Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

lizzie157

Bitsybeans- Ah the curse of the playground <rollseyes> If my lot are anything like yours they all stand round in their little cliquey groups and never make the effort to talk to someone on their own (namely me!). there are a couple of mums I speak to but they are not there every day so the rest of the time I am a bit billy-no-mates. I wear make up etc but still get ignored by some (no idea why!) - I am putting it down to my face don't fit. Trying to look at it as their loss TBH as they are missing out on being friends with someone totally fabulous .

This is exactly how I feel. Except perhaps for the last bit -maybe need to try and think abit more like that. Fortunately I no longer have to go into the playground at all any more as after today won't have any junior school age children - my youngest is off to secondary school in september. Whilst this is a good thing in that respect I think when Sept comes I need to resolve to get out and about more so as not to feel even more isolated than I do now. As I have few friends I could go for days without seeing any1 outside my immediate family.

LL- I think your right about losing my identity, i've spent over 20 yrs putting everone else before me. Its only over the last 6months or so I've started to want to do things just for me. Unfortunately this has made me realise lots in my life is lacking which I think has led to me frequently feeling down. I often feel on the edge of tears and constantly struggle to keep it together. My relationship isn't good for reasons don't really want to go into on here tbh which has probably made the friend issue seem more important than it should be.
Anyway I think maybe Tru's little book idea may be a good idea for me I need to focus on what I really want to change and go for it one thing at a time, try not to be impatient and think about myself a bit more, and hopefully this time next year I'l be in abetter place.

I'm off to get my eyebrows threaded again -just a cheap little treat that lifted me abit last time seeing the difference it made to my face. Today's a new day gonna try and put the last few days behind me, take your comments on board and look forward.
Thankyou all for being here and being so lovely.

Watty1

Lizzie I think that resolving to get out in Sept more is a great idea. I realised a couple of weeks ago that I can go days without seeing anyone unless a delivery driver comes by! So I too am resolving to get out a bit more. Need to look less like a scary scruffbag first tho. Working from home it is all to easy to just stay here in my office only going out to deal with the horses.

And as I shared earlier my relationship is the pits too...so huge understanding and sympathy on that front.

But we can do this ...I know we can.

maman

Watty1 wrote: »

But we can do this ...I know we can.

Too right you can!!! We all can!

Lizzie, I think it's quite normal to feel a bit like you do when youngest leaves primary. It's a bit of a milestone for everyone. You've got the right idea to plan for September.

I probably shouldn't have but I did laugh at your post Watty. If you're advised to have separate appointments in separate rooms then the only way is up!;) Well done for making an effort with yourself.

Your new laptop sounds great LL, what a lovely gift. I've been considering one for me but I'm worried that if I can just sit and surf anytime I want I'll waste more time than I do already:o

You're sounding very organised and motivated polesalot. Keep up the good work! I've yet to try OCM but I will SOON!

vasseur

maman wrote: »

You're sounding very organised and motivated polesalot. Keep up the good work! I've yet to try OCM but I will SOON!

Ah thanks but it is still my first week I will need a virtual kick up the behind before too long....

vasseur

Where do you all get your Evening Primrose from? I don't want to compromise quality over price but still want to be MSE.

I really do need to start taking it, I am an absolute cow at the best of times

What benefits do you see from taking it?

Bitsy_Beans

lizzie157 wrote: »

Bitsybeans- Ah the curse of the playground <rollseyes> If my lot are anything like yours they all stand round in their little cliquey groups and never make the effort to talk to someone on their own (namely me!). there are a couple of mums I speak to but they are not there every day so the rest of the time I am a bit billy-no-mates. I wear make up etc but still get ignored by some (no idea why!) - I am putting it down to my face don't fit. Trying to look at it as their loss TBH as they are missing out on being friends with someone totally fabulous .

This is exactly how I feel. Except perhaps for the last bit -maybe need to try and think abit more like that. Fortunately I no longer have to go into the playground at all any more as after today won't have any junior school age children - my youngest is off to secondary school in september. Whilst this is a good thing in that respect I think when Sept comes I need to resolve to get out and about more so as not to feel even more isolated than I do now. As I have few friends I could go for days without seeing any1 outside my immediate family.

LL- I think your right about losing my identity, i've spent over 20 yrs putting everone else before me. Its only over the last 6months or so I've started to want to do things just for me. Unfortunately this has made me realise lots in my life is lacking which I think has led to me frequently feeling down. I often feel on the edge of tears and constantly struggle to keep it together. My relationship isn't good for reasons don't really want to go into on here tbh which has probably made the friend issue seem more important than it should be.
Anyway I think maybe Tru's little book idea may be a good idea for me I need to focus on what I really want to change and go for it one thing at a time, try not to be impatient and think about myself a bit more, and hopefully this time next year I'l be in abetter place.

I'm off to get my eyebrows threaded again -just a cheap little treat that lifted me abit last time seeing the difference it made to my face. Today's a new day gonna try and put the last few days behind me, take your comments on board and look forward.
Thankyou all for being here and being so lovely.

I am not sure of your finances/working arrangements but is there anyway of fitting in some sort of hobby or social group into your week/month? Any book clubs or something running at your local library? Fancy the WI? How about a craft class once a week or once a month? That way it's not only a social outing for you it's a bit of nourishment for your soul xx


Oh dear have eaten lunch which was great. Then ate 2 donuts. Then a cherry bakewell <sigh> Every morning I wake up saying I am going to eat when I am hungry and every day I don't stick t it. Why? I feel tired which can be a trigger for me to eat (feel lethargic) and going to bed earlier isn't much of an option as a) me and H don't have much time together in eve due to DS who needs support going to sleep (and it's a late bedtime) and so far over the last two weeks one if not both of them have woken during the night. Cat wakes me between 5am and 6am wanted to be let out (not going for a cat flap as she kills too much stuff and she likes to bring it in the house :eek:). I think at this rate I'll need to break out the pile cream for the bags under my eyes :eek:

Oh shut up Bitsy this isn't going to do you any favours moaning now is it <wanders off muttering work with what you've got not what you'd like to have>

Bitsy_Beans

polesalot wrote: »

Where do you all get your Evening Primrose from? I don't want to compromise quality over price but still want to be MSE.

I really do need to start taking it, I am an absolute cow at the best of times

What benefits do you see from taking it?

I don't use Evening Primrose but I do buy my vits from here and they are excellent, great customer service

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

Struggling a bit with this new lap top s0 sorryfor errors. I will get better at this, DS2 shows me how to do stuff and then I promptly forget. (Can't remember how to highlight and bold - what a technophobe:D

Anyway had a good morning, except WW WI where I'd put 1lb back on. Never mind will just have to try harder. I have been silly this week with carbs.

Which brings me to Bitsy sounds like your struggling a bit. Problem with carbs (at least for me) is I crave them when I'm tired

However, they alos make me feel more tired in the long run. They give me an energy rush when I eat them - from the sugar rush -then an hour later I'm hungry again, my energy dips again and then I crave more carbs. I'm sure that for certain people carbs can be quite addictive. I now try to steer well clear.

Are you eating enough protein with your meals or are they mainly carbs such as wheat ie bread, pasta.

I'm off to plant some leeks and red cabbage plants I bought this morning - clearance sale - because it looks like rain is imminent - back later...

Carmen

Good morning everyone,

Lizzie, Watty, you are both sounding more positive in a fairly short time, good for you. It is only natural that when things a swimming along nicely WHAM life hits you with yet another problem/crisis etc. This is life and not to be taken personally. We deal with said WHAM as best we can and get back on track! I used to think 'what is the point/is it worth it' and yes it is worth it, ME TIME. I have come to the conclusion, if I cannot do anything about it, then I am going to try and not worry about it!!
Have you thought about joining a club, do you have a hobby you have put on hold, some of the ladies here have mentioned making clothes (inspired/ renewed interest by our resident seamstress LL ) Poles does her Pilates and pole dancing, Pod in the choir (Edinburgh festival well done) there are so many options ranging from costly to free, it took me a long time to find something that I enjoy doing (even fancied bell ringing, still do) so you may have to try a few options before you find the one to suit you. Even just social interaction can be enough for some. :grouphug: Chin up, good posture;)

Welcome back Mrs W, sounds as if you had a great time, how did your ankle hold out? I have never been to a festival, sounds like fun. I used to go to concerts at the Royal Albert Hall, Diana Ross, Three Degrees and even ventured to Paris to see Tina Turner in concert when she was 50 (fantastic) went again when she turned 60 but did not expect as much but she was just as fantastic, such energy put my aching legs to shame :rotfl::rotfl: Those were the days!

School run, unfortunately playground behavior can spill out of the school gates to the parents:( I agree with Maman :hello: just a smile/hello can often work, if your efforts don't work then I agree it's their loss! You have tried, no takers, move on, you do not need added negatives in your life Just continue to say hello/smile, after all you don't need to let your standards drop

Heavens, I started this post this morning :eek: multi-tasking doing eat up the time

to be continued...

Carmen

...Oops, looks as if some of us were on the same wavelength when posting today, sorry for going over some of the same!

Jelly, I hope today is one of your better days?

The only thing that worked for me during the monthly cranky days was vitamin B6, it did not stop my craving for chocolate but at least I was happy eating it I was very lucky that my menopause lasted only a couple of months but my dear sis is really going through the mill with it! Just watching her flushes I can understand what some of you ladies are going through

LL, I was given a laptop for Christmas but like you it took a while to adjust to it. I am still useless with the pad thingy so I use a mini mouse which is easier for me. Here is a tuition link for cut/copy/paste, I hope it helps?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RbCA9N2y4M8&feature=related

1lb is nothing you will soon lose that.
Thanks for the recipe, it sounds so lovely I must try it soon.

Well, the sun is shining through the windows but, it is showing how mucky my windows are :rotfl: another job on my list.

MooLoo, many happy returns for tomorrow. :bdaycake:

Onwards and upwards.
Carmen xxxx