Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

Callisto

I'm still keeping up with the thread, but don't feel I have anything to offer fab-wise at the moment. I am struggling to keep up with healthy eating and exercise, and constantly arguing with OH. My parents business is failing as well, they do have someone interested in buying it, but the buyer is really dragging his feet over completing the purchase. My parents have no more money to pay the business expenses next month, so if the buyer doesn't complete the purchase soon, they will have to close it down. I feel so sad for them as this business was my Dad's dream, and he stands to lose all of his savings he put into it. I am trying to support them as best I can.

Hugs to all those who are feeling down. We will get through this.

Willow92

Hello everyone, really sorry I haven't been posting. I've been on Work Experience and I still have another 2 weeks to go. I have presents to make and wrap but I don't think I have enough time to do everything. Fabbing and weight loss have gone out the window coz I've had absolutely no time to do anything.

Hope you're all okay.

Molly41

Good Morning x
My apologies to !!!!!! - I meant to welcome you in my last post but got distracted by the dogs. I cross-posted with you too! Anyway a belated Welcome from me and I look forward to getting to know you x

Im a bit down this morning as hubby and DD are, as we speak, about to take-off on a trip of a life-time to New York. DD has worked and saved hard and was so disappointed to miss out out on Uni. Hubby just does so much for me and the family and deserves this break so much. I just wish I could have gone with them but I can't fly and would be a hindrance. I have just comfort ate a whole bowl of custard and four chocolates - so will try and regain control!!

Did my FAB shower and routines last night so will get dressed soon and face the day xx

tru

pink_poppy wrote: »

LL, you amaze me you really do You have so much on your plate (obviously all nice healthy stuff now ) & yet you still take time to offer advice & guidance to everyone on here - not just any old advice, but well thought out & appropriate words of wisdom to whoever you're 'talking' to.

Well said :T

LL you are the most selfless person

Molly You know where we are if you're feeling a bit teary

Yesterday I ate three meals. I didn't feel hungry inbetween so there were no snacks. Though I will confess to opening a tin of Roses last night, but the Coke ad has been on telly which means it's officially Christmas so therefore allowed

I was asleep by 10.30pm, woke up at 5.45am and didn't wake once during the night :j

I had a 'normal' coffee this morning. Twenty minutes later, my head felt a bit fuzzy for a few minutes then I was buzzing (not sure how to describe it, buzzing is the only word I can think of!). I've already got the washing on, cleaned out the chickens and cleaned the kitchen.

Mr tru knows he's been naughty, lol. Yesterday, he hoovered, did all the washing up, made most of the teas and coffees and cooked a roast.

Skymist

!!!!!! and lizzie , my heart goes out to you both as I am in the same boat!! The Grim Reaper has claimed my parents, partner and many friends. My son lives on the other side of the world,( thank goodness for Skype), and some of the remaining "friends" I had eventually proved themselves to be just fair-weather friends!!

For the first couple of years, I felt really lonely and isolated, especially this time of the year with Christmas coming bringing with it it's focus on family, along with many death anniversaries, especially as I am an extrovert by nature and really enjoy the company of others. But I thought to myself, I could carry on feeling as I was....and be continually immersed in feelings of lonliness along with it's pal, depression, OR I could change my outlook and therefore how I feel. Well, I did the latter, and now find that I actually enjoy my own company, doing what I want, when I want and how I want, without having to compromise for anyone, and now any social interactions I have are on my terms instead of being dictated to by others!! A bit selfish I know, but then like most women, I'd always put others in front of me, catering for all their wants and needs first, before mine!

It's true what they say about how changing your viewpoint changes your world!!

A word or two to you, if I may, LL.....PLEASE don't be so hard/down on yourself. Remember all the years of love that you and your OH enjoyed and spent together, and treasure them. His physical disabilities are no-ones fault and you have done EVERYTHING in your power to care for him.Try and release yourself from any guilt trying to make it's way insiduously into your mind and soul. I'm SURE that the man you have known and loved all these years would not want you to suffer, mentally or physically, just because you are no longer able to give him the full-time care that he needs. Also, I think resentment could creep in when you force yourself beyond you physical capabilities. If I've spoken out of turn, please tell me to mind my own business!

I am SO GRATEFUL for this thread and all the wonderful women who post here and share their lives, with all it's ups and downs...you help me stay sane, with all your warm interactions and support....THANK YOU ALL. XXX

S

floss2

fedupandskint wrote: »

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Christmas work do outfit is
Grey dress I have slimmed into with exposed zip at back
Burgundy booties
Black pearl earrings and necklace
Greige nail varnish
Copious layers of make up stored in the cupboard
Black Betty Jackson jacket worn once
Jigsaw tiger sequin pattern clutch bag (not used for along time)
Either blue glitter tights or black floral control ones - will see which ones look best. I decided not to buy a new pair for this night out and wear the pairs I have in the drawer first...

Go floral - think the blue glitter may be a bit not quite right with the burgundy booties that sound fab!

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

... I haven't by comparison experienced a great deal, only been abroad 4 times in my 36 years (one of which was when I was 6 LOL), haven't dated lots of blokes, haven't had numerous jobs, gone to Uni etc. But when I think about it I met my H when I was 18, we were friends first and then go together as a couple. So at 21 I was buying my first home, we earned very little so all the money we had went on living expenses etc. So really whilst my friends were galavanting I was building a home and a relationship. Is that really something for me to be ashamed of? I am not as well travelled or well versed as some but if life is a race then it's only with yourself, not other people. Plus I tend to think what grass looks greener generally isn't all it looks. This is your negative self image talking, that little gremlin inside that likes to keep you in your place, unhappy, no self confidence. With practice you can learn to tell it to !!!!!! (I'll leave it to your imagination what that refers to :rotfl:)

I'm very similar to you Bitsy - no uni, engaged at 18, married at 20, kids at 22 & 24 (who are now off in the world in their mid twenties! ). Yes we went through a few bad patches & got divorced 10 years ago, but I'm now very happily married to a lovely man who has 2 degrees and travels the world for his job, so no need for me to do it!

Anyway, the world would be a boring place if we were all the same!!

maman

:wave: it's taken me so long to catch up with weekend's postings I have to go now!

I'll send huge hugs to !!!!!!, lizzie, skymist and LL then slope off and return later.

maman

I'm so sorry to hear many of you are feeling down at the moment. Hope today finds you feeling a bit brighter. I know I won't remember to talk to you all individually but I'm thinking of you all. I, too, love the idea of virtual sisters. I don't have a RL sister so it's great for me.:)

LL I just KNOW you're doing the right thing by you DH, however hard it must be at the moment. It's a period of readjustment for you both. I'm certain you know this in your heart of hearts and there's no way you're doing him any good by jeopardising your own health. Hang on in there.

I've had a great weekend with friends and family (and trying not to feel guilty about it in the circs). I'm now trying to have a quiet couple of days as we're off again on Thursday. After that I'll try and sort out Christmas. I don't do much, just some gifts for DGDs and some small tokens for a few friends. Then it's food. DH is (as I type) writing cards as he's got a lot of friends and family overseas that he's met through genealogy and they need posting. DH and I do buy something for each other but it's generally something we want just to open in front of DGDs.

We had a good day on Friday with DD2. Did the right thing and bought her birthday gifts and lunch. She's quite good company but I'm still cross with her. She called in yesterday (very briefly to collect something), stood in the hall chatting for 5 minutes and then went. I could cope with that but SIL stayed in the car which he'd parked down the road so we didn't even see him. Strange behaviour??? We've not fallen out or anything that I'm aware of. Part of me doesn't care but I know DH gets upset as we don't get to see much of DGD2 as a result and he'd love to influence her upbringing. Last saw her when we took her to Normandy in October and probably next see her after Christmas.

Well done on your Freedom outfit sparkles, it sounds very stylish. I know my wedding outfit wasn't free but it was very cheap and I felt great in it. I'm so delighted that I didn't go out and buy something expensive and wasteful. I've already worn the £22 dress three times so that's making it a real 'cost per wear' bargain.

My daily fabbing routine is washing with a facewash then moisturise and eye cream. I do occasional OCM but am working on making it more regular. I'm ashamed to say that taking make up off at night is a relatively new experience for me:o as I've only just started wearing it in any quantity. If I do then I just use a hot flannel to wake me up in the morning then moisturise as before. Hair I do every other day as I have to style it properly. I'd just love 'wash and go' hair but it's not to be.

Must go again....to be continued.

mugwump79

:jHello everyone!

Hope you are well and have had a lovely weekend.

I have been thinking about the word fab, well fabulous actually. I was trying to think of the last time I ever felt truly fabulous and being honest (not being in the dumps or miserable, just being matter of fact) I dont think I have EVER felt fabulous.

Isnt that awful!:o I dont even know how to get there

I want to feel good for me, I want to walk past strangers with my head held high and a glint in my eye, but I walk past with my head down, always have.

Do your loved ones make you feel fab? Is it a perfume I can buy? A pretty dress or some killer heels? I dont know..
Answers on a postcard peeps! :rotfl:

Molly41

The answer !!!!!! is how you feel about yourself. To me Fabness describes the things you do and the way you think about things that make you feel better about yourself ! Treating yourself with respect, time and energy, making time to have a basic skincare, nurturing yourself with good food, lovingly prepared, a warm bath, planning outfits. I have worked on my home surroundings and have made it more comforting. All little things taken on their own but when added together they have a cumulative effect and gradually you start to feel better about yourself. Very slow but steady progress, one thing at a time xxx