Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

katie1812

How much a ring costs is nobody's business is it! I think if anyone asked I'd be tempted to say what the heck has it got to do with you?! Also, my fiance chose and brought it without any input or clue from me! We did have it valued and it has tripled in price in 18 months :0

AllyS

rdchick wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Congrats to Squirrel and Jtr!

Just checking in to say still nothing. Given up!

Had some horrid moments, like at the Dutch wedding, the groom said to me, at midnight he is going to propose to you. He quickly responded with, that's not going happen.

Dagger through the heart moment.

xxx

Omg so sorry hun, horrible xx

katie1812 wrote: »

How much a ring costs is nobody's business is it! I think if anyone asked I'd be tempted to say what the heck has it got to do with you?! Also, my fiance chose and brought it without any input or clue from me! We did have it valued and it has tripled in price in 18 months :0

This is the main issue, OH thinks a nice diamond is worth the investment! I am never selling it, so it doesn't matter x

katie1812

Yeah of course. We only had mine valued cos when we brought my wedding ring, I also had another ring I was given a few years ago for my 18th birthday which is a family heirloom and have always been interested as to how much it was worth. And he offered to value my engagement ring too... my fiance was also just being nosey as wanted to see how much of an investment it has been haha!! x

daisiegg

rdchick wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Congrats to Squirrel and Jtr!

Just checking in to say still nothing. Given up!

Had some horrid moments, like at the Dutch wedding, the groom said to me, at midnight he is going to propose to you. He quickly responded with, that's not going happen.

Dagger through the heart moment.

xxx

Oh no that's horrible But that doesn't mean it's NEVER going to happen...

AllyS

katie1812 wrote: »

Yeah of course. We only had mine valued cos when we brought my wedding ring, I also had another ring I was given a few years ago for my 18th birthday which is a family heirloom and have always been interested as to how much it was worth. And he offered to value my engagement ring too... my fiance was also just being nosey as wanted to see how much of an investment it has been haha!! x

Just wanted to say my frustrations are at my OH not anyone else If he had loads of money I would be all for it, the diamond did look pretty awesome on my finger :rotfl:

OH saw the engagement ring that he bought his ex wife and the price of that ring had quadrulped in 7 years!! I think that is the other reason, he feels he could afford to buy her a nice ring and should buy me a nice one too.

I have said that I don't want a wedding ring or an eternity ring, my engagement ring will be my ring for life and the one I will marry with, if it ever happens!!

minerva_windsong

rdchick wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Congrats to Squirrel and Jtr!

Just checking in to say still nothing. Given up!

Had some horrid moments, like at the Dutch wedding, the groom said to me, at midnight he is going to propose to you. He quickly responded with, that's not going happen.

Dagger through the heart moment.

xxx

Oh no, how awful I had something very similar where my boyfriend's brother-in-law repeatedly dropped what I interpreted as hints and they never materialised. It's a horrible feeling.

squ1rrel5

finally got round to reading back.....

Minerva, I'm so sorry it didnt happen for you in Malta - I really thought that would be it for you!! Same thing happened to my friend when they went away, he had planned to propose all along on holiday but couldnt quite find the right time to do it...ended up coming home and popping thr question a couple of weeks later on the sofa in front of the tv!! Not as romantic, but still lovely!! I hope the same thing happens for you!

RDchick - what a crappy thing to happen at the wedding!! Perhaps your OH was thinking about it and the other guy spoilt the surprise....?? Please dont let it upset you though, as I imagine most of the talk was fuelled by booze????

Ally - I so wish your OH would just listen and go and buy you a ring, no matter what it costs!!!!! Its nice that he wants to buy you a big sparkler but just do it already!!!!!! Do you have joint accounts? Do you know how much money he has? Perhaps it will happen sooner than you think if he is saving hard??!!

Welcome to all the newbies.... everyone is fab on this thread and we are all here to rant to if needs be!!

I kind of feel like a fraud still being here but it feels like home!! I dont actually feel very comfortable being on the August brides thread - I've had a quick look and everyone is planning their traditional weddings, and talking about their fancy dresses and big reception plans and with my quick, quirky wedding I just dont feel like I quite belong there!!!
Please dont kick me out of here just yet!!!! :-)

PS You are all 'virtually' invited to my wedding of course!!!! xxxxx

jtr2803

RD chick, so sorry to hear what happened , that's how I felt on holiday last year when OH did his little 'I am not proposing' speech, I had to run out of the restaurant because I knew I was going to cry. I suspect he didn't mean it as a reflection on you but men just open their mouths without really engaging their brains, or sometimes they semi engage their brains but can't grasp the consequences :mad:

lindabelle66 - yes, I was another who would have possibly ended the relationship. It's hard to reason why to someone who hasn't had the emotions and sadness that comes with not having that commitment. Some are more than happy to continue without it, others are not. I am in the middle of those two camps really, it was my OH who first mentioned getting married and told me repeatedly that he wanted me to be his wife, but nothing ever came of it and I ended up feeling lied to and led on.

Ally - You can marry me instead if you want I really hope it's you next (I am sure everyone will understand that!) because I know how much it means to you, I hope Mr Ally soon realises it too, I send you all my lucky ring vibes xx

lil_miss_insanity

I'm feeling a little downhearted at the moment. I'd built myself up to thinking he would do it when we are in Rome/Sorrento this week, but now I'm almost certain it won't happen.

My hopes were up as last year he said he was considering proposing 'next year', plus he was excited that we would be away somewhere romantic for our 3 year anniversary, then he insisted we should go to a nice restaurant on the day etc.

But since then, he's said things like "people would think badly of me if I got you a cheap ring" and says I'm "just saying that" when I honestly say I'd prefer a cheap one! Now his hours have been cut at work and this weekend we had a big chat about the fact he's overdrawn and didn't tell me. So I know for a fact he hasn't the money to have bought a 'nice' ring, and I know he won't consider doing it without one.

Argh - why did I let myself get my hopes up? I should just enjoy the holiday, I know, but I just really, really hoped. Ah well, I'm sure we'll have a great time anyway. I just need to put it to the back of my mind. Thanks for letting me rant.

minerva_windsong

I know we've had this conversation before, but what is it with men and thinking the ring has to be expensive? There seem to be so many of our menfolk saying 'Oh we can't get married because I can't afford to get you a nice ring', when what they really mean is an expensive one, and that seems really sad. There are plenty of nice rings out there that don't cost an enormous amount - for example, I saw an ad a few weeks ago outside one of the high street jewellery shops for a 9 carat white gold diamond ring for about £250 (although I know that's a lot to some, it was more to illustrate it doesn't have to go into the thousands). And I have never, ever heard anyone ask someone how much their engagement ring cost - what does it matter anyway?! What matters is that the couple love each other and want to make a commitment to each other; how much they spend on a ring, and even if they have a ring at all, is no-one else's business.

/rant