Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

AsknAnswer2

AllyS wrote: »

Four marriages wow how does she manage that!

I feel your pain Ask

No idea but she makes a bloody mockery of it. Goes from one bloke to the next.

I know that the first three blokes were all connected. The first one she married in 1992, left him for his friend in 1994, married the friend when the Divorce came through in 1995. Lasted a year before they realised the marriage wasn't as exciting as the affair, divorced him. Moved back in with her first husband, then left him again in 1997. In 1999, she tried to weedle her way back into her second husband's affections, but he didn't want to know so she started dating his friend in an attempt to make him jealous. It didn't work and she married this friend in 2001. They divorced in 2006 (longest marriage yet) and she moved away. Came back last year with this new bloke in tow and married him last month.

I expect by this time next decade she'll have probably chalked up another couple of husbands.

Daisy-May*

Wow 4 weddings, like you say I would be happy with just one right now!!

I've been told recently that I need to stop talking about proposals by my OH. I wont lie im a little bit excited but not trying to get my hopes up too much - we are off on a weekend away soon and have a day at the theatre planned aswell (and its my birthday soon too). I'm probably barking up the wrong tree - so cue the next post of me being dissapointed that im still not engaged!!

I just needed to get that off my chest - I feel better already!

It always seems that as soon as you want something in life that everyone else seems to be doing it or beating you to it - its quite unfair sometimes!!

sweetilemon

I wish this post was around before we got engaged! I felt like we were never going to get married, every couple we knew ( all got together after us) were engaged or married and we were still bf/gf. I have never been so happy the night my OH asked... what i am trying to say is as much as they joke it does not matter, they will ask its just a fear.

becca0417

Hoping it happens for you all soon ladies xx

minerva_windsong

AllyS wrote: »

Would you ever change your whole personality to get (or think that you are going to get) your OH to propose e.g. no longer be a party animal, but more mumsy and domesticated?

Not me, but a lady I was chatting to about marriage tried this.

Any thoughts?

Good God no! The way I see it, he fell in love with me for who I am, so I can't imagine why I should change that person he loves just to get him to marry me...

AllyS

Ladies, ladies, ladies :eek:

Wedding reception last night. Another couple been together forever and not engaged, so ladies were giving said man hassle.

This morn me and OH were chatting, he mentioned the convo and said whilst me and other people were chatting a guy next to my OH (only met home once) asked OH why we weren't married. Apparently OH told him why he was waiting to propose and his proposal plans!!! What!!! Why tell a stranger and proposal plans :eek: news to me! I asked him why he told a stranger and OH said cause he asked me!

Confused! Yup me too!!!

P.s. sorry on my phone xx

daisiegg

AllyS wrote: »

Ladies, ladies, ladies :eek:

Wedding reception last night. Another couple been together forever and not engaged, so ladies were giving said man hassle.

This morn me and OH were chatting, he mentioned the convo and said whilst me and other people were chatting a guy next to my OH (only met home once) asked OH why we weren't married. Apparently OH told him why he was waiting to propose and his proposal plans!!! What!!! Why tell a stranger and proposal plans :eek: news to me! I asked him why he told a stranger and OH said cause he asked me!

Confused! Yup me too!!!

P.s. sorry on my phone xx

But that's encouraging! it means HE HAS PLANS!! yay!!!!!!!

Turtle

Hello ladies

Have spent many hours over the last few days reading this entire thread and just wanted to add my story in if you don't mind.

OH and I had been together over 7 years when he asked me to marry him. If was a complete shocker, I'd never done the building myself up on special occasions thing because he'd always been adamant he wouldn't get married. We had some huge rows and crying fits (me, not him with the crying ) and after the biggest row ever one day I decided I just wouldn't mention it again, and I didn't. Didn't stop all the 'what's wrong with me?' thoughts and everything else all you ladies have mentioned, I'd had them all.

When he asked me we were at our sports club. Someone asked him if he had any plans to ask and as usual I cringed inside like I always did. Very surprisingly he said 'Well I did think I'd ask if such-and-such a thing happened' and everyone (including me I might add :rotfl:) said 'well it has!'. At this point he got down on one knee and asked .

Fast forward another 9 years (so over 16 yrs in total) and we're still not married . To be fair I haven't really been particularly bothered about this, and for the most part we've been very happy together. In the last 6 months though it has bothered me a bit, mainly because I'm surrounded by people getting married at the moment, all who've been together for donkey's years less than we have. Also I have a very good friend who has been diagnosed with terminal cancer:(, she's only a year older than me and it made me think about next-of-kin and protection for pensions and all the practical stuff. To be fair to my OH, he would be very happy to get married tomorrow if I could bring a form home for him to sign and stick in the post :rotfl:. He's happy to BE married but doesn't want to GET married.

Anyway (sorry for the huge essay) as a result of reading all this thread it made me think I'd bring up the subject again and see what's what. I had a massive crying fit (first for years though) about how I felt not good enough etc. He was upset as well and said he hated me being upset knowing he was causing it (all sounding familiar?). The upshot is we appear to have agreed we'll get married! So I'm now looking for some beachy destination :T (though no timescale discussed yet so possibly still a mountain to climb )

Thanks for anyone who's got to the end! Congrats to the graduates and good luck to all you ladies still waiting, everyone sounds really lovely on here and deserves to get what they want.

squ1rrel5

daisiegg wrote: »

But that's encouraging! it means HE HAS PLANS!! yay!!!!!!!

I echo this too!!! Sometimes its easy just to spill the beans to a stranger!!
I really hope its soon for you Ally!!!!!

AllyS

I just keep looking at him, smiling and saying quietly you have plans haha xx