Used to be the life of the party but now can't be bothered with people at all really.

Primarni

What's wrong with me?

I'm just not interested in people any more.

I'm fine connecting with people on a really superficial level such as having a joke with a delivery bloke or something, but when anybody tries to actually make friends with me or invite me anywhere I run a mile!

I'm not that interested in going out any more even. It just seems like such a waste of money and energy. Whereas being with people used to energize me, now it drains me and I feel exhausted and grumpy just thinking about it.

I just don't feel as if I have the will to make an effort with people any more. I'm not even going on Facebook because even that amount of effort is too much for me and I just can't be bothered. Plus as soon as I pop up on FB people will start inviting me to stuff.

My phone is broken and I have just put it in a drawer. That way people can't bliddy text me all the flippin' time.

On here I post about 2% of the time and read about 98%. I don't even log in unless I'm braving DT or The Arms.

I need to get a new job. I've gone as far as I can here, but what's putting me off looking is the thought of having to get to know everybody in my new place!

Has anybody else had this?

Alikay

I'm no expert, but you sound depressed.

GlynD

Primarni wrote: »

What's wrong with me?

I'm just not interested in people any more.

I'm fine connecting with people on a really superficial level such as having a joke with a delivery bloke or something, but when anybody tries to actually make friends with me or invite me anywhere I run a mile!

I'm not that interested in going out any more even. It just seems like such a waste of money and energy. Whereas being with people used to energize me, now it drains me and I feel exhausted and grumpy just thinking about it.

I just don't feel as if I have the will to make an effort with people any more. I'm not even going on Facebook because even that amount of effort is too much for me and I just can't be bothered. Plus as soon as I pop up on FB people will start inviting me to stuff.

My phone is broken and I have just put it in a drawer. That way people can't bliddy text me all the flippin' time.

On here I post about 2% of the time and read about 98%. I don't even log in unless I'm braving DT or The Arms.

I need to get a new job. I've gone as far as I can here, but what's putting me off looking is the thought of having to get to know everybody in my new place!

Has anybody else had this?

Been there, got the tee-shirt. Still am to a certain extent. Quite the home bird really. I'm ok in social company but the thought of it makes me cringe.

KiKi

Perhaps you're just happier with your own company!

I'm perfectly happy with my life - I live alone, I work alone and I don't have a partner. I'm self-employed, I have my own hobbies - but I prefer to be alone, and do my hobbies alone. I do see friends sometimes, but I'm not that fussed. I could go for weeks, probably months, without seeing anyone. I also switch off my phone or FB so that I don't get drawn into conversations!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that - and don't assume that just because that's your preference that it's wrong or a problem. If it's not causing you a problem, then so what?

Only you know if it's just your preference, or if it's a symptom of being unhappy. You need to look at other aspects of your life, too - work, health, finances, family... If you're happy with how your life is, don't beat yourself up about living a certain way when you used to live another. If, on the other hand, you're not happy with it, you're feeling lethargic and you're down, then it might be something more.

HTH
KiKi

GlynD

KiKi wrote: »

Perhaps you're just happier with your own company!

I'm perfectly happy with my life - I live alone, I work alone and I don't have a partner. I'm self-employed, I have my own hobbies - but I prefer to be alone, and do my hobbies alone. I do see friends sometimes, but I'm not that fussed. I could go for weeks, probably months, without seeing anyone. I also switch off my phone or FB so that I don't get drawn into conversations!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that - and don't assume that just because that's your preference that it's wrong or a problem. If it's not causing you a problem, then so what?

Only you know if it's just your preference, or if it's a symptom of being unhappy. You need to look at other aspects of your life, too - work, health, finances, family... If you're happy with how your life is, don't beat yourself up about living a certain way when you used to live another. If, on the other hand, you're not happy with it, you're feeling lethargic and you're down, then it might be something more.

HTH
KiKi

Oh I never worry about things. I just get on with life. I realise that there will be good days and bad days and I just accept them as they come.

SailorSam

I've been reading about Social Anxiety Order lately 'cos i find myself not wanting to go out or be around loads of people, but on one-to-one i'm fine chatting away.

Primarni

SailorSam wrote: »

I've been reading about Social Anxiety Order lately 'cos i find myself not wanting to go out or be around loads of people, but on one-to-one i'm fine chatting away.

I'm better in a group than one to one I think. It's not all on me if I'm just part of the group. Although I do think my friends still expect me to be a rip roaring party girl and that's not who I am any more.

I don't *feel* depressed. I just don't feel as if I have the emotional resources or energy to deal with people all the time. They exhaust me and stress me out.

pigpen

Sounds to me like you have just grown up!!!!

I can't stand going out.. other people get on my nerves and when they are behaving stupidly I just want to slap them..

It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you it just means you have new priorities in your life that don't include behaving like a teenager!

do you enjoy your life? Are you happy?.. so what does it matter?

Primarni

pigpen wrote: »

Sounds to me like you have just grown up!!!!

I can't stand going out.. other people get on my nerves and when they are behaving stupidly I just want to slap them..

It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you it just means you have new priorities in your life that don't include behaving like a teenager!

do you enjoy your life? Are you happy?.. so what does it matter?

I think I'm happy, it's just that everybody keeps saying I've changed from how I used to be, and I know they're right.

I feel horrible when somebody's trying to be friends and I'm thinking "Oh God, I don't have the time or the energy for any more friends"

pigpen

well so long as you are happy and comfortable with your life it is noone elses business.. people do change.. they grow up and move on.

I can just about fit a friend or 2 in a month.. beyond that I stuggle.. I have 3 friends and find it incredibly difficult to find time or energy for them.. I am fine with people I want to be with on my terms.

lemontree

As you are unhappy as you are and have gone from one extreme to another, I too think you are depressed and need help.
Don't be tooproud to ask for it.!