Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

squ1rrel5

Gosh I go away for a couple of days and look what happens!!!!!

Congratulations jtr!!! So pleased for you!!!! :j:j
I'm glad he has finally come to his senses and you can start planning the wedding which you both want - and to echo MrsDrink, I bet as soon as he gets going he'll really get into the swing of things!!

Mr Squirrels to be seems to be far more excited about our upcoming nuptials than I am at the moment - I'm just feeling quite nervous (because its so soon AND i have to fly to America) while he is busy planning outfits, photographers etc and loving every minute!!! So even though it took him a while hes really making the most if it now!!!

I hope whenever you choose to have the wedding it all goes smoothly in order to keep the stress levels down - you will have such a wonderful day!!

And dont worry that it may not have come about in the most romantic way - although mine ended up being fairly romantic, it still involved a lot of nagging and talking about it so we've all done it. After all, we've all said its the marriage thats most important, not the proposal!!!!

Well done!!!!!!!

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Milliebob

Hi ladies I'm new :wave: been stalking this forum and just wanted to say its SO good to know I'm not the only lady out there waiting for him to put a ring on it!
We've been together 3 years, lived together 2 1/2 years with a dog and baby on the way in September. Baby was a total surprise as I was on the pill and I was *hoping* that might spell an imminent proposal and we've talked and talked about it but he just won't pull his finger out! Soo frustrating!
Somebody on here said she asked for a ring for her birthday, mines coming up in July so I'll be doing just that!

Daisy-May*

Congratulations jtr!! :j

It sounds like your OH is already coming around to the idea of a wedding and like you say its the actual marriage part that is important.

Still no engagement news on my part but you never know! Its my birthday soon and we are off to brugges for a long weekend but its probably best not to get my hopes up because I know what my OH is like!!

Also welcome milliebob! Im sure you will have a proposal soon, if not you might need to drop some big hints but I know how frustrating it can be at times and this is what is good about this thread!

lindabelle66

Ive been reading this discussion with much interest and some amusement, and also sadness, some of the posts are quite poignant.

I was wondering though, have any of you seriously considered leaving a relationship /actually ended the relationship when the realisation finally sets in that getting married is never going to happen? Has anyone actually felt that strongly about getting married they have been prepared to walk away?

Just curious

HKitten

I'm sort of in this boat... we've both agreed that we want to get married, and I know all the things I want, but he's not actually proposed. I got a bit sad about it recently since we'll have been together three years in July (we're 25 and 28), but he assures me it's because we're not in a position financially to get married yet - which is true - and neither of us wants a long engagement.

Still, part of me wants the ring on my finger! And I'm planning a very money-saving wedding, registry office then village hall, I expect to make all the stationery myself, my uncle is a photographer, my dad films plays in his spare time so that's potential video, my sisters will be bridesmaids, I intend to get our dresses from ebay, happy with silk flowers, buffet meal, handmade favours.... I'm hoping to do the whole thing for between 2-3k. But since I know what I'd like, I'm desperate to actually start doing stuff, and I can't until he proposes

AllyS

:hello: just wanted to say hello to all the new ladies.

I am still sitting here waiting

Found a perfect wedding reception venue tho - £1800 for a whole weekend hire including tables, chairs, covers etc.... bargain!! and £25 B&B rates for guests! They have their diary online and already booked for next year!!

So I have a bargain and pretty wedding and reception venue now and hand on heart I wasn't even looking - was other weddings on facebook that drew my attention. Come on OH pull your finger out and propose

P.s. he knows I have found these :rotfl:

AllyS

HKitten wrote: »

I'm sort of in this boat... we've both agreed that we want to get married, and I know all the things I want, but he's not actually proposed. I got a bit sad about it recently since we'll have been together three years in July (we're 25 and 28), but he assures me it's because we're not in a position financially to get married yet - which is true - and neither of us wants a long engagement.

Still, part of me wants the ring on my finger! And I'm planning a very money-saving wedding, registry office then village hall, I expect to make all the stationery myself, my uncle is a photographer, my dad films plays in his spare time so that's potential video, my sisters will be bridesmaids, I intend to get our dresses from ebay, happy with silk flowers, buffet meal, handmade favours.... I'm hoping to do the whole thing for between 2-3k. But since I know what I'd like, I'm desperate to actually start doing stuff, and I can't until he proposes

<Sigh > I know where you are coming from, except my OH uses the engagement ring as an excuse, reason, whatever :rotfl: We went looking at rings, found 2 beautiful rings and I know he has his heart set on the more expensive one. I would never have looked at it, because of the price, but OH is a diamond know-it-all and was asking and shop assistant about things in that department (I am serious clueless) and she showed him the ring. It was amazing, but I am happy with £50 ring if it means he will propose now!!

HKitten

AllyS wrote: »

It was amazing, but I am happy with £50 ring if it means he will propose now!!

I feel the same! I used to think I minded how much the ring cost but now I'm older and wiser haha, I'd much rather have a cheaper ring and be engaged to the man I love, than still 'just' his girlfriend holding out for a rock :rotfl:

I figure, you don't have to tell anyone how much it was. If anyone ever did ask, I'd just tell them that he chose it so I don't know!

74jax

lindabelle66 wrote: »

Ive been reading this discussion with much interest and some amusement, and also sadness, some of the posts are quite poignant.

I was wondering though, have any of you seriously considered leaving a relationship /actually ended the relationship when the realisation finally sets in that getting married is never going to happen? Has anyone actually felt that strongly about getting married they have been prepared to walk away?

Just curious

Yes that was me. I've mentioned it in here a few times. Even now when I look back I know it would have been the right thing to do. I couldn't have had a timeframe that kept moving.

I think in my mind he deserved someone who wanted what he did, ie no marriage. I also wanted him to find someone he loved so much he wanted to marry, I felt I was holding him back from this.

rdchick

Hi Guys,

Congrats to Squirrel and Jtr!

Just checking in to say still nothing. Given up!

Had some horrid moments, like at the Dutch wedding, the groom said to me, at midnight he is going to propose to you. He quickly responded with, that's not going happen.

Dagger through the heart moment.

xxx