Ear piercing for boys - For or against?

jcr16

i'm very laid back about it, as a piercing can heal over if not wanted anymore unlike tattoo.

however my boys are only 5 and 3, so at the moment no way. However my hubby has 3 holes in 1 ear although only wear one earring, and it does look nice. hubbys dad also has his ear pierced. so my boys have grown up with it being the norm.

however i want it to be my childrens choice as to weather they have it done or not. i certainly wouldn't take them to get it done when they were babies.i think i got my ears done at 12, hubby was about 13. my dd is 7 and she has said never ever ever is she havind it done. but were see i'm sure once's she's older she will.

jackieb

jcr16 wrote: »

i'm very laid back about it, as a piercing can heal over if not wanted anymore unlike tattoo.

however my boys are only 5 and 3, so at the moment no way. However my hubby has 3 holes in 1 ear although only wear one earring, and it does look nice. hubbys dad also has his ear pierced. so my boys have grown up with it being the norm.

however i want it to be my childrens choice as to weather they have it done or not. i certainly wouldn't take them to get it done when they were babies.i think i got my ears done at 12, hubby was about 13. my dd is 7 and she has said never ever ever is she havind it done. but were see i'm sure once's she's older she will.

My youngest son was only 5 when he wanted his ear pierced. It was because his brothers had them done too. I told him that it really, really hurt. It didn't put him off no matter how much I tried to dissuade him. So I took him to the jewellers to get it done. He sat on the chair and was told to stay still and just focus on some crystal that was in a display cabinet. He flinched a wee bit when the gun went off but was okay. We went into the car and as soon as we got in. all he said was, 'ow!' Then the 'ow's' got louder and louder as we drove home. I just said to him that he'd been told that it hurt and it had been his own choice to have it done. He only kept it in a couple of years. He's 18 now and has no inclination to have it done again.

My daughter is 15 and has been offered to have hers done, but she doesn't want to. I'm okay with that.

Saturnalia

What about getting him a magnetic stud? They look like ear studs but don't need a piercing. And they have the second magnetic dot worn on the back of the lobe so unless anyone looks very closely, it will look just like the back of a pierced earring.

Lotus-eater

JC9297 wrote: »

Are you seriously suggesting that people look closely at people's earlobes to spot the telltale signs of having worn an earring 20 years ago?

Yes, I'm sure an interviewer will change his/her mind immediately about the candidate with the outstanding CV when they realise he wore an earring for a couple of years as a teenager!:rotfl:

No, I'm seriously suggesting it will be noticed and presumptions made.

What if your little angel has exactly the same CV as the next bloke, what are they going to go on then? They are going to go on will he fit in, now, if it's an interview for a plumber I doubt the earring that had been there, will make a jot of difference, but if it's for a different type of job, it may.

You all think I am prejudicial, which isn't in the slightest bit true. There are alot of people out there who however are and it's these people I will make my son aware of, because most of the time, it's these people do the hiring, the buying and run the businesses of this land.

andrealm

Well, he can take it out at any time and the hole will close over and be barely noticeable. So I really can't see how it's going to affect his future employment prospects, it's not like he wants to get a tattoo on his face.:)

Seriously, what employer would be looking closely enough at his ear to notice that he'd ever had it pierced?

Lotus-eater

andrealm wrote: »

Seriously, what employer would be looking closely enough at his ear to notice that he'd ever had it pierced?

It will never be written down as a reason, because that would be illegal. But having run my own business and dealt with many others for 20 years, having known plenty of those people that actually do the hiring, having worked with high up people in very large firms (not always as an equal, I'm not bigging myself up too much here), I believe what I believe.

There is a perception that comprehensive schools are producing a number shy, work shy, load of idiots with bad attitude. And to be fair, sometimes it's true.

I can't see why anyone would want to be associated with this lot in any way.

Perception.

People with 7 year old sons with earrings can kid themselves all they like that he won't be judged sometimes for it, it won't make it true.

MrsE_2

Pixiechic wrote: »

Ear piercing on a young boy just screams out chav and poverty to me, sorry. I think it looks awful and cheap.

As ages have been mentioned, I am 29.

Odd???

Chav is a choice, poverty usually isn't.

Anyway OP I hate earings on boys. I only like earings (1 pair) on girls & no other piercings.

geri1965_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I've had many friends and been through a few different carnations,

Why, have you been to a lot of weddings?

Lotus-eater

geri1965 wrote: »

Why, have you been to a lot of weddings?

I like flowers. You don't have to go to a wedding to look a little dapper

Snuggles

I am totally amazed that some people think that a 12 year old getting a piercing is going to adversely affect his life chances. If he wants to present a professional look in future, he can simply take the earring out. And quite frankly, if an employer was inclined to discriminate against someone because they could see that the person had a tiny hole in their earlobe (I'm not sure I actually believe that anyone would think like this), then they wouldn't be the sort of employer you would want to work for anyway!