffy and all the other new people I've no doubted missed :wave:
Bratz - I love charity shops, great way to spend a morning hunting for a bargin, bought 2 tops from them before I went away and got some nice compliments on them, one woman looked gobsmacked when I told her where I got it from!

So last night was trying to get back into things. Did my shred, seemed so much harder after over a week off, found myself having to do stops again. Then had a nice long shower, did my hair and my moisturing etc. Was going to do my nails but OH was feeling a bit down yesterday so we ended up having a mess on some games and having a cheeky drink (on a Monday, tut tut, lol!)

Am rather happy as I measured myself last night and have lost half an inch each from tummy, arms and thighs and the scales are telling me around half a stone in weight since 2 weeks ago. My scales are a little dodgy so I don't take them as gospel but am happy with the inches :T

tru

bratz81, I've tablets and counselling for depression, they didn't work for me. Eventually I found a fantastic doctor who ended up giving me mini counselling sessions (not 'official' counselling, but I made normal surgery appointments when I needed to). He asked all the right questions - I didn't realise it at the time though - whereas others seemed to follow a textbook. He made me realise I'll always have it, but he taught me how to recognise it coming on and how to manage it. I still have my moments (steer clear of me for a couple of days when they happen!) but life is much easier now.

I was out in the fresh air all day yesterday. Well, as fresh as it can be with lots of planes taking off near you Just as well I love the smell of jet fuel, lol. Bit disappointed that I didn't see a B52 or F22 fly though. Anyway, being outside did me a world of good, I've had the best night's sleep I've had in ages.

I'm moisturised, made up and raring to go. Mr tru is still asleep

I'm still scribbling away. I've made a little notebook for my handbag, it's A6 size and has 50 pages - hope that's enough :rotfl: It's for writing down things that annoy me, as they happen. I've called it My Hatebook.

I have to go and drag mr tru out of bed and find somewhere interesting to go. Can't believe he's happy to sleep away his week's holiday

lizzie157

Not feeling good again. Went up to school and stood with a mum (not really a friend just someone I pass time of day with), people I know were walking past speaking to her and it was just as if I wasn't there. One even said "oh didn't notice you there when I spoke to her" I no its only a small thing I supose but it seems to happen to me all the time. One of the teachers made a fuss of her but again Imight as well not have been there. Made me think -she was fully made up and I wasn't , is that why. She's the same sort of personality as me so its not cos she's loud and I'm not. just wondered what everyone thought.
was going to doctors about everything getting to me but no appointments available so it'l have to wait.

did my nails and everything last night , need to do my nails again -was practising free hand french manicure so some need re-doing -it was too late last night.

Thanks for being here everyone it helps to get it down even if it 's only a silly thing to most people.

maman

ever felt like no one sees you?

:grouphug:sending you this Lizzie, 'cos it sounds like you need it (and for anyone else to share:)). I do understand where you're coming from with that invisible feeling. I went through that a few years ago when I felt that was the the attitude of people out and about (shop assistants etc) to me. It was in sharp contrast to my job at the time where I was i/c and so very much noticed. I'm not making light of anyone with genuine depression but in my case I think it was mainly a case of tiredness, looking like a bag lady and needing to come to terms with getting older. I think (and I hope this doesn't sound too dramatic) but I was sort of grieving for the slim, vivacious, interesting person I used to be. I remember going into town, needing to buy new clothes but not fancying any and really hating myself.

I've since given up the job, although at first that was really tough because it had been so time consuming and part of my identity. I've cut down on my wine consumption and best of all lost weight!! This may sound like a very superficial solution but it's worked for me! I still get some guilt feelings that I'm looking after my body and neglecting my mind but I'll get there.

If you're still with me, thanks for listening!;) I think what I'm trying to say is that if you can look confident then you can act confident and people respond to you differently.

I'm still feeling a bit queasy today and beginning to wonder whether meal that I had out on Sunday may be responsible, I had a big cheeseboard after:o and it may have been too rich as cheese is one of the things I've really cut back on lately.

I've had a bath this morning which is very unusual for me. I wanted to have a long soak to let a highlighting shampoo take effect (trying to drag out expensive hair appointment for another week or so). I am all slathered:D, quick coat of polish on my toes, have filed my nails and will paint them later, hair blow-dried. I'm having a quiet day 'cos fairly busy rest of the week.

Take care all.

Bitsy_Beans

lizzie157 wrote: »

Not feeling good again. Went up to school and stood with a mum (not really a friend just someone I pass time of day with), people I know were walking past speaking to her and it was just as if I wasn't there. One even said "oh didn't notice you there when I spoke to her" I no its only a small thing I supose but it seems to happen to me all the time. One of the teachers made a fuss of her but again Imight as well not have been there. Made me think -she was fully made up and I wasn't , is that why. She's the same sort of personality as me so its not cos she's loud and I'm not. just wondered what everyone thought.
was going to doctors about everything getting to me but no appointments available so it'l have to wait.

Ah the curse of the playground <rollseyes> If my lot are anything like yours they all stand round in their little cliquey groups and never make the effort to talk to someone on their own (namely me!). there are a couple of mums I speak to but they are not there every day so the rest of the time I am a bit billy-no-mates. I wear make up etc but still get ignored by some (no idea why!) - I am putting it down to my face don't fit. Trying to look at it as their loss TBH as they are missing out on being friends with someone totally fabulous Hugs for you, hope you can get in to see the Dr soon xx

Tru - I had to laugh at your "Hatebook" but I actually quite like that idea, kinda cathartic I guess. Better out than in I say xx

Buffy and skipsmum - welcome :j

I think I need to make a visible bedtime routine list as I don't cleanse my face at night and I really ought to. Tonight is kids bath night so a mini spa for me at the same time Haven't done any extra exercise as I've been quite stressed and had a shockingly busy weekend but need to get back into the routine. My poor purple trainers are soooooo neglected :rotfl:

harrys_nan

from Lessonlearned "Mrs W - where are you, are you ok, Yummymommy, Elantan PK, Harry'snan, - not heard from you for a while. Hope all is well."

Hi, Im still here but more of a reader than a blogger.
Still doing my bit tho. Im off to Debenhams tomorrow to be measured for a bra that fits, lol. Always wear make up now, I think I lost my way a bit when I finished work because I wasnt ready to stop, I was made redundant after 25 yrs with same company then moved to a new area 180 miles from my family, but getting back on track now.
Need to lose weight as I cant find trouser's to fit, my hips and legs are a smaller size than my tummy :mad:
Keep up the good work everone, you all seem to be doing VERY well :T

vasseur

harrys_nan wrote: »

"Mrs W - where are you, are you ok, :T

I think Mrs W is at a festival this week?