Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

lessonlearned

Yesterday I allowed myself a little wallow, today it's time to fight back.

Hence the title - It's a New Day.

The sun is shining. Here's the plan.

Back to some serious Fabbing. A bath, a face pack. Put on some slap and wear something nice. Perfume:D

Back to proper healthy eating - high energy proteins, fruit & veg - no cr*p

Exercise - some easy back stretches.

The house is a tip and I need to do lots of SS stuff etc this week.

So my goals this week will be

Physio
SS stuff/sort and file paperwork
Finish a bit more jewellery to take in
Clean and tidy the house - perhaps just one room a day
Plant tulips - if back and weather permit

That's enough for starters - I'm going to take things steadily.

Tru & Lizzie - join me - it's back to basics time.

Remember the Elephant - if you're feeling overwhelmed by the task ahead - break it down into manageable chunks.

It's a new dawn, a new day ............I love Nina Simone.

Bye for now x

fedupandskint

You sound much brighter today. I'm feeling a little brighter too today. Must be the bright and breezy weather out there! I'm about to fab myself up with a full hair treatment session and skincare facemask session too. After i've finished the cleaning that is. Setting an hour's deadline to do this in then its fabby time for me!

Love the term virtual sisters - so c'mon sisters lets go for it today and see if we can add in an extra fabby layer we normally don't do

tru

Thank you ladies

I'm not on any meds, all the lows are just inside the normal range on the charts. He also said that the charts are averages and while they're a great guide, they don't mean that everyone has to aim for the exact centre of normal. After lots of blood tests (each set - six at a time! - taken after one of his suggested lifestyle changes), my blood sugar levels, cholesterol and pressure didn't change. So he said they were my normal.

I used to buy chocolate and save it for certain days - wednesday and saturday afternoons. Those were the times when I was on my own, I'd get everything done in the morning then enjoy the choc while doing something I really wanted to do, usually reading or watching a film.

Now though, I have it almost every day and get really annoyed if there's none in the house. I don't even enjoy it half the time, the first few squares are wonderful then I eat the rest just because it's sat there beside me. I've never thought about the caffeine connection before, that's interesting :think: I'll stick to my new plan for a couple of weeks and see if the cravings disappear.

LL I'm joining you, back to basics it is

lizzie157

thanks everyone
LL yes i'l join you in back to basics. I know what Bitsy says is true but because i'm unhappy it does matter. I much the same as you Bitsy, met my OH very young, had children young but now i feel as if i missed out on being me. I'm not even sure who me is any more. I need to make changes, that i know but because its so overwhelming i seem to go year after year coasting along. Although if i think i have done a computer course, 2 ou courses and am on ou course no 3. Its just that i can't see that these are gonna help in the long term, I want a part- time job but in that respect experience not bits of paper are what counts. I really like the dog walking business idea but don't know where to start and as i can't drive its probably not going to happen.
As for telling people to "go away" maybe thats exactly what i need to do, all i know is that having "friends" who don't do anything but make me feel down isn't doing me any good. So yes maybe its time to go it alone -learn to love me.

Tru- sending hugs. Lets think of ourselves for a change. it'l be hard for me, think i'm programmed not to upset anyone but FT i've put them first for long enough. You do the same tell them no- my hip says no - do whatever it takes for you to stay comfortabe as possible.

Anyway off to watch son play footie.
I WILL make myself put on abit of foundation and face the day.
I'l be back when i'v thought of my plan of action- the baby steps- and thanks again for being here.

vasseur

:grouphug:to everyone that needs them. Some really good points there from Bitsy - we really are in competition with ourselves and the grass isn't always greener. As I hurtle toards 40 I have found myself re-evaluating lots of things and think that I haven't really achieved much. I haven't travelled much, I've only had 3 jobs in the last 21 years and although what I'm doing now is quite well paid (especially for a local job) it's not really what i want to do but I lack the guts to change it Then i think I'm actually not doing too badly - I have my beautiful daughter, surely my greatest achievement, we have a small but lovely home and I have done it all on my own. Although the last few weeks have been pretty rotten I am starting to feel more content and I know that I'll be fine.

Woooo...that turned into a bit of an essay

We have had a lazy day today. I had a migraine yesterday and it still hadn't gone this morning :mad:. I get these every so often and they wipe me out for a couple of days. I'm just feeling a bit bruised and sore now.

Just had a lovely bath with some de-stressing bubble bath, used my HM sugar scrub and did the OCM. Removed nail varnish so will massage nice handcream in later. Won't put any more nail varnish on - I don't want to start another migraine up!

lessonlearned

Popped over to see OH, he's a bit up and down. I am suffering terrible guilt pangs - don't really know how to overcome them.

I keep trying to work out scenarios and think of ways in which he would be able to come home but I really don't see how I could possibly make it work. Family and friends are all telling me it's time and I'm doing the right thing. It still feels awful though.

There are really no easy answers to this one. Without doubt this is by far and away the hardest thing I've ever had to contend with.

Anyway I have managed to eat sensibly, wear make up and dress nicely - so not too bad for a start.

In a moment will remove make up, a good slathering and a mini manicure. Maybe a little session with the jewellery making.

An early-ish night I think.

Lizzie - once you've thought about your plan of action - write it down - post it here if you like. Writing it down will help you to make a commitment to yourself and help you stay focussed.

What kind of part time job would you like. If you are not desperate for the money could you volunteer in that particular field or something closely related so that you could gain some experience.

It might seem that your OU courses are not related to anything but the fact that you've successfully completed them will show an employer that you have commitment, are organised enough to study, are capable of learning, and that you demonstrate initiative and are prepared to work hard. These are admirable qualities and will easily translate into the world of work.

If you need or want to drive - well there's next years New Year's Resolution staring you in the face.:rotfl:

That would be a great challenge and an excellent launching pad for the "new improved fab new you".:D

Someone (can't remember who) once said "If you can think it, you can do it".

Visualise yourself driving a nice little estate car, your company name on the side and with a couple of dogs in the back. If that's what you want then that's the picture you need to keep in your head. It's yours for the taking.

pink_poppy

LL, you amaze me you really do You have so much on your plate (obviously all nice healthy stuff now ) & yet you still take time to offer advice & guidance to everyone on here - not just any old advice, but well thought out & appropriate words of wisdom to whoever you're 'talking' to.

Please try not to feel guilty about your OH, I know you must feel so bad about the whole thing but moving him into the home permanently is the right thing to do & deep down you & OH know that. Of course that doesn't make it any easier - all you can do is just take one day at a time & you know that we will be here for you if/when you need to pour your heart out, just as you are always here for us.

Sorry if that last bit was a bit soppy

lessonlearned

Sorry to hear about the migraine. Nasty things. Take care and get some rest.

lessonlearned

pink_poppy wrote: »

L

Sorry if that last bit was a bit soppy

Not at all - you're just very kind and supportive. Thank you.

fedupandskint

I'm glad we're sounding brighter today.

As for me, i got up to date with all the housework washing and ironing, took the dog on the pleasant afternoon stroll. Then came back to do the pre wash hair treatment, shampoo, hair mask and conditioner alongside a face exfoliation and mask then slathered on oil and moisturiser. Greige nail colour looks nice too and withstood lots of hard work in the garden too.

Handcream applied and nail oil too.

See you all again tomorrow