Do i go to my school reunion or do i leave the past behind.

Tropez

I would never bother myself. As someone said above, I've kept in touch with the people from school who I wanted to keep in touch with and I'm not bothered about the rest. I don't hate anyone or anything but life goes on and people move on. I don't really have anything to say to someone I've not spoken to in years.

Running_Horse

I recently felt the urge to contact everyone who was an important memory from my school days, and with one exception it was a complete waste of time, and more than a little depressing. Do you really want to spend an evening talking like one of those profiles on Friends Reunited (that website has really declined)? I so envy children today who will leave school with 100 Facebook friends, and keep the important ones with them through life.

ciderwithrosie_2

I've got one coming up in August, 30 years since leaving school for me. It all came about through Facebook. I'm quite looking forward to it but it's all tied up with a weekend to my home town (I don't visit very often) and a friend's wedding there as well.

I hated school and was bullied at times but also have some great memories and friends from that time too. I'm quite chuffed that I still look young for my age (although not slim anymore) whereas some haven't aged well at all.

ailuro2

I went to one years ago, the girls who looked down on the others were now pretty much an older version of themselves, the blokes who had been the class heartthrobs were losing their hair, but because I'd gone with a bunch of old friends it did turn out to be a good night. I'd never turn up to one on my own though, not that brave!

globetraveller

Your first post says it all. If you are worrying about it already, don't go. It will be in the back of your mind for the next couple of months. A reunion is meant to be something you enjoy and look forward to.
At the end of the day, its not worth all the grief.

Spendless

I have been to a couple and enjoyed them. The 1st big one, was after we'd been left school 15 years and was in the days before Friends Re-united and facebook! But I have happy memories of the social side of schoool life and am still in touch/friends with several people from this time.

If you have a support network of old friends going with you and would like the night out and a catch up, go for it. If you are really stressed and it's bringing up bad memories then I wouldn't bother.

joanne0620

I didn't go to mine, I left school the same year as the OP (1989) and have very mixed memories of school.

I was bullied mercilessly at school because of my very thick, very curly hair (my nickname was Doris as apparently I looked like Doris from Fame!)

Anyway, I was invited through a friend on FB to the reunion but just sent a message back to the organiser (who was actually the one who christened me Doris!) explaining that as she and her cronies had made my life such a misery while I was at school, did she really think I would like to spend an evening with them now? And left it at that.

I never heard from her again, am I bothered?? No!

GobbledyGook

I went to one a while back, but I'm not sure that it was the best idea to go. I was bullied relentlessly at secondary school because of my parents (drug addict, alcoholics who didn't give us any money and our house stank so my brother and I were smelly) and I knew that one of the women organising it had invited me as "the giggle". So I went. I'm slimmer than I was at school (comfort eating got me through school and we lived on processed junk food), was happily married to a man they thought was dating me for a laugh at school, had 2 beautiful children, a beautiful home, nice holidays and a nice car etc. It was amusing seeing the shallow women who'd invited me to laugh at falling over themselves to be nice to me. Even trying to set up playdates (at my house!) between their children and mine and claiming they were only mean because they were afraid of the lead bully. In one case the woman claimed to have been my friend all along and appears to have no recollection of calling me Stinky Surname or Germy Gemma whatsoever.

But as amusing as it was it still stirred all the old feelings up. I ended up sobbing in my bed that night just as I'd done all that time ago wondering why they couldn't see past my clothes and lack of money. The old insecurities came flooding back and I had to deal with them all over again.

If you are this worried then don't go. I think if you had a bad time at school you have to be completely ok with it now for those events to be a good thing.

Bloomin_Freezing2

I too am still friends with the school pals I care about, the others mean nothing to me. I can see on facebook that the gang of girls who thought they were 'popular' still hang about together and still consider themselves the best thing since sliced bread. I never have taken to anyone who fancies themselves. Most of the guys from school are now fat and balding (lol). A reunion was mentioned last year, organised by a 'popular' girl and was invitation only! So would've been a party for her to be centre of attention. I declined the invitation.

If I were you i'd do something with the close friends you have from school. Go out for a meal and drink maybe, forget those who made your school days upsetting. x

Reunions these days tend to be somewhere people show off about how great they and their lives are, not the fun get together they should be. I'd be bored stiff.

hermoine_2

I too would not go to the reunion. What use would it serve? I was not exactly bullied at secondary school - I was at primary - kept my head down at secondary - but no one was nice to me either. I was always last to be picked at games - why don't the teachers let the ones who are picked last do the picking, it is always the same, surely they could work it out or do they enjoy the humiliation of another human being? I do sometimes wonder what happened to those people. One girl in particular who used to look down on me. I was slightly overweight and my parents did not have a lot of money but I looked ok. I have no idea why they did not include me and said sarcastic things about me. I have never bothered trying to find them and no one has tried to contact me. They probably do not remember me.

H