How to cope being the only one with more than 2 braincells...

polejunkie

WASHER wrote: »

Get him to phone the bank tonight on his return from work, the bank fraud team will help him. Why hasn't he contacted the bank/police to see where the money was transferred too? (I know the answer to that:D, my husband is the same!)

Because he didnt think I was telling the truth about getting scammed.
And then probably didn't tell me it had gone until i noticed in case I went off on one again.

Pollycat

polejunkie wrote: »

It has nothing to do with not being financially savvy, its basic common sense. Only an idiot would give out his bank details after being told they have won a holiday. At what part would alarm bells start ringing in your head?

I think you're being very harsh.

Many people have been victims of scams, some are very elaborate ones and some are pretty simple ones.

To describe all those people as 'idiots' is not nice.

How much has he lost?

polejunkie

Pollycat wrote: »

I think you're being very harsh.

Many people have been victims of scams, some are very elaborate ones and some are pretty simple ones.

To describe all those people as 'idiots' is not nice.

How much has he lost?

What would you like me to describe them as, shall we go the softly softly route in case we hurt their feelings? sugar coat the epic !!!! up and hope they dont do it again? , I would understand elderly people getting scammed but a so called savvy 32yr old? Pull the other one.

Pollycat

polejunkie wrote: »

What would you like me to describe them as, shall we go the softly softly route in case we hurt their feelings? sugar coat the epic !!!! up and hope they dont do it again? , I would understand elderly people getting scammed but a so called savvy 32yr old? Pull the other one.

Wow, you sound pretty nasty, judgemental and unsympathetic to me.

Rather than (as someone asked) do you really want to move in with someone with traits as your say your partner has, I'd be asking your partner if he's doing the right thing in moving in with you.

As far as the rest of this thread goes, I'm out.

balletshoes

did I read this right OP, you've been with your partner for a decade and he's always been like this?

MrandMrsB

What about a brain transplant? The artistic side of your OH's brain is so large that there is no space for anything else in there!! I thought only the elderly (assume he isn't) fell for the bank account trick. Seriously, it must be ever so frustrating for you.

Fortunately I am musical and very good with money, but there are other parts of my brain that are lacking (try talking to me about politics and I switch off, which is frustrating for my son who is politician). We are all very different.

As for not having money to equip your home, I could equip a home for free every month!! I have given such a lot away of Freegle / Freecycle that people offer things to me when I ask for them.

Can I suggest that if you have a local group, you give away some items that you don't need, and hopefully you will be able to furnish your new home for free. If you live near me (trouble is I don't want to give the location on here) I have lots of stuff to give away.

How does your OH propose to pay for the items for your home? If it's by credit card I suppose you could remove it from him, or have a chat with the bank perhaps?????

Even though Mr B has a degree in economics, trained to be an accountant and solicitor, and was a law lecturer, I look after our finances! He retired two weeks ago, but intends to work from home as a solicitor next year, with Mrs B working as his secretary / financial advisor!!

Good luck - sounds like you need it.

MrandMrsB

Pollycat wrote: »

Wow, you sound pretty nasty, judgemental and unsympathetic to me.

Rather than (as someone asked) do you really want to move in with someone with traits as your say your partner has, I'd be asking your partner if he's doing the right thing in moving in with you.

As far as the rest of this thread goes, I'm out.

Wait a mo, I would feel the same if my hubby did that! I am very careful with money, so I have a go at him for much less serious transgressions! He would have a go at me too!

Violetta_2

tomatoe wrote: »

I remember Sting had £7 million nicked from his account by his accountant and never noticed for years till someone else went over his finances. It may have been Phil Collins actually. One of them anyway.

I don't mean Phil was his accountant or went over the books.

Do you mean Phil took the money:eek: OMG always knew he was a dodgy geezer :rotfl:

polejunkie

balletshoes wrote: »

did I read this right OP, you've been with your partner for a decade and he's always been like this?

This is the biggest c o c k up so far, he has always been a bit dopey around the edges, he isnt a complete spanner as he can play around 7 instruments to very high standards to an intellect in one sense but a complete wet rag in the other.

He floats around in his own universe and very much like the 4th child,

MrandMrsB

You say he's artistic, but could he be autistic?? My son who has Asperger Syndrome is forever being conned. Unfortunately, even though his benefits are more than our joint pensions, I bail him out! (I am not pleading poverty since we have substantial savings because I look after the pennies!)