My H Is Taking Me On Friday To Buy My Own Xmas Presents!!!

Rachie_B

men are worried about getting it "wrong" i think ans so prefer to have us choose !!!

i do as mentioned on the first page and make a list of things i like and hub chooses from there

some things he does choose himself and ive not been totally distraught at his choices ............ yet !

so we are both happy,i get things i know i will love ,and yet theres still the surprise element he likes

think yourself lucky............ someone i chat to on a different forum was given an AFRO WIG by her hubby last year !!! pmsl

nearlyrich

My DH is a lovely generous guy but he hates buying presents for me, he is lucky that my DD has good taste, knows what I like and is willing to point things out that he should get for me.

I usually buy a few things for him but he is equally difficult to buy for.

kathyd_2

He's no different to a lot of men really, victory. Maybe he's just trying to avoid you being disappointed on Christmas day - at least you'll be over this little incident before then and you get to spend the day with him on Friday.

I dunno....Men! Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em

Old_Joe

As a family we've always made 'would-like'-lists'. More numorus things than is possible, so there's an element of surprise.
Having said that we buy each other smaller, 'Christmas Stocking type gifts that weren't requested. These include novelty/silly gifts.

NB That's with forty odd years of marriage practice. :rotfl: :rotfl:

victory

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Fleago

I don't think you sound ungrateful, vicktory. I'd be quite sad too if I had to lead Mr Fleago by the hand and be there when he bought my present and it wasn't a surprise on Christmas Day. This is mainly because I do everything else to prepare for Christmas, I buy all the gifts, I wrap them and I do the Christmas cards. If he couldn't get his act together enough to get my present on his own, I'd be very miffed.

I do, however, write a Christmas list so that he has some ideas to go on. I've done that ever since he got me a kit to build a clock out of paper one year. :eek: I very nearly cried when I opened it!

Dumyat

I think as women we often judge a gift more by the thoughtfulness than the gift itself. If we pick our own, then it feels a bit of a cheat.

My husband rarely buys me anything...birthday or christmas. I dont even get a card. He has a theory that its just a commercial excuse to make us spend money. One of the few years he has bought me something he bought me wellie boots! Then one year he did surprise me with this laptop. Great you would think....but he handed it over and said this gets me out of buying you anything for years, do you know how much it cost!!! It does upset me and I have told him many times over the years. but now after 22 years I have given up

to be honest with my husband I would be grateful for a nice day out....that would be such an surprise!! lol

oldandhappy

The excitement of a child unwrapping all those pressies...I cannot remember the contents but just loved those memorable times myself.
Taking on a morgage and 1st babe born at the same time changed so much. Ist Xmas I got a fridge(1968) was thrilled though...'Our' pressies went downhill after that because by the next Xmas twins where also on the scene....The kiddies got all we could afford and we never really bothered about ourselves so it has just become a habit now over the many years.(40 years next Sept)
We usually make a point now of treating ourselves to something special to take away the feeling of guilt called "Xmas pressies"..... Mrs Happy

PercyPig

Hi victory, I can identify with how you feel. Its not about being ungrateful its about being disappointed that your loved one hasn't put the thought into choosing something for you that he knows you would like, as you have done for them. One year my OH gave me an envelope with £50 in "to buy some new work clothes" as I was starting a new job in the January! I think he was genuinely being thoughtful but I couldn't help but be a wee bit disappointed though.

I hope you have a fabulous day on Friday anyway and have a lovely lunch out or some festive cocktails :xmastree:

sinizterguy

Come on ... It's so hard to shop for a good present for someone. I am always trying to find something my girlfriend will actually find useful rather than some "cute" thing that is just given as a present, which will then sit there for till the end of days.