Do i go to my school reunion or do i leave the past behind.

Bestthingsinlifearefree

I guess all this comes down to how cruel children can be to children and 'peer pressure'

I have a wonderful 4 year old lad starting school in september and I say a small prayer that he turns out to be neither the bully or the bullied.

maybe schools need to focus on their ethos / becoming more supportive / inclusive / finding strategies to combat bullying etc

Part of it is the rough and tumble of growing up and the immaturity of children but often it seems to go beyond that and parents / teachers need to be alert / intervene where need be and find positive solutions.

children should look forward to going to school and not dread it. surely that is not to much to ask or achieve?

Torry_Quine

i don't know if my school has had any reunions and I wouldn't go if they did although I doubt anyone would bother finding me to tell me. I couldn't tell you the names of my fellow pupils and they no doubt wouldn't know me. I worked hard and enjoyed the work except PE which I really disliked. However I had no friends and spent break-time alone. it's a part of my past which I have no desire to revisit.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

"They picked on me because i wasnt allowed to shave my legs. My mum is Italian and Catholic and thought it might lead to teenage pregnancy."

I think this could be the funniest line i've ever read on this site. It just made me chuckle. Anyway my advice to pretty much everything in life is that alcohol helps.

themull1

I can't think of anything worse, i would leave the past behind!

luxor4t

School was compulsory, friendship wasn't. Wild horses wouldn't drag me to a school reunion.

"Ships that pass in the night, and speak each other in passing;
: Only a signal shown and a distant voice in the darkness;
: So on the ocean of life we pass and speak one another,
: Only a look and a voice; then darkness again and a silence."

skylight

Hermia wrote: »

Perhaps because it is a primary school reunion? I suspect that a lot of the people who are recounting these scenarios are talking about secondary school. My secondary school was a dog-eat-dog London comprehensive girl's school. I don't think many kids were happy.

I agree about the Primary bit - I would certainly go to a Primary reunion.

dramaqueen1973

Heyyyy

Im not sure either whether I would go to mine, to be honest I look at facebook profiles and laugh myself silly at the pics of the so called "Popular" girls that I went to school with!!!!! As for the heart throbs well even worse!!!

I can sit back back and think I dont need them, never needed them, so why the hell would I want to spend a "forced" night out with them! Saddddooossss!!!

Drama xxxx

Pee

You could be me, except I'd have left fifth form in 1990 - stayed on to sixth form, and that was better. People from sixth form I guess I would like to see, as some were nice to me but in a kind of pitying way. My mum wasn't catholic, but very old fashioned values. I still think I can be shy, but nothing compared to what I was like then and I do feel proud of how far I've come and to be honest although I'm not the beautiful supermodel, I'd quite like them to see that... especially the bullies, but of course they won't be there. That was their big moment in life, threatening a scared to death fat girl with a hockey stick and ripping up my homework... What a high point to your life! If you don't want to go, do you have the option of being away on a "preplanned" trip to Paris, Barcelona, Venice etc?

dark_lady

New York. The Italian side of the family live there now and run their own businesses.

make_me_wise

I left school in '89 too. Never looked back, had the kind of miserable existence there as you had at yours by the sounds of it.

School reunions are normally full of smug git types that want to go and show off about what a success they are. Usually whilst overlooking the fact that they are still just a tad shallow.

Im guessing you haven't seen any of them for 20+ years. Probably with very good reason. My advice is keep it that way and go and do something less boring instead. Yep a phrase shamelessly knicked from the 80s but rather apt.