Advice needed on Girlfriend - Please read...

pulliptears

whats this got to do with money saving?

Do you have that phrase on cut and paste? Only it seems every thread I read on this board has that exact post in it.

Kaminari_2

Oh my lord!

First issue is self esteem. Who cares what she does? If she cheats - dump her. You can do better than that, you deserve better than that. Forget the paranoia; use the energy to make her feel good. Make her realise what she would be missing if she was stupid enough to cheat. Do not waste any energy on behaviour that will justify her breaking up with you.

I text, phone, see a few of my ex’s. I’ve even been on Holidays with male friends. For all those out there that think it is not possible to be friends with ex’s you are wrong. One Ex in particular is a wonderful person, an extra crap boyfriend but a wonderful person. We get along fantastically - as friends. I even went to his wedding. My best friend is also male. We are very very close and have been since school. With all of this I am lucky enough to have the most amazing partner of 5 years who trusts me. I know how lucky I am, very few people have the type of loving and trusting relationship that we have. He has somehow picked the impossible balance of being the protective boyfriend while allowing me to be a free spirit. He doesn’t have to worry about others around me as he trusts me. And I wouldn’t be stupid enough to show him otherwise.

On the other hand, he still emails, phones, txts and meets up with his ex’s and many female friends. But I trust him, I know some fancy the pants off him and flirt and I know he flirts back but I trust him. I don’t have to worry about them. I trust that he values me and what we have enough to be faithful.

I think if either of us did cheat on the other it with invalidate what we have as it is built on love and trust.

We have a little saying – To love one that loves you, to be the idol of ones idol, is exceeding the level of human existence, it is stealing fire from Heaven.

HugoSP

Either the relationship will work or it won't. The chemistry between the two of you will decide.

Checking up on her, asking her questions etc is not going to help the situation