Feeling a bit low...

Sublime_2

Hi tara,

You're not alone. I split up with my ex of 15 years at the beginning of last year. It was a relief for us both. I've always loved my own company, but admit to getting lonely sometimes. Its perfectly normal.

Better to be by yourself than in a bad relationship.

tara747

I'm going to go to bed and try to sleep (I am terrible for letting stuff keep me awake).

Thanks again, it's comforting to know that I'm not 'alone' right now iykwim xo

tara747

Sublime wrote: »

Hi tara,

You're not alone. I split up with my ex of 15 years at the beginning of last year. It was a relief for us both. I've always loved my own company, but admit to getting lonely sometimes. Its perfectly normal.

Better to be by yourself than in a bad relationship.

Hi, sorry, didn't see your post till I posted mine.

How are you feeling now? Are you glad/relieved and who did the breaking up? Sorry to be nosey.

whitewing

You're not 'alone'. Have a good sleep. 'See' you in the morning, or a bit later on maybe.

prosaver

hi tara,
i was conned too , iuse to watch thats life
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IMOSN0WYvg
and the fella i think was saying all the words ................. sausages

lutzi1

My very dear Tara,

Just happened to log on and see your thread.

I call you that because, although I don't know you as a friend, I do feel I know you very well from the DTD thread (and I read virtually all of that and deserve a medal!). Consequently I know that you are bright and brave and friendly and funny, and altogether heaps of things that most of us would give our eye teeth to be.

Babe, as somebody older and so a bit further down the relationshop rollercoaster, there is only one thing worse than being alone - and that is being in the wrong relationship, which brings its own particular form of hell. Satre had a point when he said Hell is other people. Maybe you and your OH are just having a low point, which happens to the best of us from time to time. But maybe you also need to be free of this relationship if it's run its course, in order to be free for the right person when they come along? Living alone can be hard, but it's a lot less hard if you are as outgoing and sociable and generally likeable as you obviously are.

One thing me and my husband of 20 yrs have learned when things get tough, is to analyse what's really going on. Is it really a problem in your relationship, or is it just a stress that life is throwing at you, in which case you can tackle it together?

You of all people with your sharp analytical brain are well capable of working that one out. - but you don't have to do it tonight. Settle down, have a glass of something and then get a good night's sleep, things will become clearer over the next few days. Above all have faith in yourself to make the right decision, you are a very bright girl!

Sleep well, sweetie! :A

x

Sublime_2

tara747 wrote: »

Hi, sorry, didn't see your post till I posted mine.

How are you feeling now? Are you glad/relieved and who did the breaking up? Sorry to be nosey.

We both had the same idea. We hadn't been happy for a while.

tara747

lutzi1 wrote: »

My very dear Tara,

Just happened to log on and see your thread.

I call you that because, although I don't know you as a friend, I do feel I know you very well from the DTD thread (and I read virtually all of that and deserve a medal!). Consequently I know that you are bright and brave and friendly and funny, and altogether heaps of things that most of us would give our eye teeth to be.

Babe, as somebody older and so a bit further down the relationshop rollercoaster, there is only one thing worse than being alone - and that is being in the wrong relationship, which brings its own particular form of hell. Satre had a point when he said Hell is other people. Maybe you and your OH are just having a low point, which happens to the best of us from time to time. But maybe you also need to be free of this relationship if it's run its course, in order to be free for the right person when they come along? Living alone can be hard, but it's a lot less hard if you are as outgoing and sociable and generally likeable as you obviously are.

One thing me and my husband of 20 yrs have learned when things get tough, is to analyse what's really going on. Is it really a problem in your relationship, or is it just a stress that life is throwing at you, in which case you can tackle it together?

You of all people with your sharp analytical brain are well capable of working that one out. - but you don't have to do it tonight. Settle down, have a glass of something and then get a good night's sleep, things will become clearer over the next few days. Above all have faith in yourself to make the right decision, you are a very bright girl!

Sleep well, sweetie! :A

x

That has brought a tear to my eye. Bless you - how kind of you to say those things. :A I will take it all on board, I promise.

My head is filled with thoughts but I am going to try hard to quieten them and get some sleep. I'll come back tomorrow. Night night xoxo

tara747

Sublime wrote: »

We both had the same idea. We hadn't been happy for a while.

I bet it was still really hard though, after all that time. Did it take you a while to decide to break up?

belfastgirl23

Just popping in to see how you feel this morning - even I was awake for a while last night, that wind was crazy.

And to ask, do you think your feelings for someone else are a cause or a symptom of what's going on with your BF? Are those feelings causing you to be dissatisfied or are you sort of indulging them to keep the pain at bay.

Lutz makes about a million good points above as well

Hope things are a little brighter this morning...