Who should make first move?

Linley

Hi I'm not sure what to do my DD is 30 we recently went to a family wedding and my DD got very drunk. I'm teetotal and whilst I don't mind others drinking I wasn't happy that she hardly knew what she was doing. The next day when I spoke to her expecting her to be a bit sheepish and embarrassed she said well it was a wedding people are supposed to enjoy themselves. I said that I wasn't
impressed with her behaviour and basically we've not spoken since. Should I ring and say I over reacted just to make the first move even though I don't think that at all!! Am I being old fashioned?

lindseykim13

she is a grown woman, if she wants to make a fool of herself thats up to her

midnightraven3

my daughters are 18 and almost 21, if this were either of them i would be expecting them to apologize to not only me but the bride & groom
neither of my girls drink, but i hate seeing young women drunk
i dont think i am a prude or old fashioned, i just dont like drunk people, i cant understand the mentality that has to get to that state

Person_one

As a teetotaller, your perception of 'very drunk' probably differs significantly from hers. Were other people at the wedding in a similar condition?

geri1965_2

She's 30 years old! I doubt she feels very impressed at being ticked off like a teenager.

Emmzi

She's 30 so it's actually none of your business unless she was insulting you while bevvied.

Morganarla

I agree with the majority here. It is absolutely NONE of your business.

colli

I suspect your DD agrees with you deep down but is too embarrassed to admit it. Just call her and tell her you don't want to fall out and just draw a line under the whole thing. In the grand scheme of things it's not really a big deal and certainly not worth having a big bust up over. There are plenty of families who don't speak for years over the most trivial things, don't be one of them!

PS I agree an apology to the happy couple may be in order if she was that bad but as a grown woman that's her decision to make.

**curlywurly**

I don't think you are being old fashioned. I am often shocked by drunken behaviour, wedding or no wedding, there are limits.

I am a teetotaller and so I am well aware that I am in the minority.

That said, you are the parent, and I think you should make the first move, or risk a rift over what is, ultimately, one incident which should really be quickly forgiven and forgotten.

Hobo17

Were the people whose wedding it was offended or bothered? I agree that weddings are meant to be dignified and don't really think it's the place for people to get drunk to the point of falling over - but not everyone thinks that way. If the bride and groom were offended or upset by her behaviour then I think she should be apologising to them rather than you.

Alter_ego

Linley wrote: »

Am I being old fashioned?

Yes.......