Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

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  • jojo-baby
    jojo-baby Posts: 88 Forumite
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    Had a lovely dinner out with BF over the weekend and I mentioned it and said how much I want to marry him and was he going to make me wait forever? When we had been together a year we went travelling to NZ and saw my best friend, she was single then, she is now engaged and I will be her bridesmaid in April, his response to this is "well you only moved here 6 months ago" which makes me angry as i moved here a year ago, which was bl00dy scary for me, and now we have been together for almost 4 years.... ok so 3 of those were long distance, but sooooo?
  • pigpen
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    newthrift wrote: »

    He did mention yesterday about ooo we have been together 5 years soon...(29th Jan). If he hasn't before that date believe me i'll be watching his every move:o:p



    6 years on 23rd March for us! and we've been living together just over 5 years and have 3 children.... waiting waiting waiting.
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  • jojo-baby
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    pigpen wrote: »
    6 years on 23rd March for us! and we've been living together just over 5 years and have 3 children.... waiting waiting waiting.

    oh pigpen you definately beat me then!
  • Whoop
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    6 years next month for me ��
  • 7roland8
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    Gosh cannot believe people are talking about this - as if women had to wait and hint! Sounds rather Victorian to me.


    We were together three years, got engaged and then married after a further 6 months - wedding organised within a week and no - not pregnant.


    Never got a proposal at all - we just knew we'd get married - talked about it and decided.


    Why all the waiting and fussing - if you all are supposed to know each other so well?
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  • waiting450
    waiting450 Posts: 6 Forumite
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    7roland8
    cant speak for the others but for me it I want to be asked, this is the one area of my life where I have to cede control to someone else and if they make the choice that they love me enough to spend the rest of their life with me then there is no higher respect and love to me.


    So yes it may be more fuss and more drama (very quietly in my case since I never mention it to him), but I feel it is worth the effort in the long run... Hope that helps explain!
  • PrettyKittyKat
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    7roland8 wrote: »
    Gosh cannot believe people are talking about this - as if women had to wait and hint! Sounds rather Victorian to me.


    We were together three years, got engaged and then married after a further 6 months - wedding organised within a week and no - not pregnant.


    Never got a proposal at all - we just knew we'd get married - talked about it and decided.


    Why all the waiting and fussing - if you all are supposed to know each other so well?

    It is a personal choice. You were happy to have a conversation about getting married, not have a proposal and to organise a wedding in a week, which was great for you as it was what you wanted. Personally I think this takes all the romance out of the occasion, and similar to Waiting450 I also want it to be the one time in my life that someone else takes the control and make the decision that they love me so much they want to ask me to marry them.

    Neither way is the 'right' way it is just how the individual would like it :)
  • 74jax
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    7roland8 wrote: »
    Gosh cannot believe people are talking about this - as if women had to wait and hint! Sounds rather Victorian to me.


    We were together three years, got engaged and then married after a further 6 months - wedding organised within a week and no - not pregnant.


    Never got a proposal at all - we just knew we'd get married - talked about it and decided.


    Why all the waiting and fussing - if you all are supposed to know each other so well?

    Gosh, I can't believe you're such an intensive xXxX to post a ridiculous reply on a thread which clearly has no bearing to you. You're obviously married, and do not understand how people on here feel, so gosh, why post???
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  • gik
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    74jax wrote: »
    Gosh, I can't believe you're such an intensive xXxX to post a ridiculous reply on a thread which clearly has no bearing to you. You're obviously married, and do not understand how people on here feel, so gosh, why post???





    Because this is an open forum and anyone is free to post I guess?
  • 7roland8
    7roland8 Posts: 3,601 Forumite
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    Just because I saw the title and way intrigued - no malice intended.
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