Ear piercing for boys - For or against?

shellsuit

I don't like them, I think they look tacky, so if my son wanted his done, I couldn't stop him, but I'd let him know I didn't want him to have it done.

Lotus-eater

Snuggles wrote: »

I am totally amazed that some people think that a 12 year old getting a piercing is going to adversely affect his life chances.

It could, from the Saturday job he gets, to work placements, people he meets, lots of different things. Friends he makes, the list is endless.

Or it might not.

Anyway......... you saying I am wrong, doesn't make you right and me repeating it, doesn't make me right. I think what I think and I'm leaving it there.


OP, I would tell him what people on here have said and let him make up his own mind. Give him a week to think it over, I think 12 is too young to be making these decisions, but that's what particular parents have to decide.

Kimberley82

I am no huge fan but I feel very strongly that I have to be fair on both my childrem, I have a son and a daughter so if I let one do something at a certain age I have to do the same with the other, or its being sexist which is something I am trying to teach them is wrong.

jamespir

peardrops wrote: »

My 12 year old son really wants his ear pierced. My husband doesn't have a problem with this and my daughter has said that its "cool" and everyone has had it done. She has her ears pierced.

Its me that has the problem with it! I've never liked boys/men with ears pierced and because I don't like it I'm refusing to let him have it done. My softer side is thinking I'm wrong in stopping him, just because it isn't my "cup of tea" should I be saying no?

Do any of your young sons have their ears pierced? Does it bother you? Should I just wind my neck in and go with the flow?

ive had mine done since i was thirteen it looks kinda smart so go with it

jamespir

Lotus-eater wrote: »

It could, from the Saturday job he gets, to work placements, people he meets, lots of different things. Friends he makes, the list is endless.

Or it might not.

Anyway......... you saying I am wrong, doesn't make you right and me repeating it, doesn't make me right. I think what I think and I'm leaving it there.


OP, I would tell him what people on here have said and let him make up his own mind. Give him a week to think it over, I think 12 is too young to be making these decisions, but that's what particular parents have to decide.

ive got mine pierced its never stopped me getting a job or meering others

Snuggles

Lotus-eater wrote: »

It could, from the Saturday job he gets, to work placements, people he meets, lots of different things. Friends he makes, the list is endless.

Or it might not.

Anyway......... you saying I am wrong, doesn't make you right and me repeating it, doesn't make me right. I think what I think and I'm leaving it there.

Eh? Is this directed at me? Where did I say you were wrong or I was right??? You have given your opinion and I've given mine, that's all!

Lotus-eater

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I am no huge fan but I feel very strongly that I have to be fair on both my childrem, I have a son and a daughter so if I let one do something at a certain age I have to do the same with the other, or its being sexist which is something I am trying to teach them is wrong.

Boys and girls are different. They look different, wear different things and like different things.
It's not sexist to say that, it's true.

It's also true that boys and girls are treated differently in society with regard to the wearing of earrings.

Once you remember that, it's easy to understand that, fair or not, boys and girls sometimes need treating differently.

My DD will be allowed to have her ears pierced at 12 ish, if she still wants it done. My DS will have to wait (hopefully he will anyway) till he's 16 to make the same decision. Why the difference? Because on my DD's part it's of little consequence, no one will notice, but for my DS, people will notice and he needs to be old enough to understand that.

But we are all different, I live in one part of merry old England, maybe if I lived in another part it would be different, people wouldn't notice, maybe he would look odd for not having an earring at 12. But I don't live there.

kafkathecat

Lotus eater I can't help noticing your comments don't really match your signature.
Fwiw hubby who has a Phd and is in his 50s had his ear pierced as a student. He took it out after he started work for an xray and never put it back. Maybe he would have been prime minister by now if it hadn't been for that pesky earring, we'll never know.

Lotus-eater

kafkathecat wrote: »

Lotus eater I can't help noticing your comments don't really match your signature.

I disagree, freedom is having the knowledge, as well as the freedom to act.
No one is saying you can't have it done. Of course anyone can. But I think it's fair to let people know the way they are viewed by others. In some cultures and towns it will undoubtedly be different to my view.

And people can make mistakes, but does that mean I shouldn't try to benefit my son from my experience? No, I give him the facts and he makes up his own mind.

jetta_wales

Personally I'd just say not until you're 14 which means you're off the hook for two years but don't seem like a total meanie stuck in the mud Mum for saying no outright. My girls have not shown any intrest in having their ears pierced yet though they have noticed that a few other girls have them (my two are only 5 and nearly 7) but if they at some point do I'll probably do the same, set an age a few years older and agree that they can but only when so many years old.