Father's Day

Person_one

Newly_retired wrote: »

Sorry, I should have said, I'm his mum. So I know I'm not part of Father's Day, but surely I am part of the family?

So you have to be included in everything?

Let them have a relationship with the other side of the family without horning in, be a bit more gracious.

augustsmummy

How are you treated on Mothers Day?
If you are normally treated well by your son and daughter in law, I would let it pass. They may well have been invited by her parents, and therefore not your sons place to invite you.

Why not suggest a family day and include everyone?

POPPYOSCAR

I think you are making to much of this.

They had obviously made plans because of it being fathers day and I think you should respect that.

If it had been me I would have asked if it was ok to pop over the following sunday instead.

Why do you feel so left out?

McKneff

ah, that is so sad, I'm really surprised at him, his wife and the inlaws too for not including you.

Throughtless indeed.

To the others, no dad about, maybe mum was feeling sad about that, a little bit of thought would
have taken her mind off it.

Let it pass OP and dont dwell on it.

Ginger_Poodle

iamana1ias wrote: »

You're not part of your son's in-law's family, nor are you a father. I can't see a problem!

I would imaging that the problem is that, on a day when families often get together, it can be difficult to be alone. We don't know the family history or circumstances here so probably shouldn't judge. Alternatively perhaps as she had asked her son if she could come round and was pointedly excluded, she may feel a little hurt.

POPPYOSCAR

Newly_retired wrote: »

We don't really bother with such commercialised occasions either. But he does, and his in-laws do.

Who is we?

LegalBlonde

Ginger_Poodle wrote: »

I would imaging that the problem is that, on a day when families often get together, it can be difficult to be alone.

On Father's Day??? When you are a mum? Apart from remembering to buy my dad a card, the day means absolutely nothing to me, I am a female, not a father and it wouldn't matter if I spent the whole day alone even if every other family in the country was together. It's not Christmas!!!

Newly_retired

Hey! I'm just making conversation here!
I did say I wasn't even thinking about Father's Day when I asked about visiting.
I'm not mortally offended, just a bit puzzled. I'm not going to go into the circumstances. Suffice it to say that we don't get together very often because of distance and other commitments, whereas his in-laws live close by and they see a lot of them.

iamana1ias

Ginger_Poodle wrote: »

I would imaging that the problem is that, on a day when families often get together, it can be difficult to be alone. We don't know the family history or circumstances here so probably shouldn't judge. Alternatively perhaps as she had asked her son if she could come round and was pointedly excluded, she may feel a little hurt.

Well then perhaps she shouldn't try and invite herself around!

augustsmummy

Newly_retired wrote: »

We don't really bother with such commercialised occasions either. But he does, and his in-laws do.

I don't really understand why you are so hurt by his actions if you don't bother with the occasion. Your son would know you don't go in for it, and therefore may have thought you would not want to be invited?

I would just let it pass.