Ear piercing for boys - For or against?

pigpen

absolutely not!!!!!!! they look ridiculous & hideous.. and I am not 40 .. It has nothing to do with future jobs or sexuality.. I loathe tattoos as well..

Mine are told.. all of them.. as they cannot wear any jewellery for school they have to wait until they leave after their GCSE's ... I took DD1 the weekend after her last exam.. as a surprise..

King_Nothing

I would just let him get it done, I've got two lip piercings and an industrial. And the people calling it chavy, that's not what is chavy, chavy and scummy, is a baby/toddler in a pram with pierced ears, makes my !!!! boil when I see that.

cottyh24

If you let your daughter get her ears pierced you should let your son get his done. You are discriminating against him because you don't like boys with pierced ears and that's not fair. Would you tell your daughter she couldn't play football because she's female? It's not as if a piercing is permanent like a tattoo - if the earring is taken out and left out the hole will close over.

mishkanorman

my husband has his ear pierced, he wears a simple silver hoop and a stud canary (both in one ear), its pretty subtle and as he has hair down to his waist most people are too busy staring at that to notice !!

he is far far from chavy, and as someone mentioned earlier he is a 'rocker' so thats the look that he prefers.

OP have you asked your son WHY he wants one ? Perhaps if you talked to him about it you could understand where he is coming from, is it an appearance thing/keeping up with his mates or does he just want to find some way to express himself ?

lauren_1

King_Nothing wrote: »

I would just let him get it done, I've got two lip piercings and an industrial. And the people calling it chavy, that's not what is chavy, chavy and scummy, is a baby/toddler in a pram with pierced ears, makes my !!!! boil when I see that.

I cant stand that! My dd got her ears done at 8 but her school took them out for p.e and lost the studs so they grew over, she isnt bothered about them, its my 4year old son who wants his nose pierced thats the problem - he isnt getting it done, ever hopefully.

Fuzzy_Duck

mishkanorman wrote: »

my husband has his ear pierced, he wears a simple silver hoop and a stud canary (both in one ear), its pretty subtle and as he has hair down to his waist most people are too busy staring at that to notice !!

he is far far from chavy, and as someone mentioned earlier he is a 'rocker' so thats the look that he prefers.

OP have you asked your son WHY he wants one ? Perhaps if you talked to him about it you could understand where he is coming from, is it an appearance thing/keeping up with his mates or does he just want to find some way to express himself ?

Totally agree with this. I personally hate sparkly studs on boys/men as I think it's a very chavvy look, but I don't mind other types of earrings. My boyfriend used to have a thick ball ring in one ear, which went really well with the rest of his appearance. He's a bit more conservative looking now, so has a less noticable small metal plug. Neither look like typical female jewellery.

Still, in this case he's 12 and old enough to decide for himself, so as long as he will look after it and keep it clean I don't see the problem. He may well get bored of it eventually, and if that's the case it's easily removed and healed.

Rev

I'm actually quite shocked by how many people are judging a book by the cover here. Earrings are chavvy, kids with them come from rough/poor families etc, I assumed you've checked the financial status and criminal records of EVERY boy and girl you've seen to come to this judgement? It's fine for boys and not girls etc.

Wow. Really, just wow.

For reference, I'm 32, wanted my ears pierced when I was 12-13, my mum said not till I was 16. Once I hit 16 I didn't want them because the world and his uncle had them, never did get them done. Got my tongue done when I was about 20. All my friends had their ears done early, I'm still friends with the majority of them. None are chavs, poor or criminals.

JC9297

To those who say people shouldn't be judgemental - everybody makes judgements about people based on first impressions, they can often turn out to be wrong but a lot of the time they are right.

I think many people wouldn't want their son to have a pierced ear because a lot of the assumptions people make will be about his background/family. Again as in many things in this country class plays a part. The boys with earrings in the school I work in are not the children of the doctors/lawyers/teachers but from 'lower class' families.

I think in teenagers upwards it probably depends on the whole image more how people judge, i.e. earring, cropped hair and sportswear =chav, but different clothing or hair can provide a different image.

balletshoes

JC9297 wrote: »

To those who say people shouldn't be judgemental - everybody makes judgements about people based on first impressions, they can often turn out to be wrong but a lot of the time they are right.

I would say its at best 50/50 that your judgement is going to be correct if you're only judging people on how they look - because what they say, how they dress, their posture, how they speak etc all count towards a first impression too. A tiny accessory in one ear is surely not what anyone is going to be solely judged on?

I am quite surprised by this thread, I honestly didn't think one ear piercing on a 12-year old would mark him apparently as a no-hoper/chav/from a poverty-stricken or troublemaking household in so many areas of the country.

Gloomendoom

balletshoes wrote: »

I am quite surprised by this thread, I honestly didn't think one ear piercing on a 12-year old would mark him apparently as a no-hoper/chav/from a poverty-stricken or troublemaking household in so many areas of the country.

I work with young people at the other end of the scale. Very few have any kind of visible body piercing.