Concern about my son

tiamai_d

Surely it would be worse if he was in with the 18 year old? Everynody knows what they get up to in their bedrooms...

LittleMissMPB

Errata wrote: »

The solution isn't rockert science, tell her to sleep on the sofa if you don't like the sleeping arrangements.

Lol I really don't think it's up to the OP to tell his ex where to sleep in her own home. She would most likely tell him where to go.

shellsuit

Errata wrote: »

The solution isn't rockert science, tell her to sleep on the sofa if you don't like the sleeping arrangements.

The OP should tell his wife (ex?) to sleep on the sofa as he doesn't like the arrangements? And she should do as she's told should she? :cool:


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The kid is 5, nothing wrong with sleeping in Mum's bed at that age at all. My 2 used to jump into bed with me and would have slept with me every night if I let them and they were around the same age.

I don't see what the problem is at all.

Errata

LittleMissMPB wrote: »

Lol I really don't think it's up to the OP to tell his ex where to sleep in her own home. She would most likely tell him where to go.

Probably not, but as an initial way forward it beats getting Social Services involved.
Anyways ......... the usual set up with a two bedroom house and two sons is that the sons share.

delain

LittleMissMPB wrote: »

Lol I really don't think it's up to the OP to tell his ex where to sleep in her own home. She would most likely tell him where to go.

I certainly would have! I don't see why it's a problem at 5? I could understand if she or the younger brother was sharing with the 18 y/o though

shellsuit

Errata wrote: »

Probably not, but as an initial way forward it beats getting Social Services involved.
Anyways ......... the usual set up with a two bedroom house and two sons is that the sons share.

A 5 and 18yo though?

18 year old goes out drinking with mates, comes home with his GF and sleeps in the same room as 5yo brother?

No, that would be worse!

When my little one will be 5, his older brother will be 18.

Me and my husband are going to be getting a sofa bed downstairs for the pair of us, so that the children have a room each. The little man is still in a cot in our room for the time being, but I would never have the 2 boys sharing a room.

The eldest needs his privacy and the youngest doesn't need to see or hear everything the eldest gets up to!

sbcurran

Thanks for all the responses. I'm not keen on getting social services involved at this time due to the previous experience. I'm not of the mind to bash social services but am acutely aware of the lack of proper assistance and time apportioned to cases due to finances and workload.

Under normal circumstances I'd be completely happy for my son to stay in the room and wish the current 50/50 setup to remain for obvious reasons. The previous social services intervention was as a result of an unhealthy relationship where roles were reversed. Finances aren't an issue and it's a move from a larger home. I've asked her to seek advice (based on the previous issues) as I knew anything I had to say would not be listened to. I just want to know the ground legally should I see any more indicators.

onlyroz

Is either bedroom large enough to be separated into two with some sort of partition? When my husband was a child he had to share a room with his sister and they had a partition to give them each their own space.

Errata

shellsuit wrote: »

The OP should tell his wife (ex?) to sleep on the sofa as he doesn't like the arrangements? And she should do as she's told should she? :cool:
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The kid is 5, nothing wrong with sleeping in Mum's bed at that age at all. My 2 used to jump into bed with me and would have slept with me every night if I let them and they were around the same age.

I don't see what the problem is at all.

I can't see a problem either, but my suggestion was that he could try, and she probably wouldn't do as she was told, but as I said - it's a kinder solution to the OP's worries than suggesting Social Services investigate whether the child is somehow at risk from his mother.

happy35

my son shared a room with me and OH until he was about 7ish

he did have his own room but didnt like it on his own, he had a bed in our room from about 4ish before this he slept in with us most nights. Even after this he sometimes camped out on the floor although this stopped altogether when he was about 10

I dont see anything wrong with this, i cant imagine any 18 year old wanting to share with his 5 year old brother, I shared with my sister for years and hated it and there is only a few years between us