Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

Molly41

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Hello ladies.

Went shopping this afternoon. In a quandary re clothes. Want to look more stylish but it all seems to involve thin fabrics etc I want to look good but not be turning blue with cold. I want some nice winter knitwear but it's all chunky knits or cowl necklines, both of which are not very flattering for an apple shape <rollseyes> just feel a bit lost clothing wise.

!!!!!! last time i felt well and truly fabulous.....my wedding day 7 years ago :o probably the one and only time :o I know I can't expect to feel fabulous all the time, that's not realistic but c'mon I need to feel it more than once in 36 years :eek::eek:

Have you tried FatFace and Whitestuff? They have some lovely knits in atm which are very good for layering x

bratz81

morning all.
Haven't been posting but still been lurking and fabbing, I promise!! Need to redo my nails mind you they're starting to chip a tad but I'm out tonight visiting my niece on her 1st b'day so they will have to wait til tomorrow night.

Got some bad news (or what could be bad) from the dr over the weekend - who gives someone potentially bad news in a letter?! So have been feeling a bit emotional but not as emotional as I would have been - which I think is due to feeling better about myself and more confident in my ability to cope. So thanks to this thread for that

Bitsy_Beans

Molly41 wrote: »

Have you tried FatFace and Whitestuff? They have some lovely knits in atm which are very good for layering x

Nope not heard of them do they have websites? I will investigate.

Bratz sorry you've had come bad news xxxx

LL hugs for you too xxx

Callisto I forgot to mention you in my last post, hugs for you and your poor parents and their business. I hope they dont have to close it down xxx

Maman nice to see you posting

Dark and wet and windy here. Feeling tired as I was up in the night with the kids. Still must crack on, time and tide waits for no man

lizzie157

LL, you amaze me you really do You have so much on your plate (obviously all nice healthy stuff now ) & yet you still take time to offer advice & guidance to everyone on here - not just any old advice, but well thought out & appropriate words of wisdom to whoever you're 'talking' to.


Exactly how I feel – my problems are insignificant compared to yours and yet.... you still have empathy. I'm sure that everything will work out for you, I know you'l find the positives in there. I think the plan for xmas sounds just the job to make sure you and your family have a lovely xmas together. No matter how much you would like to keep OH at home you know its not physically possible without your own health suffering and i'm sure no one wants that. I know that it'l be hard but think of the quality time you'll get to spend together without the stress you feel at the moment.
I am thinking of you and wishing you well.



Callisto – sorry things are difficult for you. Don't stop posting, I feel the same my fabbing is definitely on the back burner at the moment but the support on here is amazing. We wiil get back on track in time.


Skymist- I'm aiming to feel that way one day. It seems to me that once you enjoy your own company it no longer matters so much when others are thoughtless towards you.


Sophistica- really interesting post. Think you may be right its time to get tough and cut out the rot in my head and my life.


Hi to anyone I haven't mentioned – I am keeping up with you all!



Well the counselling service have been in touch and I have an appointment for next week so hopefully I can make a start on being more positive.




If you need or want to drive - well there's next years New Year's Resolution staring you in the face.


Unfortuately its abit of a chicken and egg situation without the money from a job I can't learn to drive and without being able to drive my employment oppertunities seem limited. I did go with a friend years ago but when I came to needing the proper driving instructor lessons with a small family to care for the finances just weren't there and never have been since. But yes one day I hope it will happen.


Anyway have decided that perhaps the first thing I need to do is stop that voice of negativity in my head telling me I can't do things, I made myself look silly in that situation, I'm not valued etc.


now I know this isn't going to be easy and its even more so when you have someone chipping away at you all the time (my partner), but i'm going to try really hard. Think that might be enough for now – baby steps!!



Apart from that I will continue with the face exercise, and using a touch of foundation or blemish balm before I ventur put even if it is just walking the dog.
Talking of which its time to go forth into the windy woods with the dogs, before going shopping.


Thanks again all of you – can't thank you enough for all the support

floss2

Lizzie, why not treat yourself to some tinted moisturiser and a lip balm - baby steps, but so nice for your face & lips when you're walking the dog in the wind!

P.S. Great news about the counselling!

fedupandskint

Very good idea there floss

Lizzie - how about this? You could start with a tinted moisturiser, lip balm then progress onto a good mascara and maybe a light neutral eye shadow then a shade of blusher that suits you.Take it one step at a time, maybe increase by one a week and then see if you feel any different by week 4

Not much fabbing going on here apart from the usual skincare routine - just about to slather on a face mask for a bit then take off nail off and then reapply as I love this colour. Oh yes, did get some fabbiness today as more people noticed I'd lost weight and told me about it! I'll have to stop going on about this soon as I think I'm boring them all about this!

Molly41

fedupandskint wrote: »

Lizzie - how about this? You could start with a tinted moisturiser, lip balm then progress onto a good mascara and maybe a light neutral eye shadow then a shade of blusher that suits you.Take it one step at a time, maybe increase by one a week and then see if you feel any different by week 4

I think I will follow this plan too. I am putting mascara on but have not gone any further and I would like to:j

I have been out and about today with my eldest son. He has been having a difficult time and needed some new clothes as he honestly looks like a tramp somedays. I thought I needed to inject some Fabness into him too.

I have also managed to get my ear-rings in again. I struggle to keep them in as my ears get sore but I love wearing them. Anyway I will persist. I thank goodness now for my Fab routines. If I didn't have them I think I would be really struggling this week. Hugs x

fedupandskint

That's exactly what I've done over the last 12mths

When I felt very low in mood and down I thought its about time I started wearing my jewellry again and I thought everyone would notice and point it out to me to make me feel self conscious. In reality this did not happen and it was just how I thought about others and myself. I set myself a little challenge to introduce a new item per week

1. Make up - neutral look and light for day wear
2. Earrings next week
3. Necklace or beads the week after
4. Wear all together if not doing and finally after a long time of not bothering, a slick of lippy or lipgloss

It worked well for me taking it week by week and now its part of my routine and I have rediscovered my love of earrings which I let go of when I wanted to be invisible in a corner with no one noticing me. This phase of my life is now over and I'm happy where I am and what I wear and look like. No new clothes really as can't afford them, wearing what I have so maybe its my mood that lifts me up now.

I thought I'd pop this on here as it worked for me and it might for you too

Anyway, face mask on a Tuesday evening - that's a new one for me and its been on and gone now with a slathering of oil and moirsturiser. I'm going to try hard and fit in a new evening in the week to do this as part of my skincare routine

vasseur

LL - great news about OH coming home for 3 weeks. Nice to hear you have a good support network should you need it.

Bratz - sorry to hear you've had bad news.

Molly - great idea to extend the fabbiness to your son!

Lizzie - great news about the counselling. I know you probably don't realise it but your posts are starting to sound more positive already.

Bitsy - hope you get a better night's sleep tonight.

Callisto - sorry to hear about your parents' business. Hope something happens to turn things round for them soon.

:grouphug: to anyone who needs one.

Not really much fabbing going on here apart from the usual stuff. I've been drinking half a pint of milk every night in an effort to get my nails into a decent condition for xmas so i suppose that counts. I went for my second run of the week today.

I've done some housework and there's a loaf doing in the BM so the house is looking and smelling fab too AND...........................................................................
I have just written all my xmas cards!! Don't you just hate me right now? I don't think I've ever got them done in November before..

fedupandskint

Just taken my measurements and have lost another half inch from chest, hips and thighs - very pleased and smiley about this now! Might brave the scales tomorrow to see if any weight has disappeared over the last week