Frugal Frump to Fab/Winter Solstice

fedupandskint

Skincare routine for me is
AM - gentle cleanse, tone, eye cream and moisturise and then make up light daytime work look
PM - remove eyemake up and mascara, thorough cleanse x 2, tone eye cream and moisturise or face oil or balm and then layer moisturiser ontop

Weekend - try and fit in a gentle exfoliate after cleansing then a face mask and then pm moisturiser routine

mugwump79

Hello, I promise that I will be a lot less hit and miss here than I have been, I have been lurking but havent really had much to contribute.

I have started calorie counting these last two weeks and have so far lost 7.5 lbs, which I am happy with, just got to keep going and remind myself that slow and steady wins the race;)

Lizzie157 your post really struck a chord with me about feeling lonely. I have no friends. Yep, thats no friends. Unfortunately having a child with a disability means you cant pop out for chats or coffees without weeks of planning, all my friends have dissappeared and I too am lonely.

I do try to join in with my sons school activities but as my son gets picked up by bus (yes the sunshine buses that Jimmy Carr thinks is funny to poke fun at :mad: ) I dont get to mix with the other parents, so really do struggle meeting new people.

I would volunteer somewhere but as there are so many appointments with specialists, doctors etc I wouldnt be able to commit to certain days or times. Goodness me its difficult isnt it!!!

Anyhoo, sad to say I am done and wrapped for Christmas as being organised is my forte Have ordered most things on line as struggle with crowds and my son when Christmas shopping starts getting busy.

Gosh, I have rambled, I hope you are all well, sending you all a hug and some virtual ice cream, cake, or wine, or whatever you could do with.

I Promise with a capital P I will be here with you more often.

Big squishes
Louise:rotfl:

podperson

Lizzie - hope you're ok hun, I know it can be hard when it seems like your friends aren't there for you - I know that while I have quite a few people I'll see on a regular basis there's very few people I count as true friends. Maybe a little random but could post where abouts you are in the country and you might find you have a neighbour on here - just look at Molly and Mooloo.

LL - hope OH feels a bit brighter, going to a period of adjustment with anything like that. I think you mentioned earlier though that there's a low staff turnover there, which is good as if he has the same staff then am sure they will find it easier to understand him after a bit - I know my gran was the same and while strangers found it quite hard to understand her sometimes then those family and carers etc who had been around her just got to it.

Not feeling great today, bit of a cold and a bit self-inflicted after having a few beers last night. Have managed to get out and get my errand done this morning so going to have a nice quiet afternoon I think. Hope everyone else has a good day x

Molly41

My skin care is now -
Twice a week Fruit Rejuvenating Face Mask
Every morning - Sensitive Skin Face wash using LE muslin clothes, followed by Apricot Soothing Toner, Eye Serum and Marine Collagen Face Cream.
Night - Chamomile Cream Cleanser, Apricot Toner and Marine Collagen Face Cream


Disastrous morning but Im aware it's not half as bad as what some people are going through. Sold my car for pennies (literally). Then frantic phone calls from DS2 as he found out his bank had been hacked and he had lost all his birthday money - hundreds of pounds. He was in tears and so was I when I was told by NatWest that their fraud systems were down and there was absolutely NOTHING they could do. It is still down but we took the remainder of his money out before his card was cancelled, so no more damage can be done. Im so angry and upset for him - yes it is obviously fraud and he will get his money back but it was his birthday money and so has wiped his lovely post birthday smile off his face.

lessonlearned

Yes - I'm afraid I stood there at the checkout and just burst into tears. Luckily only my little local Tescos and not too many people there.:D

The checkout assistant was lovely - I sort of know her - we generally just chit chat and pass the time of day. Anyway she said hello and asked me if I was alright and that was it - the floodgates just opened.

How do I feel - as if I've done 10 rounds with Mike Tyson:(.

Went to see OH this morning - he seemed ok. He now has his computer all set up and working, plus his DVD player and of course he's all set for the footie and the motor racing this weekend, so has plenty to keep him going.

I know what the GP means about this all being worse for me than it is for OH. I feel terrible.

I wasn't sure what was going through OH's mind and was concerned that he had just assumed he would be coming home in a week or two as originally planned. The reality of course is that this is now very unlikely.

I have been terrified to broach the subject with him but after another sleepless night and another panic attack I knew I had to talk to him.

Well - what can I say - well he may not be exactly ecstatic at the idea however he is "happy enough" and accepts it with a good grace. He knows that after hurting my back so badly this is it - it's the end of the line as far as me caring for him at home. So it looks very much as if he will not be coming home again except for visits.

I just need to get the ball rolling with SS, however, won't let them remove all the equipment just yet so that he can stay here for a few days at Christmas. As long as the boys are here then I will manage well enough for a few days.

So as you can imagine it's all been a bit traumatic and my life is rather topsy turvey at the moment.

Don't know whether my body is in a state of shock or whether it's the flu jab but I feel shaky and shivery so just going to take it a bit easy for now.

Lizzie - you do sound rather low at the moment - as if you feel alone and abandoned. I know that it's probably the last thing you feel like doing but I suggest you try and chase up the counselling service.

Do you have any family you could spend some time with. I know families can drive us nuts at times but generally blood is thicker than water. My mum and dad drive me up the wall at times but I know there is a safe haven there if ever I really needed it.

My fab sister has just rang me and has offered to come round this evening. It would mean her having to drop everything and I know she would gladly do it.

However, TBH I'm happy enough just to stay here, keep warm and watch a bit of junk TV. DS2 is off today anyway, fussing like a mother hen. He's currently blitzing his room, bless.

I have to confess I have been eating silly things - ice-cream, chocolate, cake, biscuits, etc. I don't really care right now. There's more to life than rabbit food.

I'll get to grips with healthy eating and exercise when I'm feeling a little less raw. First I will need to book some physio - I can at least drive now and get to the clinic.

Anyway Lizzie - here's your silver lining. You've managed to do a bit of nesting - tidying up and making your living room nice and cosy. That's a very positive thing to do - so well done on that.

Anyway - I'm feeling rathe tired and just a bit shivery so going to get under a snuggle blanket and cosy up in front of the fire with a cup of tea, some cake and a nice DVD.

But first DS2 want's me to inspect his clean room.:D

Bye for now x

Molly41

Lots of love and hugs to you LL. I do think it is for the best and gradually you will all acclimatise. The flu jab had me under the weather for a good week so lots of warm toddies and comfort is the thing right now xx

vasseur

LL maybe the tears have helped you? It's really all about babysteps really and as someone else said (sorry can't remember who ) your OH will have down days like the rest of us. Well done for broaching the painful subject about him not coming home. Perhaps the tears were some kind of release knowing you had to say it all?

Not quite the same thing but I burst into tears in J0hn Lewis when my DD was 3 years old and having the mother of all tantrums and another customer came over and gave me a hug

Enjoy your DVD and don't worry about what you're eating - salad has never been a comfort food

My skincare routine:
AM wash face with dove soap in shower, moisturise.
PM take off makeup with cleansing wipe, smooth over bio-oil.
I'll do the OCM if I have an evening bath which is probably twice a week.

fedupandskint

A virtual hug sent to you LL with lots of love.

You have so much on your plate atm, I hope life improves for you and your family too. It sounds so hard on you now and lots to cope with too

Well as for me, I have run today, walked into town around and back, then long dog walk this afternoon so legs are a little tired now. Not much fabbiness going on here apart from usual skincare routine and nail oil application which is improving the ridges on my nails alongside the weekly buffing. Think I'll do a buff tonight and a nail oil massage while watching TV tonight.

Have a nice smelling stew in the oven and looking forward to this for tea tonight.

I've meal planned for next week, apart from 2 days - off to find a suitable recipe for tea for a couple of days. Trying to keep on track with the kcal allowance, gone over for most days but there will be a lot of exercise next week - a combo of running and walking to keep me burning it off and try and get to the final weight loss target, only 5lbs to go now and I'm there and the finishing line!

I sound chirpier than I feel - I will have to have the most frugal month in Dec I have ever had as I will have absolutely no spare cash at all. I have decided to buy nothing new for my work Christmas do apart from a £1 nail varnish today. I decided to try the greige colours out. Decided to go for this one instead of the free with magazine nails inc one as they keep chipping away merrily on my nails. Thought it was worth a try for £1!

Christmas work do outfit is
Grey dress I have slimmed into with exposed zip at back
Burgundy booties
Black pearl earrings and necklace
Greige nail varnish
Copious layers of make up stored in the cupboard
Black Betty Jackson jacket worn once
Jigsaw tiger sequin pattern clutch bag (not used for along time)
Either blue glitter tights or black floral control ones - will see which ones look best. I decided not to buy a new pair for this night out and wear the pairs I have in the drawer first

So, I am declaring a Freedom outfit - freeing up the clothes stored and not worn in my wardrobe - for my work night out! I'm sure it will look fine, no need to worry as I know everything fits and really its more about how you feel in what you wear and I know there is no need to buy a single thing for this night out. I just need to free up some cash to have a night out with. Might have to dip into my sealed pot savings for this and strictly budget for it

Molly41

I like the sound of your outfit in particular and Freedom Outfits as a principle. I have bought a lot of new clothes recently and really dont need to buy anymore so I shall be thinking on that concept.

Im not long for bed as my early start, courtesy of my tum, has caught up with me. I shall have a browse and hope you all enjoy your evenings and really hope you feel better in the morning LL xx

Molly41

polesalot wrote: »

My skincare routine:
AM wash face with dove soap in shower, moisturise.
PM take off makeup with cleansing wipe, smooth over bio-oil.
I'll do the OCM if I have an evening bath which is probably twice a week.

Please remind me what OCM stands for again? xx