Ear piercing for boys - For or against?

peardrops_2

My 12 year old son really wants his ear pierced. My husband doesn't have a problem with this and my daughter has said that its "cool" and everyone has had it done. She has her ears pierced.

Its me that has the problem with it! I've never liked boys/men with ears pierced and because I don't like it I'm refusing to let him have it done. My softer side is thinking I'm wrong in stopping him, just because it isn't my "cup of tea" should I be saying no?

Do any of your young sons have their ears pierced? Does it bother you? Should I just wind my neck in and go with the flow?

ailuro2

depends on what he wants to be when he's older, if he's headed for a "profession" then it's a no-no ( I always think boys with ears pierced look like neds, sorry, only my opinion, but can't help it)

I'm 41 though, and it was a big thing when I was at school - but only the boys from the rougher end of town would have it done, probably why I think of it as neddish now.

Don't get me started on young guys who have those strething rings in their ears, I can hardly pay for my shopping without stopping to stare at their ears before they ask me to type in my pin:eek:

peardrops_2

I'm the same age as you - well I'm 40 and I always associate the piercings as "jewellery for chavs"!!! I assume chavs are the same as your neds?

Son wants to be a vet or work with animals anyway (well that's this weeks occupation anyway)!

SkintGypsy

Is it going to cause problems in school? Will he look after it/keep it clean while it heals? I personally don't like it and think it looks cheap and blingy, but I acknowledge that's how kids like to look currently, so I'm sure he'll fit in with his peers.

shell_girl

I'd let him - if he hates it he can take it out and it will close it up. No biggie.

He's at the age when he wants to have a bit more say with his identity- and it's such a small thing. Pick your battles I'd suggest.

geri1965_2

I'm 45 (not sure why age is relevant here) and I say if he wants it done, let him have it. He is old enough to make up his mind and plenty of girls have it done younger than that.

~daisy~_2

my son had a piercing when he was 10 or 11 i really liked it - hes 13 now

because he plays so many sports he was constantly losing his earrings or forgetting to put back in and even tho ive bought him a fair few hes now got bored of it and i dont think he has worn one for ages

so its not a forever thing

rachbc

I say let him - he can always take it out if he doesn't like it/ for future work etc. My son went though a stage aged about 6 of wanting it done but I didn't let him due to his age rather than his gender - poor boy resorted to sticking sequins on with blu-tac til we found some stick on jewels lol!!

balletshoes

At age 12 I'd have no problem with him having his ear pierced - its no different, in my opinion, to girls having their ears pierced.

If he no longer wants to wear earrings in future, his ear will close up and it will look like he never had them done. My nephew had ear, nose and eyebrow pierced in his teens, he doesn't wear rings in any of his piercings anymore, hasn't for a couple of years (he's a restaurant manager).

peardrops_2

SkintGypsy wrote: »

Is it going to cause problems in school? Will he look after it/keep it clean while it heals? I personally don't like it and think it looks cheap and blingy, but I acknowledge that's how kids like to look currently, so I'm sure he'll fit in with his peers.

School will be fine with it as long as it is a stud earring. He will look after it, he's a very sensible kid. I don't like it either I think it looks horrible but I don't want to "punish" him for me being a prudish old sow!!!

ailuro2

peardrops wrote: »

Son wants to be a vet or work with animals anyway (well that's this weeks occupation anyway)!

Depends on whether he wants to much out the kennels or be earning the big bucks. I'm 41 and wouldn't like to part with the vet's hourly rate to a scruffy chav with an earring.:rotfl: There's definitely an element of perceived worth when paying someone for their services when they earn more than the average salary.:)