Really worried - told lies & now they're getting social services involved

geri1965_2

Bettybigboobs wrote: »

Is it wrong to have a little smile appear on my face? I know if this is genuine (which i doubt) then i would go to your GP and demand to be sectioned straight away!

You don't get sectioned for telling lies on the internet. If you did, psychiatric wards would be bursting at the seams!

Wonder_Womble

andreamoss wrote: »

I have got help - if you read the thread you will see that I am on meds & was ill at the time.

Why were you not taking your meds, was this agreed with and supervised by a health professional?

Also it wasn't all lies, it was, for most of the time, exaggerating.

To me exaggerating the truth is lying, it isn't true therefore it is a lie.

If I said I had won £100 on the lottery when I had only won £10, it would be a LIE. Whichever way you want to dress it up it is a lie, and as you said in the title of your thread 'told lies ...'

If you don't know about mental illness (and you clearly don't)

Just because I don't sympathise with you does not mean that I do not know about or have experience of mental illness. My sympathy lies with your DH and children who you are putting at risk. And with the people you have lied to who have possibly spent many hours of their own lives worrying about you and your children.

you will know how easy it is, when either very low, or very high, to become paranoid, and to really believe some things, that when you're well again you regret & realise was stupid - perhaps I should have said delusions as opposed to lies, because in a way, I truly did believe the things I wrote, and the replies I got would fuel my paranoia even more.

Even more reason for you to stay away from internet forums. You have realised and acknowledged that people who do not know you, do not know your real situation and only know aspects of your life that you have chosen to tell them which have been 'exaggerated' have been advising you, and yet you still choose to come on an internet forum and seek further advice/giudance/support from people who you do not know and who themselves may have mental health issues.

The situation is far more complex that just what I have written, it isn't simply a case of *lying*, if it was I wouldn't be worried, as I could easily get out of it. The problem is that some stuff is true, and as I got more delusional it got out of hand.

As I've said before, anything that is said which is not true is a lie.

I never gave my address, or my real name, but I did make a friend through it, and they have obviously read my private messages, as they found me via my facebook.

Because obviously the people you told lies to were concerned enough to speak to each other without your knowledge, because they genuinely believed that you and your children were at risk.

Another really worrying thing is I confessed to being raped when my eldest child was younger (she's not hubby's). It was an attack by a friend, and they were imprisoned for it. They have used this as evidence that I cannot identify dangers & failed to keep her safe - she was in bed, and I've struggled to overcome the rape for years, so I think it is really low that they are using that against me

Do you think there is a possibility that you are now paranoid about the people who may be genuinely trying to help you and could be now exaggerating some of the things they have said?

I think this thread should highlight to everyone who uses internet forums to seek advice on personal matters that not everyone who posts is telling the truth, and any advice/guidance/support you are given should be taken with a pinch of salt rather than blindly believing what everyone says. Cynical I maybe, but not everyone has your best interest at heart and some people thrive on misleading others, whether that be for their own personal gain to make themselves feel better, or to do harm to others.

flutterby_lil

If you are really called Andrea, change your user name!!

kaya

"I think this thread should highlight to everyone who uses internet forums to seek advice on personal matters that not everyone who posts is telling the truth, and any advice/guidance/support you are given should be taken with a pinch of salt rather than blindly believing what everyone says. Cynical I maybe, but not everyone has your best interest at heart and some people thrive on misleading others, whether that be for their own personal gain to make themselves feel better, or to do harm to others."



wow, thats the most sensible thing i have heard on this forum for a few years, for every correct answer to a problem there seem to be ten incorrect and misleading ones on here, i wish people who "think" they know what they are talking about would state that they are clueless instead of trying to feed their own ego and mislead others , i find the best clue is to look at the time they have been a member for and divide it by the amount of posts, there are people on here who have averaged about 50 posts a day, every day, for a few years, they seem to have an opinion on everything and no idea about anything !

scooby088

One piece of advice i can give the OP is stay off internet forums as they will be your downfall and from what i have read i can only say you need this as a kick up the @rse, If the OP is for real then isn't she doing what has been done on the other forum? The human brain does take time to learn from the mistakes it has made and is making, i think history is repeating itself here.

lauren_1

Your fatal flaw was to give out information that could identify you.

Sorry but I have no sympathy for you, only for your husband and children,

Wonder_Womble

kaya wrote: »

"I think this thread should highlight to everyone who uses internet forums to seek advice on personal matters that not everyone who posts is telling the truth, and any advice/guidance/support you are given should be taken with a pinch of salt rather than blindly believing what everyone says. Cynical I maybe, but not everyone has your best interest at heart and some people thrive on misleading others, whether that be for their own personal gain to make themselves feel better, or to do harm to others."



wow, thats the most sensible thing i have heard on this forum for a few years, for every correct answer to a problem there seem to be ten incorrect and misleading ones on here, i wish people who "think" they know what they are talking about would state that they are clueless instead of trying to feed their own ego and mislead others , i find the best clue is to look at the time they have been a member for and divide it by the amount of posts, there are people on here who have averaged about 50 posts a day, every day, for a few years, they seem to have an opinion on everything and no idea about anything !

Exactly and I think that is particularly important in the marriage and families board. Please check and verify the advice that you are being given by complete strangers before acting on it. At the end of the day it is just Joe Bloggs opinion, you wouldn't follow the advice of a complete stranger on the street ..... well I know I wouldn't!

relic

I beg of you to stop using the internet.

Whatever problems you already have, they are obviously exaggerated by using the internet, and you are using it as a new form of expression.

Social services will probably turn up, and determine for themselves whether you are fit to look after the children.

Errata

As always, we only read the OP's side of the story, and as always there are three sides: their side, the other side, and the truth.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Surely if you were actually ill and not just here revelling in the additional attention you are getting from MSE, you wouldn't fanny around with 'lies' and 'unwell' and just say

'I have Bipolar and I stopped taking my Lithium/Sodium Valproate/Olanzapine and went into a manic phase. My lack of insight over this meant that I looked for the answers I wanted from my CPN and Psych and interpreted my husband's concerns as his abusing me. I wanted this validated as it would justify and confirm my psychosis, so posted on an internet forum where people tried to help. I am now medicated again and realising the enormity of what I did. But I am still seeking the external voice to reassure me that what I did wasn't so bad.'

Meh.