Do i go to my school reunion or do i leave the past behind.

pimento

Hermia wrote: »

Perhaps because it is a primary school reunion? I suspect that a lot of the people who are recounting these scenarios are talking about secondary school. My secondary school was a dog-eat-dog London comprehensive girl's school. I don't think many kids were happy.

Yes, perhaps.

I know that a lot of my contemporaries from my 'posh' all girls central London grammar secondary school hated every minute and have no wish to ever go back. It was cat-eat-cat there. Miaow!

dark_lady

Wow wow wow and several times wow what a lot of lovely helpful posts.
Hermoine you made an extremely excellent point about the PE thing. I think being sadistic must have been a prerequisite for a 1980s PE teacher. Letting us pick the teams would have helped and if it wasnt sadism on the teachers part then it must have been a lack of common sense.
Cider with Rosie i know what you mean,i am 38 soon but new people i meet tend to think i am still in my twenties. Ive never sunbathed because i cant stand the heat. I did used to smoke but i only did that for five years.
Another poster said they were out of school at 16 and went to their local college. SNAP i did the same. I remember my religious ed teacher asking me if i was staying on for sixth form and feeling brave i laughed and said "What do you think".
I have made my decision I am NOT going. So i wont be blowing any money on a new outfit. Therefore instead i am going to spend the money on a really nice bouquet of flowers for my schoolfriends grave.
What do i tell the others. Someone has linked me to the facebook group for this reunion so what reason do i give for not going bearing in mind i dont want to upset those few who are my friends?

pigpen

Don't give a reason.. it is none of their business.. or you could say you were so pleased to leave such a horrid bunch behind 22 years ago you'd rather poke yourself in the eye with cocktail sticks than inflict them on yourself now!

I wouldn't go if my life depended on it!

90's pe teachers were no better and the ones my children deal with now are just the same!

shy-but-need-help

I agree with Pigpen, I wouldn't announce anything about why you're not going in advance- if people ask why you weren't there then tell them that the people who you wanted to catch up with were few and far between so you didn't bother, or just simply say "I had something else on" or "I didn't feel like it" - no need to justify yourself to anyone with intricate, open reasonings. You can guarantee you won't be the only person feeling like you do about the reunion and you most likely won't be the only person not attending either.

System

I have to say if i had the chance i wouldn't go to mine. School holds a lot of painful memories and i'm not still in touch with anyone i went to school with. So part of me thinks let the past stay in the past.

But on the other hand maybe it could provide some kind of closure?

If you have friends who you haven't seen in years then maybe arrange something seperatly to spare you having to see those who made life miserable

dark_lady

Thats probably what i might do. I might arrange to have lunch or a coffee or even an evening out with a handful of my old schoolfriends rather than going to the full blown reunion.

mutter

Hermia wrote: »

..............She is now a beautiful woman with a successful career as an entertainment agent, has a handsome actor husband and has even been thanked in BAFTA acceptance speeches. She didn't want to go to the reunion, but felt that it would provide some closure if she did. So, she put on her loveliest designer frock, had her hair and make-up professionally done and totally worked that room. She said the nice girls from school were really pleased for her and the bullies stood there looking like they were sucking lemons!

If you're not beautiful, married to a handsome actor or able to afford a professional makeover and a designer frock, this might not work for you!

puddy

I havent read all the posts but personally I couldnt think of anything worse, all this friends reunited and school reunion stuff is just faux nostalgia, rose coloured glasses. I hated school, so wouldnt enjoy anything like that. I would say, move on.

DianneB

Don't go! If you wanted to know these people you would have kept in touch, why put yourself through it?

flora48

If I were you I wouldn't bother. Be with your friends and family of today. I think your hubby is right. In my experience people don't change that much, just as a leopard never changes its spots.