Concern about my son

Jinx

Maybe OP could offer nicely to buy a sofa bed for the living room or a chair bed size to fit in the bedroom?

sbcurran

onlyroz wrote: »

Is either bedroom large enough to be separated into two with some sort of partition? When my husband was a child he had to share a room with his sister and they had a partition to give them each their own space.

Not sure at all, any occassion for me to possibly drop something off or uplift is arranged elsewhere. After almost 2 years I'd thought I might have shifted from Bar Steward status, but there you go, I have to respect her wishes...my son having to listen to my Bar Steward status from his sister and mother isn't though.

inspirespirit

You are being very vague so it is extremely difficult to advise. If there is or could be any abuse concerns then of course you should get social services involved. If funds aren't an issue, why has she moved into a 2 bed property? Is she planning to move again because he will obviously require his own room in the next 4 or 5 years time.

sbcurran

Jinx wrote: »

Maybe OP could offer nicely to buy a sofa bed for the living room or a chair bed size to fit in the bedroom?

Already provided a lovely leather 3 seater sofa bed!

sbcurran

inspirespirit wrote: »

You are being very vague so it is extremely difficult to advise. If there is or could be any abuse concerns then of course you should get social services involved. If funds aren't an issue, why has she moved into a 2 bed property? Is she planning to move again because he will obviously require his own room in the next 4 or 5 years time.

From what I've written it isn't that vague. The overall issue I've clarified. I'm not informed about anything she plans so am left to my own devices and am not keen on obtaining that kind of info from a 5 year old, even if done discreetly.

Person_one

When you were together and living in the same house were there enough rooms for the 5 and 18 year old to have one each?

Did your wife move out of the 3 bed marital home while you stayed in it? If so I think I see an obvious solution but you won't like it...

sbcurran

Person_one wrote: »

When you were together and living in the same house were there enough rooms for the 5 and 18 year old to have one each?

Did your wife move out of the 3 bed marital home while you stayed in it? If so I think I see an obvious solution but you won't like it...

Yes there were rooms for each child in the marital home. It was agreed that I move out and I went to rented accommodation.

happierdaystocome

Although it is not an ideal situation if needs must I see issue why you Ex should not share with your son, This to my mind is much more appropriate that him sharing with his 18 year old sister.

You state that the reason SS where involved previously was that there was role reversal issues, which to me woud indicate that ex's daughter was taking on the role of carer for ex and I'm sure that SS would not have stopped working with your ex had they not felt that these issues had been addressed.

emsywoo123

sbcurran wrote: »

From what I've written it isn't that vague. The overall issue I've clarified. I'm not informed about anything she plans so am left to my own devices and am not keen on obtaining that kind of info from a 5 year old, even if done discreetly.

I'm either thick, naive , or both, because I think you are being too vague for more specific advice as well!

emsywoo123

Errata wrote: »

Probably not, but as an initial way forward it beats getting Social Services involved.
Anyways ......... the usual set up with a two bedroom house and two sons is that the sons share.

I believe it is a DS and a DD....