Really worried - told lies & now they're getting social services involved

BillTrac

Sorry, but I think this must be a troll wind-up.

Why would someone who has supposedly been posting on another forum join here to worry about it? If I was worried the last thing i would do is bring it to the attention of yet another forum.

And sorry, but how would the other forum know that all the posters details had been passed around?

Running_Horse

Tell the forum you enjoy creative writing and telling fibs for fun, and that they can mind their own bloody business.

andreamoss

I meant that I'm so worried sick, that I was finding it hard to concentrate.

I do have problems, I see a psychiatrist & CPN. They are not concerned about my children, as they've seen how well looked after they are. They know about my lies on the internet - I've confessed, and my husband has told them.

I was off of medication when I wrote on the forums, I've been on medication since. There was no more problems, as when I felt better, I told them that I'd left hubby, and they were happy (I tried telling them I'd lied, but they said all abused women say that to cover up).

I then made the mistake, in replying to someone else, to mentioning hubby, and they jumped - saying that I'm still with my "abusive husband, with no boundaries, and not able to protect my children".

leos-mummy

Just stay calm

pigpen

I shall pretend to myself I do not think you are a troll...

So.. YOU old lies about the people you are supposed to love most in the world.. and now you have other people worried about you?!

You should be thankful that there are people you may never even meet who are concerned enough about you and your children to bother taking the time to try to help you.

I also think you should be very ashamed for saying such horrible things about your husband.. Does HE know these people are reporting you to SS? That will take some explaining!

if you DID lie to these people then hopefully you will be spurred into seeking help for your problems and if you didn't and it is true then hopefully you will get help for your problems and SS will sort out your family.

You either have a very serious mental health issue or you deserve every bit of crap that is coming your way.. I'm not sure whether to feel sorry for you or just point and laugh.. you reap what you sow.. and you have just sown a whole heap of trouble for your family.

I hope to God you are just some crackpot here to cause a stir! (in which case I still feel you need help!).. whichever way it is.. I wish you well and hope you can access whatever relevant help you require..

(X-posted with post #14.. and think maybe the medical team should be concerned about the wefare of the children!)

andreamoss

My husband is aware, he knew before. I've already explained that I have a mental health problem, I don't lie in real life, somehow I got swept away with it.

My husband is understanding, as I said he did tell my psychiatrist - I also said that I was off meds at the time, and wasn't in control of that aspect. I see my HV regularly and even at that time, they weren't concerned.

Im not sure why you want crap to head my way, what I did is unforgivable, but is it fair that my family suffer for it - that potentially my children will? It's my repsonsibility, and I'm glad that you've never had a problem where you find it hard to to tell reality from the truth, and even begin to believe your lies.

shy-but-need-help

A big "Amen" to what Pigpen said.

I think at the very least you need to warn your DH in advance- if SS is contacted they will investigate and it will most likely be him they will look closest at because of what you've said about him. Keeping a good house (as suggested earlier in the thread) is not going to make them think you're not abused and he's not a drug user... in fact I know my MIL kept an absolutely perfect house in her second marriage because he husband was an abusive, highly violent alcoholic. MIL was too afraid not to look perfect 24/7 and have the house and children looking the picture of domestic bliss.

I would definitely tell them everything you've told us, get your psych-team to back you up on the fact you have issues, not only for SS coming around but for explaining to your DH. (I have mental illness too- Bipolar- and my husband is THE most supportive, loving, understanding man on the planet but I think even HE would struggle to deal if I did something like that)

Greener_Grass

Is it just me or does anybody else smell a rat given the context of this thread plus the fact the OP has signed up with what looks like her real full name?...

andreamoss

pigpen wrote: »

I also think you should be very ashamed for saying such horrible things about your husband..

Of course I'm ashamed. I was angry with him at the time, I really believed (in my paranoid head) that he was having an affair, truly believed it. I looked for evidence, and (what flimsy evidence I could find), I would post, then when people seemed to confirm my suspicions, it would spur me on. I became convinced that these people knew more than me.

I'm well aware that you "reap what you sow", and to that end, I did stop posting. I then made the mistake of responding to another post.

I have got myself caught up, and I am scared, my husband is stressed, and I can't imagine how I will prove that what i said is untrue, why would they believe me, they can print out my lies, and give them to a judge, and my husband & I will never see our kids again

leos-mummy

Greener_Grass wrote: »

Is it just me or does anybody else smell a rat given the context of this thread plus the fact the OP has signed up with what looks like her real full name?...

the more i read the more fishy the whole thing appears. unless she plans to present it to ss as evidence of her remorse? i dunno