Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

heartbreak_star

Awh I'm glad it's not just me.

I have said if he goes mental with money on a ring if we do finally get engaged, I'll kill him - I'd rather have pretty and unusual than expensive.

HBS x

lika_86

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think I'm really scared someone's going to steal him from me. I just want him to be mine forever.

Sadly marriage isn't a guarantee of that, it just offers you the chance of maybe getting some compensation if it does happen. I suppose marriage is like insurance for relationships, it won't stop bad things happening but it does help to mitigate the loss.

destitute7

Ladies, I understand the fustration many feel about not getting the ring, but I have to say, sometimes waiting is better.
I wont call this guy a friend, I tolerate him due to the fact we have mutual friends, well his girlfriend of 2 years was pressuring him to marry her.
He eventually relented and agreed, took a year for the wedding and then 4 months later he kicked her out.
Claimed she practice witch craft and her mum was evil, very weird explanation for the end of the marriage.
So in the 2 years of dating you never got the feeling she was a bit strange?
Contrast that my friend from school finally proposed to his gf after 7 years, and they have been married 3 plus years and seem happier and more stronger than before.
Men will really resent you if you push something, obviously a few hints here and there isn't a bad thing, but I honestly believe if a guy really wants to marry you, he will eventually propose.
Go with the flow

heartbreak_star

lika_86 wrote: »

Sadly marriage isn't a guarantee of that, it just offers you the chance of maybe getting some compensation if it does happen. I suppose marriage is like insurance for relationships, it won't stop bad things happening but it does help to mitigate the loss.

Yeah me and the other ladies on here know that, I think, but don't dash our proposal hopes you meanie! Ha ha! :rotfl:

HBS x

rdchick

Hi ladies (and guys?!)

Nothing to report here, again, it's not going to happen any time soon... If at all... I have recently got a new job and am now petrified of getting old (I'm a carer for mostly elderly people) something which is new to me... Also scared of becoming a burden to my husband/children which makes me scared to have either... My brother and his wife had a baby last month, absolutely gorgeous and I will admit it makes me want to have that life but at the same time I am happy with just having a nephew... Someone I can love and look after but give back at the end of the day... Know what I mean?

This doesn't mean that I wouldn't love for him to propose any time soon but at the same time I really don't care any more, I just never ever want to become a burden! Xxx

citizenkitten

wanted to post this before i lost the thread, so far i am on page 29... and can see by some signatures that in the next 60 pages there will be lots of happy news! YAY!

however i am having to be a sneaky so and so about reading this thread.... how little housework can one get away with in 3 hours before OH comes back?

heartbreak_star

Wipe down the areas he can see. He won't notice the rest

HBS x

HeadAboveWater

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Wipe down the areas he can see. He won't notice the rest

HBS x

ha ha :rotfl:

citizenkitten

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Wipe down the areas he can see. He won't notice the rest

HBS x

I WISH! he is quite house proud so he notices most things.

making sneaky progress though, page 51! whoop!

so far i am 7 years, 2 months and 14 days waiting still for the proposal.... not that i am counting....:rotfl:

Princess_kate

LADIES!

I have to tell someone!!!!!

I have followed this thread from the start, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 & half years. We have spoken of getting married since very early in our relationship but birthdays, including my 30th, christmases and anniversaries have all passed with nothing. The last few weeks I've thought something was going on but going by past experiences I didn't want to get my hopes up. Then somehow on sunday night we were talking about proposals and ring, he suddenly looks very sheepish & confesses. He wants to propose at christmas and has been looking for rings but has no idea what to get and had got himself in a right muddle!

Hes always been adamant that he would propose with a ring, I pointed out that most married couples we know had chosen the ring together, either before the proposal or after. Which he agreed was a better idea as he'd been totally confused when looking. Sooooooo, yesterday afternoon we went looking, I couldn't believe that we were actually sat in all these beautiful jewellers, me trying on rings, and my boyfriend not running away! It was so much fun, turns out I actually had no idea what I liked and so had to try lots of different styles. We found one that we both fell in love with as soon as we saw it, i really liked how we both seemed to like & not like the same rings! It is a fair bit out of budget sadly but I'm hoping something can get worked out as I absolutely loved it! I dont know when or how he will ask so there are still surprises to be had! I really want to tell my friends but want to wait until he's asked & i have my ring....soooo exciting tho!!!