Life is what you make it .......

Lula-Hula

If only we could answer that then we would also be rich as well as wise sages ( less of the 'old' thank you lady )

Just keep planning ahead & moving forwards. I have a whole list of things I want to do ( unlikely to achieve them all but hey) & not many of them are conducive to being in a 'married/coupley' situation.

Find a dream, focus on that dream & then put any spare money you have into an ISA so you wont be tempted to take it out & lose free interest .

(yep, that's another thing I should practice rather than just preaching about :rotfl:)

Wordsmith

Ooh, Lula - I wish I'd posted that instead of threats and abuse.:D

dojoman

Hi SA, hope your back is not troubling you too much. I can empathise with there, I know only to well the problems of having a bad back.
Have a good weekend, and look forward to reading your latest posts on here

RosaBernicia

startagain wrote: »

Why is it that we can all be wise old sages dishing out the advice to everyone else but still manage to c*ck everything up back at home?

Other people's lives are always easier to fix :rotfl:

But Lula is right - you're not the same person now *add your own proverb about can't step into same river twice etc*

Rosa xx

startagain_2

Good Morning folks....

You have all posted some very true words - thank you. I need threats as well as soft words Wordsmith - You keep playing Bad Cop and let the others be Good Cop, it just doesn't suit you

Saving sounds like such a good idea, can somebody please tell me how you stop yourself dipping in to it, or even getting to the point where you have anything to deposit? I do wonder if it is that I don't really have any spare cash and that I have to go without to have anything left to save, if that makes sense?

It must be so easy to have a comfortable income that pays the bills and then there is an excess for you to do as you wish with. It has been many, many years since I was in that position.
Being perfectly honest, my BR predicament is because I borrowed rather that go without, and couldn't afford to pay it back. Brief moments of pseudo happiness followed by months and years of misery.

Downsizing was one of the best things that I have ever done - accomodation, employment, transport and even plans - I can dream but I don't neccessarily expect it to come true, unless it was meant to be......

MrT and I had a lie in this morning, almost unheard of! We actually made it to 7.45am before we shuffled off to the newsagents for a copy of the latest sordid tabloid nonsense, I love it Naughty, naughty Mr Giggs has been at it again. See - money doesn't always buy you happiness, does it.... wouldn't like to be in his football boots right now.

Dojo - is your bad back a result of your Martial Arts? Although I inherited some of it from my Dad I fell many years ago down some stairs carrying a saddle and spent 15 years being diagnosed and treated for "wear and tear" when it was in fact a fractured vertebra :eek: To cut a very long story short I had an operation abroad, paid for it myself, ended £ free but pain free after what seemed a lifetime of suicidal pain. Not really surprising, given the fact I had a broken back! I was angry at the time especially as it totally cleared me out financially and I had to cut short my life abroad and come home but then I remember the days when I couldn't even think straight because the pain was so bad and I realise that I was lucky that someone had the knowledge and foresight to spot it straight away. Gracias to her - I will be eternally grateful. If it had continued, I honestly don't think I would have been sitting here typing this today.

On to happier things.... jobs for today

1) Wash the car and vacuum the inside.
2) Tidy my desk
3) Do some competitions
4) Buy a new alarm clock from Argos
5) sit down at 2pm for the final of the French Open tennis. This will involve some drooling over Rafael Nadal. Such a NICE YOUNG MAN

I hope everyone has a good day. Wordsmith, don't work too hard, given that Sunday morning is peak time in the shop.

Hugs

SA

startagain_2

This is my 2000th post.... I can't believe it.

What a lot of waffle that must contain!

SA

Horace

I thought I would come over to your diary SA - I can be quite nosy and enjoy tales of awkward neighbours. Maybe I should start a diary again but I fear that I would not have time for it.

I have a new neighbour - she moved in yesterday and came around and asked me if there was any hot water in her flat so I showed her where the immersion heater was. I think she was a little aghast that there was no central heating only electric heaters - I have never used the electric heaters in my own flat, I have oil filled radiators including an industrial sized one which are on thermostats:cool:

One of my chums lives in a village nr Wisbech and she has problems with her neighbour who has the nickname Miss Crystal Meth - the noise coming from her home is horrendous as she will suddenly decide to do DIY at midnight or put a CD on at 9pm and constantly plays the same song for hours on end. At long last, the council have been to put noise monitoring equipment in my friend's house and funnily enough Miss Crystal Meth has been quiet:mad: She also spent some time in the Big House (the one with no door handles on the inside and bars on the windows) before Christmas (she claimed that she had been at her mum's) - seems Miss Crystal Meth was done for driving without insurance and in a stolen car..during this last week she has acquired a new car.

Seems that there are problem neighbours everywhere. I have some upstairs - students who can't seem to grasp the idea that people work and need to sleep at night. They kept me awake until 3.15am on Thursday which was quite maddening as I had to be up at 5.30am - needless to say I went and banged on their door at 6.10 and woke them up:rotfl: I am very conscious of noise and try and live a quiet life - I tend not to have music blasting out or the tv, I can listen to these without waking up half the neighbourhood.

MrT sounds like quite a character - I cannot have pets where I live because the landlord has banned them but I notice that Cat Woman who lives downstairs from me still has her un-neuteured tom cat (she told the landlord he was a stuffed cat:eek:), I know because my flat occasionally reeks of tom cat wee:eek::mad:

As for going back to your ex - don't. I gave mine so many chances and I discovered on Jan 1st that he had been cheating and had spent his whole time lying. I bumped into him at Easter and ignored him totally which irritated him because heard me tell my chum Bev that he was the skank I used to go out with so she started talking loudly about a chap I was going out with called Alex and how lucky I was (Alex is a friend and I am not going out with him at all - I am 22 years older than him in any case:eek:). I know it irritated twerp because he sent an email wanting to know what was going on. Some of my friends are trying to set me up with one of their neighbours but I am having none of it - I am happy as I am and don't have time for a relationship with anyone right now. Some people are poisonous and get under your skin and you start to unravel - you don't realise that they have done you harm until you leave them or they leave you when they have taken all they can. An ex is an ex for a reason.

Lula-Hula

Wordsmith wrote: »

Ooh, Lula - I wish I'd posted that instead of threats and abuse.:D

I'm sure there will be an appropriate use for those at some point

Wordsmith

startagain wrote: »

I need threats as well as soft words Wordsmith - You keep playing Bad Cop and let the others be Good Cop, it just doesn't suit you

:think: OK, I won't be offended. But I will take that as carte blanche to not supress my natural state of being a cow. Be afraid; be very afraid.

startagain wrote: »

Saving sounds like such a good idea, can somebody please tell me ...

Erm, nope, not me, sorry.

startagain wrote: »

spent 15 years being diagnosed and treated for "wear and tear" when it was in fact a fractured vertebra ...

Goodness, that sounds horrendous. I'm so glad you finally got it sorted. But fifteen years!

Enjoy your afternoon.

RosaBernicia

startagain wrote: »

Saving sounds like such a good idea, can somebody please tell me how you stop yourself dipping in to it, or even getting to the point where you have anything to deposit? I do wonder if it is that I don't really have any spare cash and that I have to go without to have anything left to save, if that makes sense?

I would love to know this too. I used to try and motivate myself through fear - all the disasters that could happen that might cost money - but that doesn't seem to have worked. It just made me resentful and depressed. Now I have actually sorted a budget that helps because at least the predictable things are covered. I haven't sorted the less predictable yet, and I suspect that I also don't really have any spare. But I think I am slowly learning to distinguish between what I really want and what I think I should want (if that makes any sense) which helps, and shaking off the fear motivation has solved the problem of stocking up for disasters which don't happen.

Congrats on 2K post

Rosa xx