Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

wannabemrs

Congrats Cheryl!!!! Will want all the details!

cherylwantscake

Thanks guys :jWell as you know it was planned but we decided it would be nice if he did the traditional thing and got down on one knee and asked me. I knew it would be our 6 year anniversary but didn't know how or when he would do it. It was wonderful and we were all cosy in our hotel when he asked me and did a wonderful speech about how much he loved me We are not extravagent people so it was perfect for us. I have already bought a wedding magazine and we are thinking of ideas xx

tiny_atoms

Hi everyone, new to the thread and have read through it over the past few days.
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, and we got together when I was 18 and he was 19. We have lived together for 7 years. I am hoping he pops the question soon but I just cant see it happening. He always jokes that he'll never ask (I've thrown a few hints) and I just don't know if he actually means that he won't ever ask. I am starting to become a bit obsessed with it all and especially as friends are getting engaged and married. I feel really upset at the thought of him never asking, we love each other a lot and the final thing would be to get engaged and get married.
I think the reason he hasn't asked yet is because of how much weddings cost and he wants to be able to ask me and then get married within 2 years. I'd be happy to get engaged and save for 2/3 years for the wedding. Ahhggrrhhhh! I'm just so impatient and want to be engaged now!
Slowly losing my sanity waiting.....

Missterious

Hiya. I have been reading this thread for the last day or so too and I had to comment!
i have known my bf for nearly 5 years, we have been together as a couple for just over 2 years and we have been living together for nearly 3 months. The move in has gone much better than expected and we are having a great time and it's going really well.
Now my worries have been put the bed after the move in going so well i know 100% that i want to spend the rest of my life with him, to make the final commitment and tell him how dear he is to me. He syas he wants to get married, and has even been to jewellry shops, he's even hinted that a ring is on order!! but when we talk about marriage he says he has to save up first - it's all very confusing.

I keep telling him the ring doesn't have to be magnificent or have to whisk me away for the proposal, and i know 2 years isn't really long in the grand scheme of things but I feel the same as others have mentioned that when you know you want it, why wait?
I really hope he asks soon, he keeps jokingly asking me to marry him and it does my head in!

Wow i had a lot to say!

tiny_atoms

Another thing...last night me and my bf were sitting watching tv, and casually talking about our current mortgage application that we have going through, and about what we could do to the house etc...and he leans over and says 'I've been thinking... (big pause) .....I want you to try this game I've been playing on the internet, its called drawception'.

As you can imagine I'm sitting there thinking oh my god he's going to talk about getting engaged...he knows how much it means to me and its really annoyed me that he did that last night. I think he's only messing around and maybe I'm over reacting but it upset me a bit. And I'm fed up!!!!

Missterious

Tiny atoms, i'd feel proper annoyed at that too, i held my breath just as i was reading it. Why don't men just get it?!

tiny_atoms

I really don't know...Its annoyed me and I've decided I'm going to tell him it upset me and to not do it again.
I'm feeling a bit more sensitive than I normally am, its all the announcements going on from friends, either they are pregnant or engaged. Urgh, hate that I sound jealous

jtr2803

Ladies, as the creator of this thread I can honestly tell you that they just don't *get it* generally, some men do but others really don't. You have probably already seen my posts leading up to my engagement but I literally had to tell him it was either next year or never........he has since admitted that if I hadn't done that he probably would never have proposed because there was always a reason not to (mostly relating to his feelings, not our relationship).

I really wish he could have done it of his own accord and spontaneously but it just never would have happened and I don't think there is anything wrong with putting a time limit or being forward about what you want. There is no compromise to getting married and if it is important to you then you need to make that crystal clear.

I hope you aren't here for long

tiny_atoms

Hiya, yes I have read your story, it is fascinating! And I agree, if its bothering me that much then I need to be more clear that its what I want. I know he wants to get married, he's said it will happen one day, and then he jokes saying it'll never happen which does worry me.

I think another reason my bf hasnt asked is because he's scared of the day too. He's a quiet person and doesn't like attention to be drawn to him in any way. He doesn't like speeches or getting up in front of anyone or big crowds. I'm going to see how things go, see what happens. I may have the conversation and ask him if its the day thats he's scared of. I'm not one for fuss either to be honest.

Missterious

Yea my bf doesn't like crowds and attention either, tbh all i want is a registry office do with my close family and friends then a meal in the evening, no speeches or anything scary needed cos i don't like the attention either!