Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

AllyS

jtr2803 wrote: »

Ally - You can marry me instead if you want I really hope it's you next (I am sure everyone will understand that!) because I know how much it means to you, I hope Mr Ally soon realises it too, I send you all my lucky ring vibes xx

Yes, yes yes! :rotfl: and I am happy with a haribo ring. Look how easy it is boys!!

You guys are so so so lovely. You can all stay here forever and look after me, I don't care if you are married or not

I know that I mean the absolute world to him,.in a way tho it makes the situation even more frustrating!!

I had another whinge and moan at the weekend, still no advancement and I still don't understand why he doesnt want too. Past caring today! XX

AllyS

lil_miss_insanity wrote: »

I'm feeling a little downhearted at the moment. I'd built myself up to thinking he would do it when we are in Rome/Sorrento this week, but now I'm almost certain it won't happen.

My hopes were up as last year he said he was considering proposing 'next year', plus he was excited that we would be away somewhere romantic for our 3 year anniversary, then he insisted we should go to a nice restaurant on the day etc.

But since then, he's said things like "people would think badly of me if I got you a cheap ring" and says I'm "just saying that" when I honestly say I'd prefer a cheap one! Now his hours have been cut at work and this weekend we had a big chat about the fact he's overdrawn and didn't tell me. So I know for a fact he hasn't the money to have bought a 'nice' ring, and I know he won't consider doing it without one. me rant.

Hugs hun rubbish, rubbish my OH said to me 2 years ago that we would def be married this yeah. Hmpfh!

Have a lovely holiday and if something else happens then brilliant xx

Milliebob

I feel your pain!

A friend of mine I knew from school is on holiday this week in New York with her boyfriend, and I just had a feeling... low and behold the news is on Facebook this morning they got engaged.. and I'm happy for them but so incredibly jealous at the same time!

OH wasn't interested AT ALL when I told him... humph....

Daisy70

Most men like their proposal to be a surprise. If they know you're expecting it, they won't do it. At least that's what Mr D told me:D

We had been together for 3 years before I started making engagement noises and Mr D said that he wouldn't propose whilst I kept banging on about it.

I promptly kept my mouth shut and he proposed 8 months later.

Talking to him about it won't make him propose any faster, probably make him dig his heels in even more so be patient

AllyS

Would you ever change your whole personality to get (or think that you are going to get) your OH to propose e.g. no longer be a party animal, but more mumsy and domesticated?

Not me, but a lady I was chatting to about marriage tried this.

Any thoughts?

wanchai_2

AllyS wrote: »

Would you ever change your whole personality to get (or think that you are going to get) your OH to propose e.g. no longer be a party animal, but more mumsy and domesticated?

Not me, but a lady I was chatting to about marriage tried this.

Any thoughts?

Absolutely. No. Blinking. Way. :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Did she manage to keep it up after they were married????

AsknAnswer2

Why is it that when you want something very much, you see it everywhere?!

In my workplace, there are 3 people getting married between now and August, and there have recently been yet more engagements - two.

Facebook. Posts from friends tagged in photos of their friend/family's wedding. Cousin bragging that his first anniversary is coming up. AND my brother and his girlfriend have just announed that they are getting married next year, and have asked us to save the date. That's the last of my siblings to get married, so I can just imagine that all comments about 'who is next' will be firmly directed at me during their reception.

To top the lot, today I open the local paper. What's in it? Bloody wedding photos, and one of them is of a woman I knew years ago. This will be her fourth marriage. I'm not that greedy, I only want one!!

And through it all, I have to smile sweetly, say 'congratulations' whilst all the while though I am happy for them, I am jealous as hell.

AsknAnswer2

Daisy70 wrote: »

Most men like their proposal to be a surprise. If they know you're expecting it, they won't do it. At least that's what Mr D told me:D

We had been together for 3 years before I started making engagement noises and Mr D said that he wouldn't propose whilst I kept banging on about it.

I promptly kept my mouth shut and he proposed 8 months later.

Talking to him about it won't make him propose any faster, probably make him dig his heels in even more so be patient

I've been patient for 5 going on 6 years. I think my patience's patience has lost patience.

AllyS

wanchai wrote: »

Absolutely. No. Blinking. Way. :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Did she manage to keep it up after they were married????

They are not engaged, they are having some issues and one of things he said was she changed too much. Bless her, she is such a lovely girl!

AllyS

AsknAnswer2 wrote: »

Why is it that when you want something very much, you see it everywhere?!

In my workplace, there are 3 people getting married between now and August, and there have recently been yet more engagements - two.

Facebook. Posts from friends tagged in photos of their friend/family's wedding. Cousin bragging that his first anniversary is coming up. AND my brother and his girlfriend have just announed that they are getting married next year, and have asked us to save the date. That's the last of my siblings to get married, so I can just imagine that all comments about 'who is next' will be firmly directed at me during their reception.

To top the lot, today I open the local paper. What's in it? Bloody wedding photos, and one of them is of a woman I knew years ago. This will be her fourth marriage. I'm not that greedy, I only want one!!

And through it all, I have to smile sweetly, say 'congratulations' whilst all the while though I am happy for them, I am jealous as hell.

Four marriages wow how does she manage that!

I feel your pain Ask