Christmas money dilema??

lauren_1

Please dont call me a bad parent but, my childrens great-grandparents (they have 7 left, 1 passed away recently) just send them money and vouchers for christmas and birthdays, They just tell us to get them something nce with it. They already have 30+ presents each this year without their great-grandparents presents, so here's my dilema.
1, I really cant be chewed buying 10 more presents.
2, We have no space for more junk. :rolleyes:
3, The vouchers could be beter spent in the sales.;)
4, £300 could pay off a big chunk of debt and still buy the big girl her bunkbeds
and 5, little man is only 6 months old and really has no idea apart from the fact he likes pretty paper.

So would it be totally immoral to get them 1 more each and name it from all 7, they wont be there and only see them about twice a year, and spend the rest on stuff we really need. Or will i burn in hell for all eternity?

melaniec_2

why don't you put the money in a bank acount for them both, they can have it when they are 18

Broken_hearted

I have no problem with parents using childrens money to pay for ANYTHING that benefits the children. Having another present or money banked for the future won't help if you can't afford to live now. I know it's not the done thing but I believe that children need a happy family life more than anything else.

sheryldoc

Hey.. dont worry about it.. as long as yer not having your hair n nails done with it and its for the house/kids then its ridiculous to waste it on stuff they dnt need.. and get into debt for the stuff they do..

Good parenting is all about trying to make the best choices..

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

if it benefits the house hold then there is nothing wrong in doing what you wish with the money ,so long as your not going to spend it on booze and fags for your self

David_B_2

I'd agree with all the above. You as the parent do what you think is best for your family and chrildren.

I much prefer to bank money given to my son so in a few years time he can have a choice in what he buys plus interest.

Broken_hearted

David_B wrote:

I'd agree with all the above. You as the parent do what you think is best for your family and chrildren.

I much prefer to bank money given to my son so in a few years time he can have a choice in what he buys plus interest.

Thats what we used to do. Unfortunatly we got to the point where we were going under so fast we had no choice other than to take it. In the long run we will pay it back with interest. It hurt a hell of a lot at the time but my son has a home still and we had food on the table.

Jewel_2

My daughter also gets LOADS of people buying her pressies, so this is what I did. My daughter made a list of everything she 'would like'. I asked all the rellies how much they would normally spend, and then, with their permission, I asked if I could buy something off her list, wrap it for them, and then would they give me the money. This way, my daughter has exactly what she wants without everything having to be from me/Father Christmas. It has worked a treat. I did it with: My mum and Dad, my partners mum and Dad, brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles, friends and other close people. I have probably saved £300, with us spending probably £150.

This has been a round about way of us using other people's money, but everyone is happy (not least because it's one less present they have to buy).

Scarlett1

save the vouchers when bits are needed for the children, and spend the money on bunk beds what they need :T

there is only so much plastic children can play with so do what you think best

tyllwyd

Are some of those 30+ presents from you/Santa? Then why not 'sell' them to the great-grandparents - relabel them as presents from grandparents, and put the cash towards debts or save it for the kids in the future. They certainly don't need 40+ presents all on one day - certainly not the youngest. When my kids were that small, it used to upset them to have too many presents, because you'd end up taking one away before they'd finished playing with it so that they could open the next.

lauren_1

we were thinking of getting the bunk beds, paying off either some debt/finance or starting a mortgage deposit. We generally get money off our parents too, they just buy for the children so we should get around the £700 mark if we pool it all together.