Who should make first move?

Gavin83

tanith wrote: »

It always amazes me when people need to get drunk before they can 'enjoy' themselves...

If there was a rolling eyes emotion on this forum I would be using it at that comment. Some people really don't get it.

It's really hard to comment on the OP without further details. If it was a seriously formal wedding and she was the only drunk person then it's a problem. If she was rude or trouble then it's a problem. If she was just enjoying herself then there wasn't a problem. You can't really expect her to not drink because you don't like her to.

Last wedding I went to I got extremely drunk but it wasn't a problem as the bride and groom were also drunk along with everyone else and a good time was had by all.

1sttimer_2

Linley, it may be that as a teetotaller, you see people who are drunk (or overly tipsy) as being out of control. Whilst alcohol does make you less in control of what you are doing, more often than not, you are amongst others in the same situation, as you would have been at the wedding.

If she was the only one drunk (which would seem pretty unlikely as there seemed to be alcohol available) then it would seem pretty bad, but at a wedding there must have been more than one that had a few too many.

I am also teetotal, and a few years ago at a family wedding, my DD (25) got pretty drunk and was a little OTT with remarks and behaviour. I was able to keep tabs on her and no-one thought she was way out of control, in fact they laughed at her (not in an unkind way) as they knew her as a lovely girl who was having a good time.

Next morning she was worse for wear and when I discussed the evening when she was able to and she did feel a little embarressed at what I told her she was doing! But at the end of the day, it was a wedding and she wasn't the only one. We didn't have any fall out and it's now in the family archive history to be rolled out when there's a gathering.

IMO you make the first move to contact her, don't give her any headaches over her behaviour (unless it was upsetting to others) and move on.

Person_one

tanith wrote: »

It always amazes me when people need to get drunk before they can 'enjoy' themselves

Wondered how long it'd be before that old chestnut got trotted out.

I can definitely enjoy myself without being drunk, I am usually quite happy most of the time and am more often than not entirely sober, funnily enough.

Sometimes though, I get drunk because I enjoy getting drunk! Its not the only way to have fun, its one specific way to have fun, and as long as you stay healthy there's nothing wrong with it.