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jimsmum

it was quite funny reading this,i used to text a lad called james when i was with my ex and his actions were just like yours.i wonder if its the same james!!
But what i will say is if she doesnt want you to txt girls then she shouldnt text boys.Its probably harmless.mine was!!

ysatiss

I don't understand what the big fuss is about. I spend my days chatting via e-mail with my best friend (who also happens to be my bf's best friend), just because we don't do a lot of work. I can't imagine for a second that my bf would have an issue with it!
Isn't she allowed to have male friends?
And if I thought my bf was going to read my text messages I'd delete them. If I had something to hide though, I wouldn't just delete the ones I send, I'd also delete the ones I receive!
You've only been together for 5 months, she should be allowed to have a life other than with you.
And if she's not done anything wrong, you're probably driving her away. Is it worth taking the chance just because you have a doubt? I'm not suggesting you should be blindly in love but you need to trust her if the relationship is to work.
Good luck!

chrispyphillips

Isnt this supposed to be money saving expert?

The best way to save money, is to dump any boyfriend/girlfriends before Christmas, especially if you have any sorts of issues with them! Then, you can go out with your mates, get wasted, and have a wicked time over the festive period, without worrying about who the missus is with/who's texting her etc?

Note: I'm not saying everyone, dump all partners in time for Christmas, I just mean people in casual relationships worrying about who's texting their partners should probably cool it off, and maybe continue it in January if the decision is amicable.

Also, does anyone else have a problem with Dave B's signiture? Surely theres specialist sites for the use of smileys like that one!

KatieKins

Its a strange situation to be in. I was in your situation when I was 21. Was going out with someone for 2 years and I was paranoid the whole time as you are. I checked his phone etc etc and no matter how silly/stupid you are told this jealousy is, sometimes you cannot help it

My friends said they were amazed at how I was, because normally Im completely reasonable, sensible etc, but this lad had the ability to make me worry all the time about who/why/what he was texting etc.

But....if you do think about it too much you can begin to convince yourself of the worst situations!!!!

Its a shame you're in this situation, but you have to just learn from it. If this works out or if it doesn't, use it as a learning curve

Good luck. Hope you get it sorted.

sarahlouise210

I honestly cannot see the problem (unless you know deep down she is cheating) I use kisses in all my texts ...everyone x I text an old boyfriend every now and then as we are good friends - my DH knows about it...I use kisses..he uses kisses ......does not mean we are kissing!!! There is so much importance put on text flirting these days - at the end of the day she is right in what she says - she cant stop the texts or him contacting her sister. You should trust her enough for her to be able to have texts from male friends and she should be able to tell James that she wants to keep in contact with him as a friend but he must realise that she is with you. Your jealousy will eat you up and dstroy your relationship..and you will force her right into his arms. Lighten up on her.

tawnyowls

I agree. This seems like a very immature relationship. I would never dream of telling my OH who he could and could not see/text/speak to, and I'd tell him where to get off pronto if he tried doing that to me. We both have friends of the opposite sex and often go out with them without our respective OHs, and (shock, horror!) even spend the night (innocently!) at their houses on occasion. It doesn't bother me if he admires an attractive woman (in fact, I'll be more likely to spot her first - cos that's what women do! - and point her out!).

Simon seems very possessive and jealous, and if he carries on like this, his gf's gonna go anyway (and TBH, I hope for her sake, she does, as this has all the hallmarks of a 'Sleeping with the Enemy' scenario in the making). As for the advice from the other jealous guys on this board, it may make you feel better, Simon, to think you're not alone, and judging from earlier comments, you're only going to take notice of the posts that agree with you anyway, but if you carry on like this, you'll have a very lonely life. Put yourself in your gf's shoes for a minute, and think how you'd feel if someone was trying to control you in the way you're trying to control her.

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

whats this got to do with money saving?

mrcow

THE_LONE_RANGER wrote:

whats this got to do with money saving?

Well if they split up, it'll be a few quid saved on Christmas pressies?

greyster

THE_LONE_RANGER wrote:

whats this got to do with money saving?

Whether he should dump her b4 or after Christmas. Bearing in mind that Christmas is expensive.

THE_LONE_RANGER_4

oh got it forward planning some on this site seem to have an aversion to that